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Q: I am 16 years old and have this wanting of sex...My boyfriend and I have been going together for about 3 months now...We have talked about it and both really want to do it. ... But were scared of gettin pregnant...and scared that our parents will find out and we want be able to date each other any more..what do we do?
Signed, Wanting
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Your body may want it, but your mind probably isn't ready for it. Every teenager who wants sex is usually never 100% ready. Because if protection gives way then you could become pregnant or sick. Then you'll regret not waiting. My advice to you is wait until you feel 100%. You're still young and you've got your whole life ahead of you. Just one mistake could cost you your best years.
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Q: Ok this is a stupid question but i'll ask it anyway. What should you tell a guy if he ask you if you're a virgin? Evereyone is telling me different. some of my male friends tell me that you should defenetly tell them that your a virgin because all guys like the girls to be like pure and clean and stuff (i dont know, thats what they tell me) and that if your a virgin they will like you more because it will be like a big deal for them..you know, to get a virgin to lose her virginity is big, it will make them proud of them selves or something. And some of my friends tell me that they always go for girls that lost their virginity already because that would make them more experienced and stuff.And it will make the sex better.. And that it wont be as gross as having sex with a virgin..I dont know im soo confused! I dont want the guy to think that im a slut! but should i tell him that ive already done it so he likes me more? please don tell me to tell him the truth! tell me the truth, what do most guys like?
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You're asking the wrong person sweetie. But if I were to make an assumption, I'd say that every guy has a different opinion about this subject. I'm gunna have to tell you something you don't wanna hear. You should tell him. I mean, I think all the guy cares about is the sex part right?;) So just be honest. Good luck!
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Q: okey, i didn't know what category to put this in so i just chose love life. Anyway I was wondering about all the sweet nicknames.. I mean everytime a guy calls me babe or darling i die inside..seriously just a name can make me fall. But what can we call guys? Is there anything we can say to make them shiver? can we call them babe? Is there any laid back names? (like you know if we're just talking on msn and he says : hey, babe - what's up? Can we say something like that, even if we're not dating? cuz guys can use babe howvever..do we have anything like that? Something that will make them all nervous and stuff or just happy. And nothing that will make them embarresed, like darling is probably too feminin for them..Thanx!//marlena
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Lol!! Hmmm...let's see. Whatever you want..I guess. Maybe..hunny, sweety, baby. That's really all I can think of. It really doesn't matter what you call a guy. They don't care as long as it's not rude.
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Q: Hey! let me start off by saying that i love your column and that you give great advice!! now, here's my problem..i've had this HUGE crush (i dont even like calling it a crush, i think i love him..but no one thinks it's possible so whatever..)anyway, ive had this huge crush on a guy fro about 8 years (i've known him all my life) but we're not really tight friends. (thats not my problem) The thing is, i've never tried to hit on the guy or anything cuz i wanted to respect his GF and all..They've been together 7 years (since 4th grade)and during all this time i've liked him..and i know he really loves her, but they just broke up 3 weeks ago, im gonna let him get over her cuz i know he needs time (c'mon it wa 7 years!!) but then after that? will i ever be able to replave his first love, his gf of 7 years? its gonna be terrible he's gonna be comparing me with her..and i cant compete with her and what they had. What am i going to do? When he first gottogether with her i decided to get over him..and i've been trying ever since..but it didnt work =( seven years later, here i am, still in love with him..so please dont tell me to get ver him! it wont work..please help me, please!!
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Thanks for the compliment!! =) Wow!! 7 years. This guy really must be something. Sadly you probably won't be able to replace the love of his former girlfriend..(I mean we're talking 7 years!!!) Well..if I were you, madly in love with this guy I'd wait a few months..just to give him some recovery time, you know?? Then maybe you guys can simply just hang out and get to know each other more. Then when you guys have really hit it off, ask him out. Maybe he'll say yes. Don't be too clingy or anything like that..it seems desperate. Play hard to get..let him know there's a part of you he needs to discover. Good luck and anytime you need to talk...drop one in my inbox!!
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Q: So, there's this kid that I like a wicked wicked lot!! And he likes me too!! And we both know!!! But I'm 14 and he's 17, and I live in Dracut and he lives in wakefield, and I love him...like so much!! And I don't know what I should do!! Any advice??
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Well get his number call him up and tell him how you feel. If he feels the same way then maybe you two can pursue a long distance relationship. About the age thing, just explain to your parents that he's a great responsible guy and if they trust him then maybe they'll be okay with it. Don't force him into a relationship because it can drive you guys apart. Even if he doesn't like you now he might fall in love with on his own. Well, that's the best I can do for you so..good luck!!
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Q: I like this kid jeremy alot. i just need him to notice me. he knows who i am i just want him to want me. any tips?
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The key thing is flirting. Guys love to flirt. Flirt with him, become his friend. Wear clothes that get you noticed. Same thing with your hair, and makeup. Make sure that you be yourself though. It's important not to be fake. That's all I can think of but good luck!!
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Q: I am 15 and have been going out with the same guy for 4 years. I lost my virginity 2 him when I was 14. He is starting to act way to controlling and we have gotten into several fist fights and he forces me to have sex with him sometimes. I met a guy on the internet that lives 1700 miles away. We have been talking for a while and I think I am in love with him. Is it possible to love someone that far away? He also says he loves me back, and wants to meet. Thanks
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It's very possible to love someone who lives so far away. You have to be careful though. I mean, look at our life now and look at the man you are with. You know him, but you don't really know the guy that lives 1700 miles away. He could turn out just like you boyfriend now. If you want to meet him go right ahead. Be careful though. Good Luck!
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Q: I have a friend who is SO not over her ex but really pretends to be. They both really like each other and flirt all the time and they still act like they are going out. What should she do, or what should I tell her to do???
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It's her decision on whether she wants to be with him or not. Some people prefer to be single and flirt with whoever they want. Don't tell her what to do with her realtionship, she'll figure out what she needs to do.
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Q: There's this guy that i really like at school. I found out a couple of months ago that he was in "love" with one of my friends. However after a week she insisted that nothing was going. NOw ive fallen for him, but he tells me he is still in love with my friend and just wants to be mates with me. However she is just flirtig with him for fun and wants nothing more. Now he is still flirting with me and i really dont know whats goin on. Help
Claire, age 15
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Guys love to flirt even if he just wants to be friends. It sucks to be in your position though. I've been there and I know what your going through. If you wanna flirt and have fun go right ahead...I mean your friend says nothing's going on. Good Luck!!
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Q: Do you think it is possible to find "The One" you are going to be with for the rest of your life in highschool?
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It's definately possible. Some couples that are married today are "highschool sweethearts". I think it's very sweet and romantic.
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Q: I have a really hot boyfiend thats cute,funny,nice and caring but I have the biggest feeling that he's cheating on me and I don't wanna be hurt what should I do?
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You should ask him. Be up front and honest about your feelings. A relationship is NOTHING without trust. If he has an ounce of respect for you he will tell you the truth. If you still feel doubtful then maybe you should take a break from him. Good Luck!!
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Q: Yesterday and today I was with my friend, and when I'm with my friend I'm really hyper n stuff. When she left my boyfriend called and said that he doesn't like when I act the way I do, and he'd rather me act the way I do around my friends n stuff. I do act allot differently. I try not to I'm just really shy when I'm just with my boyfriend. What should I do?
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He should like you for you and that's it. If he continues being like that then dump him. You shouln't have to change your personality for a stupid guy.
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Q: I wanted to know is it okay to go out with your best friends Ex boifriend?? I knida wawnt to go out with him. But she says it is okay and totally fine with her but i am afraid that might do something to our relationship? Should I go with him or say no because of my friend???...
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Well, if it's ok with her then you should be fine. If she's your best friend, then you shouldn't worry about her sabotaging the relationship. Just take things slow. Good Luck!!!
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Q: Im sorry you guys, but I noticed that a LOT of youngins say they love theyre boyfriend or gf...so I was wanting to know, what do you guys consider love...because 13-16 is really young, i dont know I could be wrong, but what do you consider love??
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Yes 13-16 is a young age to think about "the one". Love is a compclicated thing, and could sometimes end in disaster. But if I could explain love to you it will be this: Love is trust, someone you can share your deepest secrets with. Someone to make you laugh, someone romantic. Someone to tell you you're beautiful when you look absolutely horrible. Someone your comfortable to be around and simply just be YOU. I know I'm young, but from my experiences that's what I'd like love to be when I find "the one". It's a bond that cannot be broken no matter what.
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Q: My brother recently kissed a lesbian, and disgusting thoughts came up in my mind, so I thought I'd just ask this question...
IF A REGULAR GUY KISSES A LESBIAN, WHAT DOES THAT MAKE THE GUY?
Please answer, don't leave me in suspense!
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It still makes him just a regular heterosexual guy!(Meaning he is still attracted to the opposite sex.) You have nothing to worry about, I mean it's not like he kissed a guy!!
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Q: my friend alyssa was seeing this guy ryan but they broke up bc she cheated on him. shes in love with this new guy tai they went out brok eup but shes still hooked on him. alyssa doesnt liek ryan any more and says she doesnt care if her friends like him but i feel likeid be betraying her if i did.. me and ryan have been talkin for a few weeks now. just online and on the phone and were making plans to hang out & stuff.. hes such a great guy and has the best personality. do you think its wrong that ryan & i are hanging out and talking??? me and alyssa have been friends for 4 years but she says its ok..i think shes too wrapped up with tai right now but.. i dont want to ruin our friendship at all... what do you advise..??
-kristi
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Well, if it was just to hang with him then that would be fine. If you two were to get in a serious relationship maybe you should talk more about it with her. Drill it into her head that you want a serious relationship with him. If you don't have a talk with her and you just suddenly go out with him, things could get ugly. Well, good luck!!
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Q: Do you neciserrily have to think a guy is cute to like them? Like can you be attracted to just there personality and still have a crush on them?
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Absolutely. Haven't you ever heard of the saying "looks shouldn't matter"? Personality comes within, and I think that is the best part about that special someone.
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Q: how can i make sure that my girlfriend that lives 300 miles awya will never wanna leave me?
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You can't really. Long distance relationships don't usually work out. I know you love her and stuff but you two are better of just being friends. It's better to maintain a stable relationship with someone who lives close to you. Whatever you decide to do, Good Luck!!
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Q: My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday but I am 70% sure I can get him back. Is there anything
I can do to get him back?
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What makes you so sure you can win him back? No offense, but if he broke up with you then maybe he doesn't want you to win him back. You say you're 70% sure, but when you do something like this you have to have all of your heart in it and be 100% sure. It may be hard to do but move on from this relationship. Who knows, maybe after some time he'll ask you out again. If you go to him a day after the brake-up, it'll seem like you're desparate. Well, good luck!!
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Q: hi..okay i had asked this guy i liked out to do something with me..before this we hadnt' rally talked too much but he sorta followed me a little at lunch and i cud tell and it was pretty cute..ppl told me that he prolly likes m n stuff so wen i asked him he sed he didnt know if he cud make it to where we were going..then on monday (i has asked on friday)he completely ignored me and on tuestday too..What do u think this means? I was getting a good vibe from him before and now he just randomly started to ignore me..cud he b nervous, or maybe he just stopped liking me..thanks a bunch you guys.
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The best answer for this is that he is nervous. He's probably afraid of a relationship with anyone. Maybe he's had bad realationships before. Just give him some time, he'll come around.
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Hey guys! I've been off the site for a while but I'm back! So you can feel free to ask me anything you want. I give the best advice I can to any question asked. I try to answer each question truthfully, honestly, and straight up. My advice can be good or bad, it all depends on how YOU take it. Feedback and ratings from questions answered help me out on how well I'm helping you guys out.♥
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Female Location: Dracut,Mass Occupation: Student Age: 14 AIM: Yahoo: Member Since: August 30, 2004 Answers: 142 Last Update: October 2, 2005 Visitors: 11033
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