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I sometimes take long breaks from the site. I'm more than happy to answer anyone's questions, but just make sure they're not too time sensitive. :)

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*bisexual
*advanced college degree
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advice

today is my one month anniversary and i want ot spend time with my boyfriend but im not allowed to hang out during the week. so should i sneak out or wait to the weekend to come? what would you do? i rate 5s

thanks for helping
kriddle06 :)

I know how awful this feels. I wasn't allowed to see my boyfriend for our one month and I was 8 hours away from him for most of our other monthly anniversaries. I wanted to be with him so bad, but there was just no way. Even though it feels really awful, it's better to wait for the weekend then have your parents mad at you. That doesn't mean you can't make it special though! Trust me I have a lot of experience with this one. Don't get down in the dumps about not seeing him, because it will only be one day! Tonight you can talk to him on the phone or on instant messenger. Think about how happy you are to have been with him for a month. You can send him kisses and roses and e-cards and stuff. Having to wait for a day actually makes it even more exciting. It's true that your one month only comes once, but your one month and one day only comes once too. If you have fun with it and not let not being able to see him get to you, you will have an awesome 1 month anniversary. I don't know if you go to the same school as him, but if you do you'll have seen him there. I hope you have a good time celebrating your one month even if you don't celebrate today. Good luck!

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Hey my chest has been feeling as if its really sore inside, i felt like my heart stopped more then 2 times, and now it feels as if a vein in my arm hurts..im getting chest x rays in the morning, does any1 know what it could be? please anwser asap. ALSO my stomach feels as if its really sore

I don't know if you can really feel your heart stop, but chest pains and pain in your left arm are symptoms of a heart attack! You should probably go the emergency room as soon as possible just to be safe.

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Hey, I'm new at Myspace and I was wondering if anyone knew any good websites that have layouts. I mean ones that they let u actually look at them, not just JUST the code. And also any sites that have music codes and cool stuff like falling stars and stuff. And how do I make friends and leave comments? And where do I put all the codes like backround codes and stuff? Thanks!

http://www.strikefile.com/myspace/reborn_3_5.htm

This site will generate a code for you and will allow you to see what it will look like before you chance your page. You can get music codes by clicking on the "music" tab at the top of myspace. Search by band name and it will give you the myspace profiles of that band. Some of them don't have music on them, but you should be able to find what you're looking for. If there's more than one page there's probably different songs on each one. To add the song to your page just click on the add button to the right of the song you want. To make friends, go to the person's page who you want to be friends with and under their picture there is box called contacting [so and so] One of the links in the box is "Add To Friends" click on this and a friend request will be sent to that person. They won't appear on your friend list until they accept this invitation. To add a comment you must be the person's friend. Go to the bottom of the person's existing comments and there is a link called "add comment". When you first sign into myspace or click on the "home" tab on the top partway down the page there's a box called "my mail". If there's anything new in there it could be a message from someone or a friend request. I don't know how to do the falling stars and stuff sorry :( someone else that answers this question probably will though so don't worry. Good luck!

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hey. i just met a girl about a week ago and weve only had one conversation but it was PERFECT. i knew that she was definetly the one. but heres the thing. i always act weird! ALWAYS. like sometimes im myself and confident and others im shy...and sometimes i talk to people trying to impress them. i have always done this and i hate it. what can i do to stop trying to impress people??

PS-please give real answers. what do i mean real? i mean no "just be yourself"/"dont think about it" crap.

This is a toughie. I've been in similar situtations and it's something that's really hard to control and can get really annoying! What's happening to you is that you are switching between being extroverted and being introverted. Certain situations make you feel certain ways so you react to your emotions. It's quite a rush to act confidently when you are really the complete opposite of that. I loved feeling this way when I did it, but I couldn't be like that all the time because it wasn't "me". As I settled down and hormones stopped raging a little, I realized that being embarrassed and shy was something that came with trying to fit in to the social world. I didn't want to be obnoxious and I wanted to be smart, pretty, pure, etc. The social structure of high school and the age that you're going through makes it very difficult to even know what "me" really is. Your conflict isn't with yourself, it's with your social life. You act differently than what you really are in order to remain "normal" in everyone's eyes, but sometimes you let yourself slip. Your "me" just like everyone else's isn't "normal".
Understanding what causes something is the best way to figure out how to fix it, so I hope that all of what I said is helpful to you in some strange way. Eventually you'll figure out who you really are, but for now don't worry about it so much. Everyone goes through this to some extent and some sooner than others. Being in a relationship with someone is the BEST way to sort all of this out. So, my advice is to try to get into a relationship with this "perfect" girl. Remember though, if things don't work out between you, she's not the only "one". I hope all of my jumping all around and writing a lot that probably makes no sense can be of some use to you. Good luck and know that you're not alone...everyone goes through this!

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(I just turned 13)
I have a problem...
I slept wit 3 in 2 days time period guyz right?
They r best friends (uh oh) & I really lyk one of em. (They is all about 16)
I dun want him 2 kno I been sleepin wit his two best budz...
I think he lyk me 2--but how do I hide it? Shud I tell him?
I think I be pregnunt wit hiz child. I'm really scurred, my rent would KILL me if dey found out I was sleepin around.
I missed muh period for a month. And da test camed out positive! wut is I gonna do?

You may be sexually or socially mature but do you really think that it is mature to sleep with three guys that are four years older than you in two days? Do you think it's mature to not use protection? (I'm guessing that you didn't, but if you did I'm sorry). Do you think it's mature to keep your pregnancy a secret when everyone is bound to find out in a few months? You can't know who's child you are carrying unless you get tests done. What you need to do is tell all three guys AND tell your parents. There's no fooling around now. It's time to start being responsible and to pay the consequences for your actions. You and all three of the boys you slept with made a HUGE mistake. You have to fess up to being pregnant because you can't hide it forever. On a lighter note, pregnancy tests are not 100% accurate. Make sure you take at least two before running around telling everyone you're pregnant when you're not. This is something that could change your life completely and you are going to need support from your family and the father of your child. Tell them all as soon as possible. I'm sorry that this happened to you, but you need to be strong and have faith and everything will turn out alright. Good luck.

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im sorry its long but i really really need help!!

my boyfriend dated this girl jessica, i dont know how long they dated but they did date for at least a few months! this was at least a year ago because we have been dating for a lil over a year and it was before us. he was her first kiss and stuff. now out of the blue she is calling him and he told me that they always talk during jazz band (class) and my friend justin said they always go in this dark room to talk and sometimes this other kid goes in there with them but its usually just them. this girl told my boyfriend that she likes him and she thinks he likes her. he said that he just wants to be friends. (im going off of everything he told me). then for his bday a week ago, she made him cookies... he said he asked her to get him something for his bday and she had cookies left over so she gave them to him but there were a lot of cookies in there so idk. the girl is constantly at his locker and talking to him and HE sits by her at lunch ALONE TOGETHER and she calls him and they talk for hours at a time. everytime i come around she leaves. i dont know what the hell to do but its not going away. i tried talking to him and he said that he doesnt wanna feel like he cant be friends with her. how do i deal with this cuz im ready to just bitch her out and be really really mad at my boyfriend because hes going with it and allowing it to happen. thanks in advance! also jessica keeps saying to everyone how hot my boyfriend is and she wont stop talking about him and stuff. now were fighting and he just doesnt understand anything. i tried talking to him but it doesnt work. everyone else (including guys) understand but he doesnt. grrrrr

It may seem like Jessica is trying to break you and your boyfriend up. Like she's purposely putting tension in your relationship by putting your boyfriend into situations that make you uncomfortable (and maybe him too). Like she knows that you'll get upset about it and she may be hoping that you two will break up so that she can be with him again. Now, don't get too excited, maybe she doesn't want any more than to be buddy buddy with your boyfriend. I've seen this happen a lot. Your boyfriend is going along with her but it seems like he's still being loyal to you. What you need to do is talk to Jessica about it nicely. Tell her how all of this is making you feel. You need to figure out if she wants more with your boyfriend than to just be really good friends. My guess is that she doesn't. They were really close for a few months and instead of being enemies after their breakup they've decided to be friends, which is a good thing. It's so easy to misinterpret her intentions because of her past with your boyfriend and your current attachment to him. So my advice to you is to take a deep breath and go talk to Jessica as if she were your best friend. Sounds crazy, but I'm pretty sure it will work...good luck!

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I'm a 16 year old girl who's been dating this guy I'm fully in love with for around 7 - 8 months. We're both still virgins but we've talked about losing our virginity to each other. Neither one of us has EVER did anything sexually with another person, so I'm pretty sure neither of us have any STDS or AIDS. So far, we've experienced everything but sex with each other. We've considered all the risks & have thought long and hard about this, but mind you, we are prepared and we do have a brain unlike half the teenage population. We both know that we are fully ready to do this in our minds & hearts. But, I have a question. Even though, we aren't married & we're gonna lose our virginity to each other.. and though we've been together for a while & are planning on beging together for a long time after this (possibly even marriage later on, but you never know what may happen).. do you think this is okay? Like sometimes it worrys me because I know in my heart that it's a sin to have sex before marriage, but we've talked about it & with our friends as well, and we all figured out that if you ask God for his forgiveness, he will accept it. I just want opinions on this.. do you think it's okay to have sex at 16 if you're mature & ready enough? I mean, what's the point in waiting until you're married? I know one reason is because it can be a sin and then another is because there's a possibility of having a baby, but if you're sexually "safe" with condoms & birth control, then you're chances are very slim to none for having a child. So any opinions or thoughts is welcome on this.. don't be afraid to express how you feel, it won't bother me. Thank you all very much! :)

I think that it's okay since both of you are ready for it. However, 7-8 months isn't all THAT long and people can break up after years of being together. You two are committed only through the titles of boyfriend and girlfriend, which are quite weak even if there is a very strong emotional and physical bond. Relationships that have been going strong for years can break up in the blink of an eye. You may not spend the rest of your life with this guy even if it seems so now. Not only do you need to be ready for sex in the sense that you are thinking of, but you also need to think about the emotional powers sex can have. You can't let sex be the driving force in your relationship and you can't let the fact that you are no longer a virgin affect possible future relationships. The emotional consequences of sex can be the worst. I've seen it turn very happy, nice, loving-life 15 year olds suicidal after break-ups. Make sure that you are able to handle the pain and regret that comes with losing your virginity to someone other than your life partner. Now, obviously this may not happen. You could very easily marry and spend the rest of your life with the guy you're with now. So no worries there. Think of it this way though, even though the chances of getting pregnant while using no protection are very small you still use protection no matter what...just in case. So even though the chances of you breaking up with your boyfriend may be very small you still need to be aware that it could happen. You need to prepare yourself for and accept the extra emotional stress having lost your virginity can put on a breakup...just in case. I'm neither encouraging you nor discouraging you from having sex, just making sure that you've thought this way about it, because when you're in a really great relationship sometimes it's very hard to. Good luck!

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ok, im 13 years old and i have had this boyfriend for about 7 months now. he is having majior family problems and doesnt know how to deal with them anymore. he is one of those people who keep things bottled up inside of him. i told him he could always talk to me about it but i dont think he is comfortable talking to anyone about it. well, he is getting like really depressed and he told me he doesnt know if he can handle it all anymore. he is thinking about running away or killing himself. i told him not to and i pleaed for him not to but i dont think it is getting through to him. he told me that the last thing he wanted to do was hurt me but he is REALLY anrgy. i dont know what to say or what to do. he told me if he does anything he'll come to school and say good bye to me and stuff. PLEASE PLEASE help me! im so scared!

-Leah-

Somehow you need to help him talk to someone about his problems. If he absolutely won't, encourage him to write in a journal. This way he's not keeping his feelings all bottled up, but he's not telling anyone about them either. Writing has really helped me out in the past and even though it seems kind of lame at first, it's a wonderful way to get stuff out of your system. It also lets you look at your feelings from an outside perspective, which can be really helpful. Keep offering to listen. Let him know that you care. Try to figure out what exactly is going on with his family. If he's being abused he needs to get out of there. He doesn't have to run away if he contacts social services. Type [your state] social services in a search engine and you'll be able to find a number or e-mail address. In New York you would contact the New York State Department of Family Assistance, but it's set up slightly differently for other states. Have him tell them what's going on and they will give him professional advice on what to do. It's completely confidential and I don't think he even has to tell them who he is. If your boyfriend won't contact them you can. I've done it before about people in very similar situations as your boyfriend. Good luck with everything and remember to keep encouraging your boyfriend and letting him know how much you care about him.

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okay... so my brother always swears at me and calls me fat and ugly and stuff... and he hits, punches, kicks, etc. me all the time. not enough to leave a bruise or anything (occasionally) but i'm not sure if this is considered abuse? also, my mom (my mom doesn't do it a LOT) and my sister both always tell me i'm stupid, ugly, fat, (same as my brother) but they don't hit me unless they're really mad... do you consider this abuse?

If you have to ask it probably is. What your brother is doing does sound like "sibling rivalry" and normal brother stuff. HOWEVER, your mother should not be doing what she is doing to you. She should be supportive of you and not call you names for any reason unless she's joking and she makes sure that you know that. My guess is that you're old enough where your mother shouldn't be hitting you either. I think that this is something you should talk to a counselor about. I can't really judge if it's abuse from what you've told me and I don't think many people on this site can. Good luck!

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I'm 25, male.
Theres this woman I like, Kim (20), who stays in a studenthouse, Sunday I went to visit, about to walk in the back door (frontdoors a mision) when roommate Joe openes the door and stands IN the door, telling me that they are busy studying or something, so I push past and say "then i'll just say hi and bye", two steps from Joe busy making tea stands Kim, with a pissed-off expresion on her face, I just smiled at her saying hi (thinking wtf)... after a minute she warms up to me and acts her old self.
Thought about this a while, yesterday I send her a sms saying that i thought it was pretty childish to get other people to send her troubles away.
Later we talk on the phone and she freaks, asking me how I could believe that she would ask her friend to send me away, that she NEVER told Joe to do anything of the kind and didn't know abaout it, that she doesn't need this extra shit in her life and threw a few other pots and pans my general direction and killed the conversation without listering.
I've always told her to tell me things straight, no matter if she thought it would hurt me, and that it would hurt more later on if she didn't.
If she needed some time alone she knows that I won't take it personally if she told me that herself.
One of the things I like about her is that shes not stupid, she was standing 2 steps away hearing everything, if I didn't bardge in I wouldn't have know that she was standing there, besides I not really friends with Joe.
I'm not stupid, I was honest with myself AND to her about how I feel and how I saw things.
Anybody willing to give some advice please, I could use some perspective on this, thanks in advance

She really overreacted. This all seems just like a big misunderstanding that Kim decided to take the wrong way and hold a huge grudge about. Some girls are like that, so don't think it won't happen again. It's just the way she is so don't take it personally at all. There's nothing you can really do about it. She will realize that she was being a huge witch, she may already have realized it. Maybe she'll apologize, maybe she won't, but she's sorry no matter what she does. I wouldn't worry about it at all. Act like nothing ever happened unless she brings it up. Then talk about it with her and afterwards act like nothing happened again. Sometimes with girls you just have to let them lash out at you for no reason. Some people need to do that...it's their way of letting go of bottled emotion. If it happens again don't say anything, don't look her in the eyes, agree to whatever she says, and it will be over shortly. Her being like this doesn't make her a bad person or abusive. Keep after her and good luck!

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I’m 13, in the 8th grade, and have a guilty pleasure. I’ve been raised in an intellectual household, with both parents having a Ph.D. Generally, I don’t watch T.V. So I was at my friend’s sleepover birthday party with 7 other girls, and she rented the First Season of the O.C. We watched 4 episodes---and I liked it! I feel kind of guilty, because I know that technically, the show is for advertising and eye-candy with a plot. But I can’t help it. That blonde what’s-his-face that stole a car and set a house on fire is really good looking. And it keeps me at the edge of my seat. Now I’m addicted! What should I do? Am I shallow for liking this?


Thanks

Cheyenne

I don't watch that much TV either so I kind of know where you're coming from. There's nothing like a good book! Anyways, the reason you don't watch TV shouldn't be because you are from an "intellectual" household...it should be simply because you just don't like it that much. It is good, however, to be exposed to what's on TV just as long as you don't let it reshape your values or anything like that. If you were considered shallow the entire country would be shallow...television is not a "guilty pleasure" by anyone's, but extremely fanatical people's standards. Just about everyone watches TV now and again and many people watch it constantly. There's nothing wrong with it at all, it's just a form of entertainment like a play. There are a lot of "intellectual" programs on TV too that you can learn a lot from. If you like the OC then watch it! It's not going to change who you are as a person, it'll just make you happy. Good luck!

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I have a question about men. I want to have children some day but havent found the right guy yet. When I do find a guy that I like, what are some signs that could tell me whether or not he would make a good father?
Also, is it a bad sign if the man is already in his mid 40's and has never had any children? Is there still a chance he might want kids at that age? I am 26 and know a guy that is 45 and I think he likes me, but he has never had kids.

The best way to tell how good of a father a guy would be is to watch how he acts around kids. I've worked at a summer camp for two years now and you can always tell who the best counselors will be right away. They interact with and entertain the kids instead of sitting on a picnic table, just making sure none of them get into trouble. It's not really a bad sign when older men don't have children. It could just mean that they haven't found the right woman to have them with. If you're going for someone that's 45 though, you may have a harder time having kids with him. Men don't go through menopause or anything, but their sperm do tend to get weaker as they age. Another thing...there's a considerable age difference between you and your potential partner. Be certain that he likes you for who you are, not just because he can get a piece of young ass (for lack of a better way to put it). Good luck and I hope I was able to help!

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I'm going crazy. When you make a pie chart in Microsoft Excel, the legend is just labeled as 1, 2, 3, 4...etc. Can you change what the label says? Can you rename the columns and rows? So instead of A it could be, like, Row 1 or something? If so, how do you do it? Thanks in advance. This is for my social studies fair project so I'd really appreciate it. :)

To change the legend lables right click on your graph and click on "Source Data". Under the "Series" tab, there's a box on the bottom called "Category Labels". Type what you want to appear insead of the numbers in a list separated by commas. As far as I know you can't change the names of the columns and rows. What you can do though is type what you want them to be in column A and row 1. Use the other rows and columns for your numbers.

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I am currently in the dating stages of life (like many people). I have dated about 5-10 people and i am a nice guy who is just the plain average guy. But everytime i date someone i always end up being broken up for some "bad boy" or someone who is along those lines. I am starting to think that a normal guy can't keep a girlfriend without having to become a total jerk and steal peoples girlfriends. i am just wondering if anyone would tell me what could i do to stop this in the future. i was thinking of starting to date someone and i dont want this to happen again.

A lot of times the reason that girls let go of good guys is because they aren't ready for committment. They feel like they could spend the rest of their lives with you b/c you're such a great guy and this scares them a lot. Not all girls are like that, I never was, and it seems so stupid because you'd think they wouldn't to get hurt, but when someone's not ready for something there's nothing that you can do. You don't want to be with a girl that isn't ready for you, you're just really mature for your age (which is a good thing). When you get older it will be different. Girls will start thinking more about the future and will start wanting to having more serious and long term relationships. Don't worry about it so much now and don't change yourself. Another thing...it's not the other guy's fault at all when girls leave you. It's entirely the girl's choice to leave you, so don't say that anyone is "stealing" your girlfriends like the girl can't think for herself or we're living in medieval times where girls were seen as prizes and posessions. She wouldn't have left you if that's not what she wanted for whatever reason. I know you're not like that and that you don't think that way, but it was bothering me so I had to say something about it. I don't mean to offend, just to correct. So my advice is to stop worrying because lots of people are in your situation and most everybody goes through at least a few breakups before finding the right person. A really great girl that is ready to be with you will come along soon enough. Good luck!

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I am known for having like the best parties and whateva, but I have never had a sleepova. I mean like one with more than just cousins. I need serious help. I want to do it when I get out for the Christmas Break. Any ideas', I mean I know I want games, and Like I want my house to be like a sotre from favorite candy, to favorite drinks and food. Imma do it up now. So do I need a theme? What kind of things should I put up? Help Thanks

You don't really have to do that much for a sleepover. The food is a must, and remember that sleepovers are usually based on gossip. Choose a room in your house (either your room or the living room) and set up cushions, pillows, matresses, etc so you and your friends can lounge around and talk. Games are a great way to get everything started so your friends get comfortable right away. Another good thing to have is a few movies (comedies) as a back up plan if you guys start to get bored. You don't want to make it look like you're trying too hard, but some decorations would be cool. Balloons are always fun and a good theme if you choose to do that is "winter wonderland" or something like that. Remember that sleepovers are just supposed to be really fun. I hope it all goes really well for you and try not to worry! Good luck!

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Hey I'm a guy and was just wondering about something...
I know its normal and not exactly their fault and everything, but when a girl goes through monthly stuff, what are we, the guys, supposed to do. I really don't mind it, but sometimes I feel like I need to help out my g/f with whatever the problem may be...but I can't. Should I just be there to talk and listen? That's what I've been doing so far. I mean I can't think of any good advice other than lie down, take some medicine, try to relax, and stuff like that. Should I try to help, or just stay out of the way? Is there any way I can help or no? I know I don't or ever will understand what it feels like or anything, but I'd still try to help with anything. Will rate, thanks in advance.

It depends on the girl. Some want everyone to stay away, some want to be treated exactly the same as usual, and want a little extra attention. Most people are saying STAY AWAY, but I have to disagree. You need to figure out what your girlfriend wants. All girls have different symptoms from menstruation and all girls react differently to them. Try to read what she wants. If she's quiet talk talk talk to her, if she's pissy act like her slave, if she's depressed be really nice and make her feel extra special by giving her compliments and doing things for her that'll make her heart melt. Only leave her alone if she tells you to. Don't leave her alone completely though. Make yourself easily available to her because her mood could change pretty quickly and you'll want to be there for her when she wants/needs you. Try not to talk about what she's going through unless she initiates the conversation. When and if she does be really understanding. Through everything be very sensitive and try to pick up the signals she gives you. She will let you know what she wants. I know this is a whole lot, but with practice (which you'll get PLENTY of) you'll get so good at it you'll do exactly what you should without thinking. Don't worry about making mistakes either, trial and error is okay because after the week is over she'll forgive you. She knows it's hard for you. Good luck!

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last year i lost a rgoup of friends. i met other ppl and i loved my new friends. now they left me and i have no idea why. they tell me that i was bitchy and that i hurt them and that i needed to change and be nice and love them. i do love them and i know i was a bithc and i know i need to change but i cant do it without them helping me. i am hurt and i cant stop crying. i love them all so much but they left. i dont know what to do.

haha sorry one more thing...I don't do this to get good ratings ("i don't know about you, but you gotta learn to appreciate what you get"). I do it to help people. A lot of the time good advice is something that people just don't want to hear.

Next time when you're asking a question for a friend say so...there's no reason not to. People can get really confused and if you want the best advice you need to be completely honest. I was actually wondering if your question was either untruthful or being asked by someone else because it just didn't seem like it came from a person in that situation. Your feedback would have made a lot more sense to me if I had known that you weren't really the person that needed advice. It's great that you ask questions so you can help other people, that's a really nice thing to do. I hope you can put yourself in my place and understand where I was coming from with what I said. Even though there was no way I could have known, I still feel very sorry for what happened.

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16/m. You've probably heard this topic before, and might even be sick of it, but I am curious to know what any and all of you think a 'nice guy' is. Is he a pushover? or is he the one who will lend a should to cry on? I want to know what you personally think a nice guy is, what qualities and personality traits would follow him, if you would want to have a nice guy as a boyfriend, and should there be more of them. Sorry it's a long question, but because too many people have so many different views on what exactly a nice guy is; I think this will offer everyone a chance to see things from a different perspective - nobody is right or wrong in this one. I'm not complaining saying its a bad thing or praising them either, just curious. Thanks

A nice guy is someone who is willing to put his girl above his own image on his list of priorities. He needs to treat her well in private and around his friends. He doesn't just have to care, he has to show that he cares. He needs to be strong enough to help a girl through all of her problems. A nice guy can read gils' emotions and be able to tell them what's wrong so they don't have to. Nice guys do nice things "just because". Guys that are complete jerks otherwise, can still be good to their girlfriends and be considered "nice guys". So, a nice guy basically understands a girl's needs and expectations of him and he does whatever he can to make her happy and be sensitive to her emotions.

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I have this friend and she is so gorgeous. So many guys like her and she is always talking about how they stare at her and how so many people call her beautiful. I try to be nice, but i can't help it, i am so jealus of her. Sometimes i'll be really mean to her but i dont mean to be and i feel so bad. She's really nice to me, but but whenever i bring up a topic about myself, she'll change the subject and talk about a guy liking her. Is there any way i can stop being jealus of her and get her to listen to me? thanks in advance.

Your friend is really conceited, that doesn't make her a bad person or anything, but I know that it can be really hard to deal with. What you need to do is talk to her about it. Tell her that you feel really intimidated by her and you'd wish that she would listen to you more instead of just brag about herself. Say it in a nice way and your point should get across. Make her feel like you need her. She's the type of person that needs people to make her feel good about herself and you needing her advice, help, or just to talk to will do this for her. Don't be jealous because being pretty has really gone to her head. Guys when they're younger tend to like girls who are obsessed with themselves. I'm sure you're attractive too and you probably have a little more to offer to a guy than just a pretty face. You're lucky because guys will like you for who you are not just what you look like. She could get into a bad relationship much more easily than you. If you try talking to her about how she's making you feel and she doesn't listen to you then she's not being much of a friend. You don't have to be mean to her or anything, but try finding friends that care about you, not just themselves. I know she has it somewhere in her heart to care, but you may not be able to get it out of her. Good luck!

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i know this is bad for me
so dont bother telling me to stop
i dont even smoke that regulary.. only when im stressed out lol
i always get dizzy?
is this normal? i mean ive only been smoking for about 3 months.. im not on 20 day.. im not even on 5 a week... more like 2 a week, it takes me about 2/3 weeks to get through a pack of 10.
could some one tell me why im feeling dizzy when i smoke?
thanks x x

You are getting dizzy because when you smoke less oxygen gets to your brain. That's what smoking does to everyone and that is where the "high" comes from. If it makes you dizzy, you know it's bad for you, and you're not addicted to it then why do you do it? There are so many better ways to deal with stess that are much healthier for you. Whenever I get stressed I exercise...take a little time out of each day and do something that you enjoy. Here are some websites that may help you learn how to better cope with stress.

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/diseases/facts/stressdealingwithit.htm

http://www.mindspring.com/~wholistic/teens_stress.html

http://familydoctor.org/167.xml

There are tons more...just type "dealing with stress" or something similar into a search engine! Good luck!

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