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16.f...My good guy friend, also on my tennis team with me, started to like me over the summer. He like talked to my bff about me, to find out if I liked him? Atleast that's all she could/would tell me. We went on like 2 dates to a movie a couple months ago but I decided I wasn't that into it. So, it's been a few months and I'm successfully tried to not talk to him as much so not to lead him on or anything. But I just found out that he still likes me hardcore-his friends call me and are like "do you like jared?" UGH it's just really annoying. So, now i really just don't like him in that way and now *partly bc of his friends calling me, who by the way i have never met* well, I just don't know what to do. I thought we had moved passed that but boy was I wrong. What should I do?!
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Well even though it's gonna suck to do it, you need to call him up and tell him that you just want to be friends, and only friends. Cause if you keep avoiding him the way you are, he's just going to keep doing this adn everything because by avoiding him, your not exactly telling him you don't like him. He might think you do still. So you just need to call him and explain to him that you only like him as a friend and I'm sure since he likes you, he'll understand cause he'll figure better a friendship that nothing at all. I hope I helped.
Love,
MELii
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Why not talk to him and tell him that he should control his friends because you can't cope with their immaturity? Be straight with him, if he likes you, surely he'd do as you say if you meant it. If his friends ring you again, tell them that you'd call the cops for harrassment if they called again - that should stop them!!
Best of luck!
x Steph x
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First of all, dont avoid the guy, I know what'll happen bc it has happened to me and it gave me the dark side of my personality. Just walk up to him and tell him that you dont mind being friends as long as he dosn't do anything lovey dovey and tell him to tell his friend to quit calling you. After I have been avoided, I appreciate just being friends with the girl I admire.Hope I helped♥
--Caden--
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I understand how you feel. The best direction for you to approach would be to just call up Jared and tell him that you don't like him like the way he likes you. If you explain to him that you want ot keep the friendship that you guys share, I'm sure he'll understand. You can't just get into a relashionship to fit the needs of someone else. You have to do what is right, because the #1 thing is for you to feel comfortable. If you don't want to be in a relashionship with him, ell him directly either face to face, calling him, etc. There;s no way him, his friends or anyone else can force you to be with him. I hope eveything works out for you the way you hope and I hope I helped!
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Answer: It's perfectly fine if you want to just remain friends. Sometimes guys make a lot better friends than lovers!
It's good that you're not leading him on, but don't leave him in the dark either. Tell him, as politely as possible, that you're not interested. Say something like, "I really like you as a friend, and I don't want to risk losing that."
Things might be a little awkward after the talk, considering how much he likes you. Hopefully things will get back to what they once were, and you won't lose your friendship. Even if they don't - don't sweat it. It's always best to follow your heart.
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As mean as it seems you need to confront him. Just be like "Hey, I've tried to show you that I wasnt into you anymore than a friend. But it doesnt look like the point is getting across to you. So I want to keep you as a friend but I dont want to be anything more than that...so would you please ask your friends not to call me anymore?" and then just reassure him that you do want to be friends but you dont want anything more...
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Talk to Jared [if it's that guy's name]. Avoiding him won't really do anything, telling him that you don't like him that way is pretty much the only way he KNOWs that you dont like him. So, just talk to him and tell him that you dont like him the same way and hope you guys can just be friends [if thats what you want]. And if his friends call you and ask you, just tell them, "No I don't like him." Make sure you make it clear to him that you arent interested in him :)
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