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So then what are we supposed to do?
Hey I'm a guy and was just wondering about something...
I know its normal and not exactly their fault and everything, but when a girl goes through monthly stuff, what are we, the guys, supposed to do. I really don't mind it, but sometimes I feel like I need to help out my g/f with whatever the problem may be...but I can't. Should I just be there to talk and listen? That's what I've been doing so far. I mean I can't think of any good advice other than lie down, take some medicine, try to relax, and stuff like that. Should I try to help, or just stay out of the way? Is there any way I can help or no? I know I don't or ever will understand what it feels like or anything, but I'd still try to help with anything. Will rate, thanks in advance.
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it really depend on your gf.if she feels sick,do what she asks but don't bug her.when i feel sick during my period i just like to be alone,but that may not be the case for your girl
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O_O AWK!
We get SOOO emotional during our peroids.
Do whatever she wants. Be there for her.
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Listen to her, you might not know how it feels but there are sometimes when im on my period that all i want to do is sleep and lay on the couch and go to sleep, be real sweet to her help her out alittle, do whatever you can to help. If she comes to school looking like crap comfort her and tell her she looks too beautiful for words to ever discribe.
hope i helped, pleas rate
xXSexyLadyXx
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Okay well when it comes to girls and the "monthly stuff", it sounds like you've got the good idea. It's nice that you wanna help her out and stuff, but really just sit there and like you said talk to her and listen to her and everything. If she ever spazzes out at you over a stupid thing, don't mind it, don't go off spazzing back at her. It's just she's moody. I snap at people sometimes. Anyways, ask her if maybe.. she wants anything. Chocolates always good, haha. I always crave chocolate and greasy foods. So maybe take her out to eat or something and just.. talk or something. I hope I've helped you out with "the monthly stuff" haha.
Love,
MELii
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It is hard to help out a girl when they are going through that. Honestly it can make it worse (depending)if you try to help. For your g/f, do little nice gestures like buying her a box of chocolates (or whatever she likes) or flowers, just the little stuff. If she starts crying not at you but just randomly then just let her cry it all out.
hope it helps
~blackstar~
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Hello.
When a girls going through her period or has cramps. Here's my advice. Get her some food, a rented movie, and you. Sit on the couch, put in the movie, eat the food together and when the movie is over, kiss her on the forehead and let her go to sleep. She'll be happy that your understanding. I know you don't understand how it feels. Just be sweet and put up with her if she's being a bitch.
She'll love you for it.
<3 Keri
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periods can be tough and the best thing to do is to comfort your girl friend. I think what your doing right now is so sweet and she must appreciate it. Also why dont you try to cheer her up, mabye bring her to a movie once in a while or a special dinner. Lie down with her when she is not feeling well and watch a movie and cuddle her. Tell her to take midol its the best. Hope I can help and you are doing a great job so far.
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Hey hunny,
Awww, you are the first guy I know of to actually care about that. Your girlfriend is really lucky. No, don't stay out of the way. For me, I'd drink tea, and some stuff my ex did for me, was let me lie down, while he got my medicine and made my tea. He understood and listened as well. He tried making me feel as comfortable as possible. Just having a guy around who cares and is willing to help with whatever she may need help with is a lot to a girl. I think with what your doing right now is just fine. I'm sure your girlfriend likes that a lot. There really isn't that much you can do besides listen, maybe get the medicine for her, and just let her relax, and don't take any of the mean stuff seriously, if she gets like that. Right now you're doing great with helping her out. x3
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Avoid her at all costs, but do not let her on to the fact that you are avoiding her. If she wants to hang out with you when she is PMSing, try to do keep busy with other things, but if she is persistant, you are going to have to hang around her.
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the best thing you can do is be nice to her. im sure you always are, and treat her well, but make sure to put a little extra effort into it during that week. it's not so much to ask for a little sympathy is it? thats the worst time of the month for girls and when we're told that we're having major pms issues...that makes us feel worse. so be extra nice, maybe do some small things for her that will mean alot to her. and the listening thing is good, to an extent but she may not want to do all the talking and would probably like it if you would talk too, even if it's about nothing, to help her take her mind off it. :)
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what you have to do is be supportive. Don't try to be her docter just be there if she needs you.
hope i helped.
~Jasmine~
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I would just suggest asking her if she needs anything...maybe if she's feeling sick, drop by and drop off some soup or something. Otherwise, she might just want you out of the way. Every girl is different.
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no there's not really a way that you could help out. All that you can do is tell her that you're there for her.
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It's nice that you're so considerate and caring towards your girlfriend. That alone probably goes a long way towards helping her out, no matter what time of the month it is.
As for periods, every girl is different. Some might get a bit teary, some might feel argumentative, some might feel physical pain or discomfort, and some might be absolutely fine. As a general rule, if the hormones are going to affect your girlfriend, it'll actually happen the week or so BEFORE her period, not during her period.
If you're comfortable asking her, why not see what she'd like you to do. She might want to carry on as normal, she might want you to leave her alone, or she might want some TLC. Ask her during a time of the month when she isn't feeling PMS and can give you an objective opinion. Listen closely to what she says, and then act on what she says if you are comfortable with it.
Because periods affect everyone differenty, the only person who can tell you what's best is your girlfriend.
Good luck!
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It depends on the girl. Some want everyone to stay away, some want to be treated exactly the same as usual, and want a little extra attention. Most people are saying STAY AWAY, but I have to disagree. You need to figure out what your girlfriend wants. All girls have different symptoms from menstruation and all girls react differently to them. Try to read what she wants. If she's quiet talk talk talk to her, if she's pissy act like her slave, if she's depressed be really nice and make her feel extra special by giving her compliments and doing things for her that'll make her heart melt. Only leave her alone if she tells you to. Don't leave her alone completely though. Make yourself easily available to her because her mood could change pretty quickly and you'll want to be there for her when she wants/needs you. Try not to talk about what she's going through unless she initiates the conversation. When and if she does be really understanding. Through everything be very sensitive and try to pick up the signals she gives you. She will let you know what she wants. I know this is a whole lot, but with practice (which you'll get PLENTY of) you'll get so good at it you'll do exactly what you should without thinking. Don't worry about making mistakes either, trial and error is okay because after the week is over she'll forgive you. She knows it's hard for you. Good luck!
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Its probably safer if you just stay out of the way!
There really is nothing you can do. The reason being you never know from one minute to the next what might set a girl off if she has PMS.
The first day is usually the one where she will get cramps or whatever. After that she should be fine. It isn't like they are sick or anything (though there might be some who play it that way).
Sounds like what you are doing is great. Just keep doing what you're doing. :)
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Girls are very moody on their periods. We tend to PMS a lot. Anyways.
I think it's really sweet how you want to help her out, but this time of the month you really can't.
When she is bitching and complaining, listen to her & do not argue and let her be right.
If she needs to talk to, talk to her. Tell her she is beautiful and actually mean it. Be really sweet when she says I'm not in the mood, just don't say anything.
If she says leave me alone, do it. She doesn't mean it in that way but it's part of the process.
<B>EDIT</B> Thank you for the feedback!!
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I would just treat her like you normally do. Whatever you do, DON"T say something insensitive like"Oh, someones on the RAG."
When I'm on my period (since you wanted to know what it feels like), I get really tired and more irritable then usually. Basically we are peeing out blood so we feel like a leaky faucet for several days. My back gets really sore and I break out more than normal. It also leaves a real mess on our panties if our pad leaks and I'm always worried that I smell.
Remember, every girl is different. Some get worse PMS then others. In the most extreme of cases, one women was found (by her husband) to have taken all of the living room furniture out on to the front lawn.
Most periods only last about 4-5 days. Just be sensitive. Oh, and if you want a way to calcualate when your girlfriend will get her period, her is a scientific method. When your girlfriend gets her period, on the first day it starts mark it on your calendar. Then count 28 days after the day her period starts. This will tell you excactly when her next period will start, so you can be prepared for some mood swings several days before.
hope to have helped
buzzie
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ok, first of all, dont ever bring up the phrais pms around her. if you do, she might get really pissed off. it might be a sortof good idea to stay out of the way, because if you slip and make her mad you might get, like, runover. if you guys get in a fight, just give in. take her to the movies or buy her chocklate. chocklate is better than like, annyother medicine. or ice cream. it doesnt sound like mutch, but if you get her chocklate or ice cream it will help in a BIG way. hope i helped
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Well you get brownie points for being cute and trying to help your girlfriend. =) But yeah, all you could do are the things you said in your question and just listen to her when she needs to talk to someone or let her cry on your shoulder and comfort her when shes being emotional or anything. Other than that, theres nothing you can do but again, brownie points for caring!
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Well, try to be extra nice to her. If she complains about anything just listen to her.
If she says her back hurts, massage it.
If she's craving chocolate like most girls on their period do, buy her her favorite kind of chocolate.
If she wants to talk, talk to her.
Anything she complains about, try to fix it.
If she says she's not in the mood to talk, DO NOT TALK.
When she says she looks like shit, tell her she's beautiful.
When she bitches at you just try not to take offence to it.
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