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Good friend-bad friend... I need help?!
okay... I have this friend (lets say her name is Kelley) and shes really cool and stuff. I have another friend, (lets say her name is Jen) who I used to be really good friends with. Now Jen is a lot more "popular" than me and kelley, but she was pretty nice to us up until a few months ago. First, we had always sat at the same table together, and now she is sitting with the kids who are really mean. She didnt say anything to us or anything, and she just sort of ditched us. I was okay with that, maybe she just wanted to meet new people or something. So anyways, Now we have to do a community project for school. Kelley and I are making blankets for children in a homeless shelter and jen wants to deliver bears to the hospital. Shes all mad cuz we wanna do something else so she just switches groups. Shes seemed really selfish to me because she was saying "what kids would want some stupid blankets" and was sayin that "oh this will take too long." She calls us her "little friends" all the time because she thinks her popular friends are more important or something.
So I really dont know what to do. She doesnt know that me and Kelley are mad at her, and I have just kind of avoided her. On the other hand, I dont want to be mean either.
Should I give Jen another chance? Or should I just stay away and be friends with Kelley?
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Maybe Jen used to be a great friend, but she obviously isn't now. I know it's going to be hard, because this recently happened to me, but just don't hang out with her. Keep everything on good terms, but don't go out of your way to be nice to her. Kelley seems nice, and I think you should just stick her with her. When Jen realizes the mistake she made, it'll be to late and you and Kelley are better off without her.
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Leave her be. If she wants to be like that she needs to make her own mistakes. Just leave her to get on with it- and ignore her if she wants to be nasty- don't waste your energy getting upset with her (although it sounds like you're the bigger person so it doesn't sound as if that would happen). For the mean time stay away- be civil by all means but it sounds as if she's not worth it at the moment. If she realises she's made a mistake in time then that's a different story. Take each day as it comes- remember a lot of people go through these phases and they need to make mistakes to learn!
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Dump her like a bad habit.
She isn't worth your time if she is going to insult you and your ideas. And from what I gathered, her time with the "popular" people has left her rude, mean, and downright unkind.
Sadly, that is basically a description for your average "popular" girl in the world today. Granted, alot aren't, but from everything I have seen around me, I avoid popular people as much as I can because I just don't like how they act.
If I were you, I would most definately confront her about this. Don't just stay away though, confront here about it and calmly asked whats happened and whats happened to your friendship and why she is being so unkind to the both of you (if she denies this, bring up her ditching you and critisizing your giving homemade blankets to HOMELESS CHILDREN *for crying out loud, she has to be far gone to not realize a blanket for a homeless child in winter is like a Godsent*) and atleast end the friendship on somewhat good terms, because as of now, I don't believe she deserves another chance for her behavior.
Your in a bad situation and I hope I helped with what I said just now. Good luck with Jen and if you need anything else, send me something to my inbox.
-Ryan
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Dude, c'mon. Would you really want to be friends with someone like Jen? Insulting your ideas & just ditched you? No. No way. Just be friends with Kelley. That girl needs to grow up. Seriously.
You practically posted everything negative about her in your question. And i can`t simply find something positive that you mentioned in there. I wouldn`t give her another chance if i were you. It would be a wrong decision to make. Just ignore Jen. Maybe she will get the hint.
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I have had that sone to me to. It really sucks. If i were you i would tell her that you don't want to be friends with someone who is your friend one day and not then next. I hope that i am to help
B.R: heartbroken
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Stay away from her and be friends with Kelley. Why would you wanna be friends who does that? I'd just forget about her and be friends with Kelley.
&TiNA;
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