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Abusive ans twisted love life.
I am 15 and have been going out with the same guy for 4 years. I lost my virginity 2 him when I was 14. He is starting to act way to controlling and we have gotten into several fist fights and he forces me to have sex with him sometimes. I met a guy on the internet that lives 1700 miles away. We have been talking for a while and I think I am in love with him. Is it possible to love someone that far away? He also says he loves me back, and wants to meet. Thanks
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Hey hun you need to get out of the relationship with your 4 year boyfriend if he hits you and makes you have sex with him. Thats not good at all. OK, i met a guy on the internet and we have been going out sense september and we are almost going on six months and i love him. Yes it is possible to love someone that far away because i do and other people do too. If he has been truthful and you trust him and others things and he really really really does loves you and wants to meet then wait until you are older and then meet but just be safe and others things. I Hoped I Helped.
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It is pssoible but i dont think its a good idea. Maybe this guy is a 35 year old child melester? lol jk. I would dump ur so called "bf" and find another guy close you can still chat w/ the guy online but let him kno that you have to find someone close. Hope i helped! rate me and visit my column
Always ♥Tess
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Yes it is possible to fall in love over the internet. My aint did and they have been hapilly married for 10 years. But this advice has many parts to it.
As for the guy on the internet. PROMISE me you'll be careful! Many girls fall victim to rape and murder because of guys they've met over the internet. Even though he says wut he looks like or how old he is, he could be lying to you so you will fall for his trick. Also, if you DO plan on meeting him make sure you're parents know about it. And one of them comes along. If not have a friend, or better yet, a group of friends go with you.
As for your current boyfriend. You REALLY need to dump him. IM sorry, and I know you probably love him, but hes abusing you. And forcing you to have sex is wrong. We'll still young and the fact that he took something so great from you, and is now taking you for granted, is DISGUSTING! If he has hurt you in the past its a sign of only worse to come. He's going to get jealous and constantly ask you questions about who you're with and who you're talking to, causing more fights and bruises. Talk to a friend, parent, or counseler about it ok? I dont want anyone to get hurt. Love hurts enough as it is ;) Im 15 too, and as a girl myself you REALLY need to ditch him. I know someone who got shot because her abusive boyfriend got too controlling and jealous.
dont wanna scare you, and i hope it helps
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About the relashonship you are in now.. you need to tell someone about the abuse.. it could become more than fist fights.. and about meeting the man on the internet it is not a good idea! It is very dangerous.. I dont recomend it. But if you do decide too.. DONT GO ALONE!
♥ emiLy* xo
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i guess it can be possible... you can love and have feelings for somebody no matter what the distance is..much luv..dez
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Sweetie, you definitely need to dump this boyfriend of yours because you don't deserve a guy who forces you to have sex with him and that you are involved in an abusive relationship with him. In my opinion, yes, it is possible to love someone that lives far away, especially 1700 miles. I know everyone else thinks that it isn't possible but if you think you are inlove with this guy, then you are. Have you talked to him over the phone before? If you haven't, make an effort and call him sometime. If you don't want to get in trouble for calling someone that far away, call him after 9 PM if you have a cell phone, since it is free and unlimited. You definitely need to tell this guy that you have feelings for him. If he says that he loves you back, then he probably does. I know that if you meet someone that lives far away from you that relationships don't work out, but your relationship with this guy may possibly work. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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dont believe people on the internet he could be totally lying!! i watched this thing on dr.phil and this one girl had a relationship with a guy online who she "knew everything about" dr.phil researched this person and it ended up being an old man living in a trailer or a 12 year old boy..
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i doubt you love him, just becuase youve nver met. youu probably just want another relationship besides the fucked up one you have now. So u just think your in love. But holi shit, dump your boyfreinds sorry ass...((forcing you to have sex..its called rape))and if he comes after you or gets upset, then fuckin call the cops...u dont need that your onli 15!!!maybe you could start visiting this guy from the interenet after you get through with your boyfreind....goodluck
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think you should do 2 thing dump the your abusive stupid bitch ass boy because he is a striaht up jerk and DON'T go out with the guy on the net either you don't know who the hell he is or looks like he could be just like the jerk you have now. get a guy that u can trust and dosn't live over 1000 miles from u.
good luck hope u find some1 :)
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Your are stupid. You dont meet people on the net and go and have some relationship with them.
1. Your boy friend is an idiot- dump him
2. your an idiot for not dumping him by now
3. your an idiot
4. your an idiot for trying to hook up with a guy over the net
Do you know how old he is? Hes probably some horny old man trying to screw some young chick. Your a retard and i cincerely wish you the worst of luck if you meet this new guy( if you know what i mean;) )
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No guy should treat any girl like that at all! You should break up with him because if he is makeing you have sex with him and are getting into fist fights thats not a healthy relationship. Hopefully you use protection because if he makes you have sex with him then you could get pregnant by him and have to put up with fighting with him.
And about the guy that you " love" he could be a like 55 yr old guy whos telling you all these things that you wanna hear. If he sent you a picture it could have been someone that he made take a picture. You could love someone that far away. YOU HAVE TO BRING A FEW FRIENDS IF YOU GO AND MEET HIM JUST IN CASE IF HES A RAPIST OR SOMETHING.
~Brina~
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It's very possible to love someone who lives so far away. You have to be careful though. I mean, look at our life now and look at the man you are with. You know him, but you don't really know the guy that lives 1700 miles away. He could turn out just like you boyfriend now. If you want to meet him go right ahead. Be careful though. Good Luck!
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Personally I don't think u should date either 1 of them! Your current b/f is a total jerk (no offense!) and the guy u met online could be some rapist guy that could kill u! hope this helps!!!!
~Alyssa
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OK, I've got three things to say to you -
1. However hard it may seem, GET OUT of this relationship!! You don't need a guy who treats you like that, you deserve so much better!! Tell someone what's going on - maybe a school counsellor or your friends? If it's too hard, just send your closest friend the link to this in an email. Even though you might feel like you should stay with him or owe him something because you lost your virginity to him, you DON'T. You have to get out of there before it gets worse!
2. Yes, it is possible - it's possible to be in love with anyone!
3. Be very careful with this guy. He could be some creepy paedophile or anything. Make sure you've told him your real age and seen him on webcam, and that if you do meet him, you do it in a neutral, busy and public place, such as a cafe. Make sure you take a friend with you as well, and NEVER go anywhere with him if he isn't who he says he is!! Also, make sure that you don't just love the idea of being with someone, anyone else other than your abusive boyfriend. Break up with him, let that settle down, and then think about this guy.
Good luck!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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Ok first of all, if he wanted you to lose your virginity at 14...sorry to break it to you but he doesnt really love you, and he hits you on top of that? And forces you to do it? You need to leave him and get someone who respects you...he doesnt love you unless he respects you, love IS respect & loyalty. Every other nice thing in the world fits under either loyalty or respect...* And loving someone on the internet? Well i dont believe in it but hey...anythings possible these days. be careful hon.
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Hi, Yes I have seen this guy on the net. He has a webcam and so do I. I have been talking to him for a while now. Thanks everyone.
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first, ur bf sucks. second, i dont think u should meet the guy you meet ON THE INTERNET. i would trust him. he might be who he says he is. but you might want to check up on him to see if hes really HIM.
hope i helped,
Samantha
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the guy you are starting to like could be someone bad, maybe you should get a picture of him if uyou didn't already to see how he looks, if he doesn't look like a bad person go for and and find the guy.
the guy you have been with for 4 years that is trying to control you, dump him. you don't deserve to be treated the way he is treating you.
Hope i helped!
*Dani*
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