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Cutting :..(
I realy realy need some help. My friend has been cutting herself, and i don't know what to do to help stop her. She did stop, when she was dating this guy, she said "he made me feel beautful". I realy realy want to help her, but i don't kno how. I tried to get stop, but she won't listen to me. Also she's not afriad of cutting herself, because one of her friends, friend died from cutting herself, and my friend kno's this. I realy realy want to help her stop. But i don't kno how. I also think that her mom is to blame, because her mom calls her ugly and fat. But my friend isn't, shes really pretty, and weights only 102, and her weight is dropping. So i can't tell her mom, because her mom won't help....
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
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annoy the fuck out of her. Check her everyday or whenever something bad happens make her talk to you lol. Like I cut and when people annoy me about i'll stop for a while so you have to annoy her constantly about it and if you already have than i dont know. Tell her to get some rubber bands and to snap them on her wrist it works. But not saying anything wont work you have to be on her constantly about it. good luck
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tell your friend that she is beautiful and try to get guys to ask her out make her feel speacil give her atention i use to cut i still do but not as much cause my boyfriend is helping me calling me beautiful telling me that there is a purpus on this world and me and my boyfriend have a religon that is you kill your self you will go to a blank white room we both are wiccians so yea but tell things that will make her feel good trust she may say it does'nt help but deep down in side it does trust me when i say this i use to be a really bad cutter and i cut but not as bad trust me on this remember what i am telling
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Getting Help
There are better ways to deal with troubles than cutting - healthier, long-lasting ways that don't leave a person with emotional and physical scars. The first step is to get help with the troubles that led her to cutting in the first place. Here are some ideas for doing that:
1. Tell someone. People who have stopped cutting often say the first step is the hardest - admitting to or talking about cutting. But they also say that after they open up about it, they often feel a great sense of relief. Choose someone you trust to talk to at first (a parent, school counselor, teacher, coach, doctor, or nurse). If it's too difficult to bring up the topic in person, write a note.
2. Identify the trouble that's triggering the cutting. Cutting is a way of reacting to emotional tension or pain. Try to figure out what feelings or situations are causing her to cut. Is it anger? Pressure to be perfect? Relationship trouble? A painful loss or trauma? Mean criticism or mistreatment? Identify the trouble she's having, then tell someone about it. Many people have trouble figuring this part out on their own. This is where a mental health professional can be helpful.
3. Get her to ask for help. If the person you ask doesn't help her get the assistance she needs, ask someone else. Sometimes adults try to downplay the problems teens have or think they're just a phase. If she gets the feeling this is happening to her, find another adult (such as a school counselor or nurse) who can make her case for her.
4. Work on it. Most people with deep emotional pain or distress need to work with a counselor or mental health professional to sort through strong feelings, heal past hurts, and to learn better ways to cope with life's stresses. One way to find a therapist or counselor is to ask at your doctor's office, at school, or at a mental health clinic in your community.
Although cutting can be a difficult pattern to break, it is possible. Getting professional help to overcome the problem doesn't mean that a person is weak or crazy. Therapists and counselors are trained to help people discover inner strengths that help them heal. These inner strengths can then be used to cope with life's other problems in a healthy way.
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First, talk to your mom about it. Somtimes mothers can be help in itself. Hav eou rmom start by acting liek a mothe rfor your friend. then one day have her bring up cutting and have your mom talk to her about it, if worse comes to worse, have ur mom talk to hermom about parenting. I'm sure it hurts your mom to see a girl get treated that way by her own mother. Somtimes mothers can do more than you think. But dont wait, another day befor its too late, she could die, hurry..
meg.
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Tell someone you trust. She needs help before she ends up somewhere she's going to regret. Don't tell her "Hey, well you're cutting, I'm not gonna talk to you or be your friend!" because that does not help at all. That causes her to cut more because she is depressed for losing a friend. You need to tell a trusting adult because if you don't you will really lose her and I'm sure you don't want that. She might hate you for it when you tell someone but don't let that stop you. Tell her how much you care about her and that her cutting is also hurting you and not just her.
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You need to tell someone else.
Do you have someone in your school you can go to? Like a counsiler, teacher, or principle? That or another trusted adult who you know will help. You need to let someone know right away and get something done about it. And don't worry about what your friend will think about you. 10 to 1 she isn't exactly in the right mindset anyway when she is cutting, so to get angry at you for telling, won't last.
Tell someone, and tell them quick and get help. I hope I helped, and I hope you get some help for your friend and she stops.
-Ryan
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