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Mistake
I know a lot of people can relate to this. My first time was wit my "First Love". We broke up like 4-5 months after my first time. I mean now I regret it or whateva but can I actually get my mind back to thinking like he's not really my first because my cherry didn't bust. He didn't put it all the way in. I mean I really dislike him. Is that bad? Can someone help me to get my mind off of it. Please no DUMB, Smart answers, if you have a smart comment then keep it to yourself because I am already hurting in the inside and to come on here and get jugded by ppl I don't know is even more devastating. THank you
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well if you dont love him and move on and do some thing to keep you busy you dont think of it
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If his penis went inside your vagina at all, then you are not a virgin anymore. This might make you feel worse, but it is a fact.
However, you made a decision that you may or may not have felt comfortable with at the time...and now it seems like you are unhappy with what you decided. While you can't go back and change time, you can try to apply what you've learned here to future relationships - it's a given that every relationship will not last, and that it will hurt when they end...but also that one day you'll find the right person for you. It's a long, bumpy road and you've just hit a very big lump.
How to get over a relationship? Whatever makes you feel best. Pamper yourself, talk to a friend, paint, write in a journal, write poems, learn a new language. All of these things will help vent your emotions, and they will also help time pass. Time will help you gain more perspective, heal the wound, and be ready to move on.
I wish you the best, and no - it's not bad to feel angry or dislike your ex. It's one way people cope when relationships end, and you don't need to feel bad about it.
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Dear Mistake,
Let me tell you about my first time with my first love. It lasted 5 minutes. Later that day he started telling our friends that I wasn't a virgin to begin with and that I was very loose. This hurt me bad because I WAS a virgin. He was so small that I didn't feel a thing. He too, did not break my cherry, but I didn't say anything because I loved him. He broke up with me less than a week later. I cried myself to sleep for months. All the while he went through girlfriend after girlfriend after girlfriend. I finally was over him, but it took a while.
I too disliked him for the way he treated me. I also felt sorry for him because of how inadequate he was. Maybe that's why he went through so many girlfriends. I finally told myself that he did not count as my first time and went on with my life. Every experience in your life makes you who you are. You have a second chance at your first time because he did not pop your cherry or put it all the way in. To take your mind off of it, read some books on Tantric sex. Practice on yourself and when you have mastered the art, then start looking for another boyfriend. That way the when you have sex, you will blow the his mind and you'll be to good for him to want to leave you. I just wanted you to know that I can relate to how you are feeling and life does go on, it just takes a little time.
Keep your head up and keep smiling. Good Luck and Happy Halloween :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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hey hun im in the same boat as you. My ex and i did it, and he was my first, but i didnt let him go in all the way either. I thought i was the only 1 that did that. My moms words were always in the back of my head! I still consider myself a virgin yet because my hymen is still intact.
It hurts, and its gonna for a long time. Its been year for me, and im still not over it. I went through, the "i hate him" phase, to "i still love him" phase. I dont think that there is a way. The only thing that helps me get through it, is knowing HE DIDNT TAKE MY VIRGINITY!!! i let him know that too!!
Hang in there hun! Someday you will find a guy whos truly worthy of you.
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