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My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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Alrighhhhht, my friend is in love with Monica. He is a freshmen, she is a sophmore. Thhey have hooked up and whatever but it didnt mean anything...to her. But now hes all upsetbecasue she doesnt want him. Is there anyway I can make him feel better? (link)
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First off, he had nothing more than a crush on here and he took it too hard.
Don't try and make him forget about Monica. Doing so is only going to increase his thinking about her and might lead to more pain.
Just be his friend, it's the best thing you can do in the situation you're in.
Hope my words helped.
-Ryan
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My best friend ever is anorexic.. shes 5'3 and has to weigh like 105 noww, she didnt eat for like 3 dayss.. she has absolutely no ass now, and she's had this problem when she was 12, now she is almost 15... I feel as if i tell her parents, she'll get depressed. me and her are going on a cruise for spring break in 25 dayss..i dont want her to get sick, depressed. she is soo skinny. shes always complaining how cold she is, she cant sleep... shes always light headed. my mom knows she iss, butrecently shes been claiming to be eatingg.. but ive been with her and shes been lying to her mom about like eating in school. ive tried talkin to her, and i think that gettin her real help will make things worse. but idk.. she may be depressedd
any advicee? thankss (link)
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Get her help! Jeez 5'3" and 105 pounds? Get her to a doctor and get her back to eating right again. Anorexia is just a mess up for the body that never ends right. Does your friend realize what she is actually doing to herself?
Get her help, get her a doctor, and finally get her senses back. There is no need for her to be doing this to herself, but there is need for you to go to a medical professional, her parents, and yours (even though your mom knows) to get her help, whether she likes it or not.
-Ryan
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by friend is mad because i like a boy she doesnt know... she like tells me who i can and cant be friends with... she also buts in with my relationship....she has major jealousy issues. what should i do...help please
confused person (link)
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Get rid of her, that is painfully obvious.
She has no business running your life, so don't let her.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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so my one "friend" pretends to cut herself.then she makes a big deal out of it when people ask to see her arms,implying that she cuts.she doesnt.she just wants people to feel bad for her.and she tells EVERYONE.from the people i know that have cut,they dont like people to know.its just really annoying because she gets all the attention for something that isnt even true.she makes tiny little marks on her arms with like paper.and then when i say that she doesnt,she gets all mad at me and says what a horrible friend i am.im not trying to be mean,but it just bugs me.how can i get her to stop being so annoying about it.oh,and another thing,whenever we get in fights,she always goes and says that she has to go because shes gonna go cut herself.how can i get her to stop?
please i need help asap.thanks. (link)
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Ya know what.
She wants the attention, then let her have it. In fact, tell her parents and see what they will do, see if she really enjoys having all that attention when her parents come clammering down on her and send her off for therapy.
It's ridiculous. I will bet she has nothing true to be upset over. She is crying out for attention and she is getting it. However, in the end I gaurantee you she will be friendless and broken mentally. Are you being a bad friend for speaking up saying she doesn't really have any cuts to show? Absolutely not, in fact your being more of a friend by trying to stop all the attention from getting to her.
Quite frankly though, if she wants the attention, let her have it, but tell her in the end she will end up broken and friendless. And for the record, I hate people who pose themselves like that for attention. If it was me in the situation, I would have exposed her so fast....
I hope I helped, and good luck with her, it sounds like your really gonna need it.
-Ryan
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One of my bestfriends Asked the guy that i liked out. Well i was really upset about it and she told me to stop acting like a child. She knows that i really like him and have for the past month.
He ended up telling her that he wont go out with her. But shes not the type of girl to give up when she likes someone. She will pester him till the end. And i dont want to hear her talking about him constantly. And i really dont want her liking him i know sounds rude but she gets a boyfriend and wont talk to him for like 2 weeks and then decided well i dont like him anymore.
I know its not actually a question i just need some advice on what i should do. 17 f
----- She knew that i liked him because i told her like 3 weeks ago. (link)
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Mystic sandwich is absolutely right.
All if fair in love and war. I'm only reimbursing the point made.
Let him make his own mistakes and find out for himself. She did get to him first, so there really isn't anything you can do about it, you just missed a chance.
Perhaps working to be the friend he has to come with when she pesters him? Don't do anything rude though, because then you'll ruin any chance completely.
All if fair in love and war, and I hold that to be one of the most absolute sayings in my entire mind. Do what you think is right.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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well i am moving to a new school. i mean these girls are beautiful and very mature. i made 3 new friends over AIM but they seem to be real sexually active. like they grind with boys, make out, and one girl even sticks her hand down boys pants! but i have never even kissed a boy and there are parties and stuff and i dont think i know how to grind or kiss or anything. I find it kind of gross but, i want to fit in. wat do i do? (link)
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Don't compromise yourself to fit in. I know you want to fit in, but don't do what they are doing to fit in. Be yourself is the absolutely best way to fit in.
I'm saying this because I've been there before. I've tried to fit in by doing what everyone else (or my "friends" did) and it never worked. Be yourself. You even said you find it gross, so don't compromise and go down to their level!
There are other people to mingle with anyhow. Those who are popular and sexually active usually do not make good decisions and it affects their friends. I am sure your smarter than to be that influenced by them, but just in case, don't get dragged in.
Be yourself. If your yourself and not someone who everyone else thinks is "cool" because of how they act around others, then people will notice you. Usually people are true to themselves. These are the best kind of friends you could ever ask for. Looks and "maturity" (which in the case you are describing, only sounds like physical maturity) aren't everything, remember that.
Be yourself, and don't give anything less.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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Im so bored this summer! I have no friends..It sucks. I do during the school year but when summer comes no one calls me to hang out :( what do i do (link)
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Well, you have a computer with the internet.
You now have billions of things to do. Find some games online to play. Or if you would rather be active, go outside and just enjoy it yourself.
Go out and make new friends, because it sounds like the friends you have...aren't good friends at all because they will be friends with you during the school year, but yet won't talk to you in the summer.
Just my 2 cents. There are literally hundreds of things to do outside and billions of things to do on the Net. Pick something that you want to do and go with it.
I hope I helped, and have a good summer.
-Ryan
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I would like to know what you would do in my situation:
My friend M (17) has always been considered straightedge. Well the other day she comes out and says "I WANT TO DRINK. I FEEL THAT I AM MISSING OUT ON MY LIFE." Now she never told me this. I had to find out through the grapevine. Well then monday night she and my boyfriend B (19) and our other friend T (18) decided to get drunk at my boyfriend's house. Now I got really upset about it. I haven't talked to M about it yet, but I know what she will say "Your time will come when you are out of high school with your liscense and you can do this stuff." I really want to know if I am right in feeling mad at her about it all. As I said she always was like "I am never drinking." Then she came out of the blue with all of this.
Thank you. (link)
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I never understood why teenagers would want to go out drinking because they "want" to.
Then again..I never understood while adults did either. It's something beyond me I suppose. Or maybe I don't see the point in it.
I would be mad to find out if one of my friends was drinking because they were "missing out on life". Your friend is 17 and most likely has several decades of "life" left to live. Being 17 means you havn't lived life, you've lived through birth.
There is always a time for everything, and teenagers are not missing out on adult things such as drinking, sex, and drugs by doing them at younger ages. If they seriously want to do them, then they can wait and see where "life" takes them. I'm not supporting any of it, I'm just saying that it is stupid for teenagers to think living life is drinking and the like. It is so much more and to truly expierence it, you have to be older.
Bring this up with your friend and make her seriously think about it. Ask her why she wants to drink, and tell her "missing out on her life" isn't a reason. Because I will bet she can't give a good reason to drink. You need to make your friend (and even your boyfriend and T) realize there really is no point to it. What does it leave them with?
A hangover and some mad friends.
Make them all realize this. Your justified in your anger, now act on it and make your friend realize what happened. Also bring up her saying she never wanted to drink to. Make her think about it all and talk to her.
I hope I helped, and good luck. Hopefully something will change.
-Ryan
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I have a friend..well she might be. She is from Taiwan and she has lived in the U.S. for 2-3 years already. What bugs me is this: she doesn't know very much English. And this BUGS me! She'll say something like, "He don't like fish" or something and I'm like DOESN'T! Anyways, that's not all. When we go to the movies or wherever, and she's paying for both of us, she won't talk to the people giving out tickets. She'll make me order them because "she's scared". Scared of being made fun of for her English. And she makes me go with her when she has to talk to a teacher. And we were at a party and we were playing a game where you describe something until someone guesses it. Well she got all quiet and she said that she was about to cry because she doesn't know much English.
Also when she eats she lowers her head to her plate instead of lifting her fork to her mouth. Just everything she does bugs me! I've told her and she started writing me all these notes saying "Are you mad at me? -Your best friend".
She doesnt even try to learn English, she and her family only speak Chinese in their house.
What do I do? (link)
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You do realize English is probably the hardest language to learn, right?
You may not think so, since you are probably English speaking from birth. But to others, the language is extremely complex with many vocabulary rules and words. A good chunk of english, is basically words from other languages.
Cut her some slack. I'm sure she TRIES to learn English. But I wouldn't expect her to be that great at it after only a couple of years.
Just be patient with her. And learn to take her for who she is. People who act annoying on purpose bug me, so does that mean I will avoid them? No because I have to deal with them every day.
Be patient with her.
I hope I helped. And tell her good luck on her English. www.wikipedia.org (in the dictionary section) is a good source for words in english, and it is also in chinese for her if she needs it.
-Ryan
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so like me kayla brandon and kyle just got back from the movies.okay so me n kyle arent going out but we sorta have a 'thing' i guess for eachother. okay so i was sitting next to kyle.. and i bend down to get my sweatshirt from the floor and he like he put his hand on my booty and like i sora jumped up and like he like pulled me toward him so i was leaning on his shoulder... and his hand was on my ass for the longest time so like i pulled his hand off and like onto my lap and just like held his hand ad he like had a BONAR
i was like ohhh shitttt. l.ol and then he kept like kissing me on the forehead and stuff like tht and just cute little ones on the cheeks and like then at the end he kissed me on the lips... like he tried to get some tongue-idge but i just kinda pushed away but then like i.dk. thts the problem we arent going out i cant just go around kkisssing random people lmfao bc like tay just broke up with him like 2 days ago dude thats not right like yeah hes a sweet guy and all... and tonight was fun.. just like idk hes not the cutest thing on earth... and zits are a major turn off lo.l
what should i do? i need your help!
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My goodness. I feel like I lost a few IQ points after reading that jumbled mess of "words". If you can call them that.....
What you should do is so painfully obvious. You've already said you shouldn't do anything with him because your friend just broke up with him and I guess he isn't cute enough for you. So do what you said and don't do anything.
Don't do anything. But I WOULD recommend proper typing lessons. Just an idea you know...
-Ryan
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I had oral sex with my bf where he has played on with his figers, and it now i have missed out my periods the last time i had periods is on 3/04/06.
what i am worried about is i had an injuction by which i must get the periods in one hour after i had but its already 38 hours. i am very tensed on that help me out plz (link)
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I say this to anyone who asks "can I get pregnant from.." kind of questions.
You can ONLY get pregnant if semen enters the vagina. And on the side note, if you don't know anything about sex or the risks, then you shouldn't be doing it, simple as that.
-Ryan
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I realy realy need some help. My friend has been cutting herself, and i don't know what to do to help stop her. She did stop, when she was dating this guy, she said "he made me feel beautful". I realy realy want to help her, but i don't kno how. I tried to get stop, but she won't listen to me. Also she's not afriad of cutting herself, because one of her friends, friend died from cutting herself, and my friend kno's this. I realy realy want to help her stop. But i don't kno how. I also think that her mom is to blame, because her mom calls her ugly and fat. But my friend isn't, shes really pretty, and weights only 102, and her weight is dropping. So i can't tell her mom, because her mom won't help....
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
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You need to tell someone else.
Do you have someone in your school you can go to? Like a counsiler, teacher, or principle? That or another trusted adult who you know will help. You need to let someone know right away and get something done about it. And don't worry about what your friend will think about you. 10 to 1 she isn't exactly in the right mindset anyway when she is cutting, so to get angry at you for telling, won't last.
Tell someone, and tell them quick and get help. I hope I helped, and I hope you get some help for your friend and she stops.
-Ryan
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I know this ex-colleague of mine but not really that close to him. I think i have a crush on him but i dont really know if he likes me at all.
He's confident, witty and a workaholic.
However, he gets shy/uncomfortable, when i ask him simple personal questions for eg: Do you go for swimming. I think he has a problem of talking about himself to new people or just not that friendly.
So one day, i gave him some sweets via his secretary (i didnt really know him that well at that time in office) and he was quite startled and stared at me and waited for me to say something when i bumped at him at the doorway.
He had those puppy eyes..but didnt know what to say!.
I pretended not to appear interested in him becos i was too shy.!
Later, i sent him email and was able to chat with him about work..and he responded quite well except that when i asked him for lunch, he just disappeared and dint reply yes/no.,,which was kind of weird.He could have just said no..but he dint.
I managed to obtain his cellphone and he replies all my sms except the ones on personal questions.
So how do i even talk to him tru the phone as a friend, if he's that shy?
How do i get him to even talk to me like a normal friend?
Would appreciate your advice.
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It seems to me like he is afraid of close connections with other people.
You mentioned before he was a workaholic, do you think this could be a possible reason? People who work alot tend to prefer their work lives over their actual lives, and so to do this they shut out their normal lives and keep it to a minimal.
Or, he just could be one of those overly shy types. The type that literally can't speak when talking to the opposite sex on anything personal. Casual talk or talk about work or school would be something they could talk about, but anything beyond personal may make them feel uncomfortable.
Those two are the only real two reasons I can think of to explain his lack of interest at the moment. My advice to you is to ease into a conversation and bring up small personal questions, perhaps those which pertain to his work or whatnot. You can see how it goes from there and work on it after you see how far you are going with small talk. I know you've tried, but perhaps a bit of persistance would be good. Not too much, but just a bit would work.
Though, you probably should give the indication you want to be his friend (like say, he seems to be having a bad day and you see that and ask whats up? Because he looks down and your just checking up to see if he's alright). You might already be doing that, but I would keep at it. Some persistance never hurts.
I hope I helped you in atleast some way and I hope that for whatever reason he is holding out on you with your questions, that he opens up and will atleast talk to you on a more personal level.
-Ryan
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I'm worried about my friend, she's involved with a guy that makes a fool out of her every chance he gets. i try to tell her that she should just leave him alone but, she wont listen. should i just let her be and sit back while she's being made a fool of? (link)
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If you have already tried...
keep trying.
Some people are so ignorant to the truth they will not wake up until they have their own revelation.
She will find hers eventually but until then she will be in ignorance to her boyfriends behavior. Let her be for now and be here friend. So when she finally does realize her boyfriends behavior is wrong, she will have you to come back to, her friend.
But also, keep pressuring her and showing her that what he is doing is wrong. Guys don't need to do that to girls, and vice versa, and she seriously need to realize it's wrong.
I hope I helped, and I hope your friend realized whats wrong before any damage is done.
-Ryan
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i was recently raped and im scared. the guy who raped me..was my bedt friends boyfriend (shes 14 hes 15 turning 16) and im scared. i have nightmares about it and im afraid to go to sleep..i keep getting calls that have perverted breathing for like 15 seconds then he hangs up i havent told anyone..and im SCARED!! he threatend to kill me and my family..what should i do?? (link)
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Tell your family. Tell a close friend. Tell a trusted an adult. And most of all, let the police know.
This is the sole reason why so many rapes go unaccounted for for so long, it's the fear instilled on the victim. YOU NEED TO TELL SOMEONE AND YOU NEED TO TELL THEM NOW. He is 15 and I seriously doubt he can hurt you or your family. This fucker needs to be shipped off where you will never see him again. You need to tell someone, and let the police and everyone else know what he intends to do if you tell. Don't let fear prevail here, because fear is too trivial to let be.
I hate people who do this, and it is my wish that you get help on this. And I hope what I said only helps to encourage you to tell someone and get this bastard where he belongs. You have a prayer from me this night. If you need anything else, please tell me because I would be more than happy to help.
-Ryan
*edit* P.S. Don't think....do.
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Well this all happened this week.
In my school we have tables that fit eight
people so all my friends that are close sit there.I've been in Lunch Detentions for the week but today,today i sit down like its nothing chilling wiht my homes and Taunya and Charmaine sit at another table.Confused i asked why there not sitting at our table and they dont answer me so i was like whats going on!!I go back to my table and ask Kayliegh she says because i called taunyas sister a shes mad and wont sit here.I get mad because i dont know whats going on and Taunyas mad at me so is Charmaine i try asking them but they wont talk to me.I ask Corina and she says "because your hanging out with Kayliegh"I havent known whats been going on and shes taking it out on me .Ive been known that when i get mad i hit people and wind up in iss not this time ive been kicking the bathrom stall doors.So i run in there and kick it and kick it and kick it so many times i lost count and started crying.I dont like it when people see me cry because its a sigh of weakness and im not the one to cry and all this but i cnat help it .Well we have passes so we cant stay to long at the bathroom(this is all happening at lunch)so i come out all red faced and still crying at yell at kayliegh "because of you shes not my friend anymore!!!"Still crying i know Charmaine says crap behind your back so i know there talking about me.Everyone i dont know are like whats wrong i always said nothing im fine lil as possible.I dont like the guidence constaler so i dont go to her.I ended up crying in class....
well its not about crying itd about crying but my friends tell me im nto mad at you and i say dont talk to me....
help me
im 13 (link)
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Your in a bad situation.
First off, let me tell you crying, is not a sign of weakness. And if you are one to think that, then you are wrong.
You have typical teeange drama. And I will just assume your a girl so I will tell you. Alot of girls that are young teens, are mean and vicious. Just forget it all. They all have obviously proven the degree of their friendship to you. They don't seem like good friends to want to ditch you like they did, and directly put you in the middle of their fued. Get new friends. Friends that you can trust and won't go behind your back. Those people you told me about, aren't good friends.
And I know what true friendship is. I grew up friendless and hated until 2 years ago (and I am onl 16). I know what friendship means and I can tell you from what you've told me. That isn't friendship, and they are not worth neither your tears, or your time.
I'm here if you need to tell me anything else at all, so please, don't be hesitant to message me again.
I hope I helped you, and I hope everything your expierencing, goes away and better friends, is something you will find from this.
-Ryan
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Hello Friends, thank you for reading this. I have a friend, she was actually one of my first friends here, and I just heard that she was saying things about me behind my back to people that are my friends. Should I confront her about what she is saying? (link)
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Yes confront her.
But don't make a huge public deal over it. Confront her when she is alone and ask her about what you've heard and find out what she says about it. Be very calm about it but yet be very assertive when asking about it. Don't lost anger or go about accusing her. Just tell her what you've heard and ask her about it. Judge for yourself what her answer is.
I hope I helped though, and good luck and I hope this gossiping about you behind your back between your friends isn't true.
-Ryan
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I met this girl this year, and we quickly became best friends. We ate lunch together every day, saw eachother outside of school, and we had English together so we would always see eachother. Semester 2 began, and she started to eat lunch with the guy she liked and his friends, leaving me all alone. I found a new group of friends while she continued hanging out with her crush and his group of friends. I confronted her about it right after it started and we argued about it so much we didn't talk for 2 weeks. We made up, but things still aren't the same. She says its important that she gets the guy, but I always thought our friendship was more important. It's been a while now, and we still don't talk often (VERY rarely), never see eachother, and I don't know what's going on in her life anymore. I want our friendship back, but I don't want to fight about it again and have it be even worse. What can I do? (link)
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The situation you have just described, is part of growing up (as many before me have said).
Sadly, this is unavoidable and almost unconrtollable. When teens (not all however) get a special "other" or strive to get one, the friends become a second priority, which is absolutely sad and annoying. Your going to lose friends over other people they like and absolutely MUST spend time with, when the significant other should be a second to friends. Your friends are gonna be there for a much longer time than a boyfriend or girlfriend because alot of times, highschool relationships do NOT last. So your freinds will be there, the other most likely will not.
Move on, that is about all you can do. This person has obviously demonstrated her prioritys, and you have yours. So there is nothing left to do.
I'm sorry for your loss, but I hope the words I wrote helped.
-Ryan
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okay... I have this friend (lets say her name is Kelley) and shes really cool and stuff. I have another friend, (lets say her name is Jen) who I used to be really good friends with. Now Jen is a lot more "popular" than me and kelley, but she was pretty nice to us up until a few months ago. First, we had always sat at the same table together, and now she is sitting with the kids who are really mean. She didnt say anything to us or anything, and she just sort of ditched us. I was okay with that, maybe she just wanted to meet new people or something. So anyways, Now we have to do a community project for school. Kelley and I are making blankets for children in a homeless shelter and jen wants to deliver bears to the hospital. Shes all mad cuz we wanna do something else so she just switches groups. Shes seemed really selfish to me because she was saying "what kids would want some stupid blankets" and was sayin that "oh this will take too long." She calls us her "little friends" all the time because she thinks her popular friends are more important or something.
So I really dont know what to do. She doesnt know that me and Kelley are mad at her, and I have just kind of avoided her. On the other hand, I dont want to be mean either.
Should I give Jen another chance? Or should I just stay away and be friends with Kelley? (link)
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Dump her like a bad habit.
She isn't worth your time if she is going to insult you and your ideas. And from what I gathered, her time with the "popular" people has left her rude, mean, and downright unkind.
Sadly, that is basically a description for your average "popular" girl in the world today. Granted, alot aren't, but from everything I have seen around me, I avoid popular people as much as I can because I just don't like how they act.
If I were you, I would most definately confront her about this. Don't just stay away though, confront here about it and calmly asked whats happened and whats happened to your friendship and why she is being so unkind to the both of you (if she denies this, bring up her ditching you and critisizing your giving homemade blankets to HOMELESS CHILDREN *for crying out loud, she has to be far gone to not realize a blanket for a homeless child in winter is like a Godsent*) and atleast end the friendship on somewhat good terms, because as of now, I don't believe she deserves another chance for her behavior.
Your in a bad situation and I hope I helped with what I said just now. Good luck with Jen and if you need anything else, send me something to my inbox.
-Ryan
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Well my best friend since 1st grade (im in 8th by the way! Well she has always been the goody goody type like when she goes out with guys all she does is the basics (kiss), well just this year she went out with a guy named mark and she didnt know this but he loved to go all the way just on the first date. so she goes on the first date and then goes back to his house. she didnt exspect to you know do anything. Well then they start kissing and little before u know he has hind down her pants and she didnt say anything cause she is "shy" well all through that night they were so close to haveing sex, she gave a blowjob and a handjob, but his dad came home so they didnt go any further. And I might sound over protected but to go all that way in one night i mean who knows what there gonna do. I am worried only because she was a mistake when she was born, so wouldnt you think she would be careful and not have sex?? should i talk to her about it?? or what???
please help
sincerelly,
lost at thought (link)
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Quite honestly, you need to express your concern to her and talk to her about it. Let her know your thoughts on it.
Also, is this guy in 8th grade as well? Because it is then I have just lost another bit of my sanity and overall patience with the world and society. Seriously, how young are kids gonna be when they start all this stuff? And for this guy to go around and on his first date with a girl go all the way with her, just makes me want to hurt him.
As an extra bit of advice, tell your friend to get away from him, because any guy who is gonna try and go all the way on the first date with a girl is no good at all.
I hope this helped in some way and she takes your concerns seriously.
-Ryan
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