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I am 16 years old and have this wanting of sex...My boyfriend and I have been going together for about 3 months now...We have talked about it and both really want to do it. ... But were scared of gettin pregnant...and scared that our parents will find out and we want be able to date each other any more..what do we do?
Signed, Wanting
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ok, so your 16 years old? well i am definitely not trying to tell you "DO NOT HAVE SEX", but i really think you should wait. you have only dated this boy for 3 months, and i really think you need to get to know him better. also, you dont want the chance of getting pregnant, which could very possibly happen, and boy would your life go down the drain if you had a baby. maybe if you get to know this boy more and stay together with him, you guys could both grow a little more mature and a little wiser. just wait for that perfect moment, and dont rush anything. your life is just beginning. just be patient.
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the smart thing to do is..to go get on birth control im sure you can get on birth control with out your parents somewhere and you might even be able to get it for free.. i did the first time i got on it.. tell em you have no insurance.. and usually they give you some condoms too.. ♥ Dez
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Use protection/get on the pill.
as far as the you're scared your parents will find out..only do it when you know they arent home or where no one else is around =D
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Dear Wanting,
If you and your boyfriend have talked about it and really want to do it, then there's no stopping you. My advice is to get tested for STDs first. BOTH of you. Its just safer this way. Although, with a condom there is a chance that you can still get pregnant because nothing is 100% effective. There's always risks with sex but if you are willing to take those risks, then I say go for it. As far as your parents, I would think it would be a better idea to not tell them. They might get a little upset with the whole idea.
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There is one way to prevent pregnancy, and if you use it right, it will work...
the condom.
or if you've both been tested and none of you have aids/clymydia/warts/crabs/whatever, you can use the Pill.
I doubt your parents will find out unless you tell them or someone else tells them or unless they accidentally walk in on you. And anyway, what are their chances of discovering your evil secret? It's all in a bedroom, riiiight?
hope i helped!!!
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Your body may want it, but your mind probably isn't ready for it. Every teenager who wants sex is usually never 100% ready. Because if protection gives way then you could become pregnant or sick. Then you'll regret not waiting. My advice to you is wait until you feel 100%. You're still young and you've got your whole life ahead of you. Just one mistake could cost you your best years.
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id wait a few more months and if you still wanna do it use protection
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Well, the best thing you can do is either sit down with your parents and explain the situation, because you are at the legal age now so they cant stop it from happening, the ther thing to do is if you cant tell your parents book a doctores oppointment and get put on the pill, this will be confidential s your parents cant find out. Also always use a condomn, that way there is little chance of you becoming pregnant.
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Why does your question say you are 16, but the stats for you that I see because I am an advisor who pays to be on this site, says you are 13, because my answer would be different for a 13 year old, than a 16 year old. If you are 13, you are too young. And if your boyfriend is two years older or more, than you are, he can be arrested. SO you have to worry about your parents finding out, and getting pregnant, and him getting arrested. That's three great reasons NOT TO DO IT.
If you are 16, then you should already KNOW how to prevent pregnancy and USE that knowledge to prevent preganacy. You are both old enough to go to the drug store and buy condums and USE THEM. Personally, I don't trust condums to prevent pregnancy, if you are 16 you are old enought to go to the clinic or doctor and get on birth control, to be 99.9% sure that you prevent pregnancy, and use condoms to prevent disease.
That is the ONLY responsible thing to do. If you are not mature enough or responsible enough to take those steps then you are TO YOUNG or to IMMATURE to have sex. And as far as keeping your parents from finding out, if your 16, you already know that answer. If you are 13, and you don't have the freedoms that a 16 year old has, then most likely you won't be able to hide it from them, they will figure it out. Because you'll feel so guilty. If you are 13, don't do it. it is not worth it. The boy benefits, while YOU take all the risks, getting pregnant, getting a reputation, getting punished and grounded for the rest of the summer, being a BIG dissapointment to your family.
I caution you to wait. Some day you'll know when you are ready. It does not sound like you are ready yet, not to me.
Michele
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