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hey! im carly and i am 13 years old! i live in ventura, california and i love it! i love longboarding, volleyball, golf, dance, tennis, shopping, i can go on for hours! i really appreciate you asking me for advice, and i sure hope i can help some of you guys out!

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I have the first symptoms of an eating disorder (yes this can be in Mental Health, it's a mental problem not a physical problem) and I'm really worried

I might sound crazy right now but there's this constant battle in my head. One part of me is saying not to do it that I should go and eat and the other is saying no! don't eat it's not worth getting fat.

I have no one I could talk to and except for parents and they would go crazy.
Ughh It's driving me crazy! I don't want to go and eat for then to realise I shouldn't have done and then go and binge and bring it all back up. Please help me.

ok, so let me tell you what can happen if you stop eating:
a.) your body will shutdown which will put you in a hospital and make you VERY sick
b.) you will become very weak because your body has nothing to digest
c.) and i am sure you parents will FLIP OUT if they find out what your doing!
now do you really want all those things to happen to you hun? i say that you need to start eating again, but lay off all the junk and start eating healthy! starving is definitely NOT the way to lose weight, that could only make you lose your life! just start doing pushups and situps in your room every day and maybe even start an activity to keep you in shape! i really hope you start eating again because i dont want anything bad to happen to you. just remember what your doing is very dangerous. i hope you keep my advice in mind! good luck!

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My younger sister is 11 and she weighs 130 pounds. I'm not sure if this is right, cause she looks pretty slim but is heavy. She asked me to ask you guys this since she is too young to join. By the way, I'm 13 and I'm 88 pounds.

ok, so you say she looks slim and she weighs 130 pounds? well to make you feel better, i dance, and dance is a very dificult sport that you have to put a lot of effort into. (oh and by the way, dance is a sport)and i am not very light but i am thin, muscular, and tall! i use to wonder why i was heavy, and then i found out that muscle weighs way more than fat and since i am so tall (i am 5'7") it makes me weigh even more! so dont worry! you are only the weight you are because you are tall, and muscular! and keep dancing girl! it can take you far!

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my hair has been falling out like crazy but its not normal falling out i mean its a lot of hair but i dont know why and i dont know if i should tell my mom

16/f

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this is a good question for me becuase my mom is a hair stylist and i know a little something about hair also. there are many products to use to make your hair stronger and healthier. also, i am sure you straighten your hair a lot which makes your hair VERY weak. if you DO straighten your hair, you should definitely stop for a while and just give your hair a break. you need to tell your mom about this because she needs to take you to a hair salon so they can give you products that can help. i dont think you should go to a store to buy it because you need a professional's opinion, and they will give you the best thing. i hope your hair becomes healthier soon and i sure hope i helped you! i wish you the best of luck!

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I am 16 years old and have this wanting of sex...My boyfriend and I have been going together for about 3 months now...We have talked about it and both really want to do it. ... But were scared of gettin pregnant...and scared that our parents will find out and we want be able to date each other any more..what do we do?
Signed, Wanting

ok, so your 16 years old? well i am definitely not trying to tell you "DO NOT HAVE SEX", but i really think you should wait. you have only dated this boy for 3 months, and i really think you need to get to know him better. also, you dont want the chance of getting pregnant, which could very possibly happen, and boy would your life go down the drain if you had a baby. maybe if you get to know this boy more and stay together with him, you guys could both grow a little more mature and a little wiser. just wait for that perfect moment, and dont rush anything. your life is just beginning. just be patient.

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Can you fall in love with someone even though you hardly know them?? I've liked this kid for like 4 years..and i hardly know him.

~I'm not sure

sure you can love someone from a far..but i think you should take an action. I think you need to introduce yourself and start talking to him! i really think if you like this person that much, that they should definitely meet you! never be shy! live life like it's your last day! and who knows, maybe this "kid" will turn out to be your soul mate!
Carly

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