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How do I get her back?
I met this girl this year, and we quickly became best friends. We ate lunch together every day, saw eachother outside of school, and we had English together so we would always see eachother. Semester 2 began, and she started to eat lunch with the guy she liked and his friends, leaving me all alone. I found a new group of friends while she continued hanging out with her crush and his group of friends. I confronted her about it right after it started and we argued about it so much we didn't talk for 2 weeks. We made up, but things still aren't the same. She says its important that she gets the guy, but I always thought our friendship was more important. It's been a while now, and we still don't talk often (VERY rarely), never see eachother, and I don't know what's going on in her life anymore. I want our friendship back, but I don't want to fight about it again and have it be even worse. What can I do?
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well um talk to her agin but tell her this time you need her to really lisitien tell her that if she likes the guy that she should tell him so she knows if he likes her or not and tell her it's stressing you out beacuse you love her as a friend and you dont want a guy to interfeer tell her that friends always come first beacuse boys r on and off and friends are awlays there no matter what but if she wants to choose a guy over a friend then she isnt a true frend and she needs to respect her friends a little more because you wer ethey one that loved and cared for her before her crush came alone so tell her she really needs to think about what she chooses because you feel lft out and you really want everything to be the same and if seh dosnt care then move on there are other great people to look fowrd to and when her crush upsets her she will come running up to you saing srry and from there you can make ur mind if you want to be her friend or not
well take care mwa mwa
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The situation you have just described, is part of growing up (as many before me have said).
Sadly, this is unavoidable and almost unconrtollable. When teens (not all however) get a special "other" or strive to get one, the friends become a second priority, which is absolutely sad and annoying. Your going to lose friends over other people they like and absolutely MUST spend time with, when the significant other should be a second to friends. Your friends are gonna be there for a much longer time than a boyfriend or girlfriend because alot of times, highschool relationships do NOT last. So your freinds will be there, the other most likely will not.
Move on, that is about all you can do. This person has obviously demonstrated her prioritys, and you have yours. So there is nothing left to do.
I'm sorry for your loss, but I hope the words I wrote helped.
-Ryan
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That always happens and it sucks. That will happen alot with friends they just start to slowly grow apart.When girls get boyfriends they always make them 1st and don't take that the wrong way because friends always important but guys sometimes get them all to there selves.I'm sure she isn't doing it on purpose.This won't start a fight but call her or sit down with her in person and tell her exactly how you feel.She might not even realize it til you really talk to her then it will hit her.Tell her you didn't want this to be a fight but you really want to go back to the old times. ♥
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call her up and settel things with her give her the choice to have both the friendship between you and her and the boy she likes i feel like a guy shouldnt get in the way of a friendship bcuz you are always gonna be there for her when the guy(s) she is with or likes come into her life.
i hope i helped!!
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kristin
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I know its tough, but its just part of growing up.
Once a girl gets a boyfriend, and you will do it too, the boy just becomes more important.
Its important to make time for all our friends, but that relationship is important. Feeling a little jealous when it happens is perfectly normal. Just know you will be doing the same when you find a special guy.
So try to understand. She isn't rejecting you. Maybe you could talk it over with her and set aside time for you to have some time together too. Let her know you're feeling left out. It can be worked out with a little understanding from you both. :)
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I think you may have a tiny crush! Freindship is very important and i think that if you talked to her about your freindship but tell her she should still get the guy she wants then you 2 could still be friends. Even if it seems that shes abandoning you, you have to talk 2 her about it. And sure she will have other friends but at least in the long run, once again, you will be one of them.
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I know this is not want you want to hear but I am going to give it a try anyways:
I really think you need to just move on. I think you should just forget about her, because that is what she did to you. And so that really means is that she was not a true friend. I think that you should really just find new better friends, and just try your hardest to move on.
It will be tough, but after a while it will be fine...
I wish you the best of luck....
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