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abuse??
okay... so my brother always swears at me and calls me fat and ugly and stuff... and he hits, punches, kicks, etc. me all the time. not enough to leave a bruise or anything (occasionally) but i'm not sure if this is considered abuse? also, my mom (my mom doesn't do it a LOT) and my sister both always tell me i'm stupid, ugly, fat, (same as my brother) but they don't hit me unless they're really mad... do you consider this abuse?
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yep sure is.tell them yes i am fat but at least i CAN loose weight if i wanted you will never loose your pathetic personality itll just get worse as you get older...thats if telling them how you feel and consulting your parents doesnt work
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Well we all know that sisters and brothers fight and thats there nature. Let me just say I have had my own experiances. But if your brother and mother are hurting you on purpose I would tell an authority that you can trust...maybe a nurse at your school or a teacher. If your older than maybe you should try talking to them and your sibblings. Maybe at dinner at the table. That is all I can say...just be safe.
ASKBRITT
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you need to become a bitter bi*** and stand up and tell them to kiss off. you don't deserve to be treated that way. and you deserve a better family. you can tell them that too. let them know that their childesh words won't crush your sperit. maybe they put you down because they really hate theirselves. don't let it get you down. your better than them.
hope i helped.
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no not really but they should not do that you need to tell some one that they are doin that to you god made you they way you are and if people dont like you for you than they dont have to look at you tell some one that you trust well i hope i helped you any
tiffany
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yes you should do something about it
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Awe, im soo sorry your family treats you like crap!!! And yes, it is abuse, both mental and pyshical abuse.
1) You could talk to them about them and tell them you will report to the police if they do it again. If they laugh at what you have to say, next time, report it. Then you'll be laughing.
2) Tell your counselor. She'll probably want to set up meeting or something with you and your family and discuss the issue.
Good Luck
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Of course this is abuse...Physical and verbal.
Well here's my advice. If one of them happen to hit you again and it DOES leave a mark, go to the police IMMEDIATELY.
Best of luck!
I hope this helped =]
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Depending on where the are hitting you.If they hit you in the face or anything like that then thats abuse. My brother use to hit me too. But i bet your not fat b/c i dont consider anyone fat and he shouldnt do that to you. Sometimes wen people make fun of you its b/c there is something about you that makes them jealous. I bet that if they are not leaving any bruises its not abuse unless they smack you across the face then you should notify the authorities
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Abuse can come in not just the physical form, it can also be mental. Question for you- Who started being abusive to you first, your mother or brother? The reason I ask that is that many times, other children take their cue on how to treat others by what they witness and if your brother started being abusive to you after he witnessed your mother doing it,then he may be doing this because your mother's actions are telling him it's okay. In my opinion, this is abuse and this type of abuse will eventually (if it hasn't already) color your views as to how you see and feel about yourself. What are the good points about you that YOU feel make you special and worthwhile?? Is there anyone else you can live with that may see this abuse and want to help you? Also, I have experienced abuse from people when they actually felt insecure about themselves and beating up on me and making me feel worhtless built them up in a sick, twisted way. Again, this is abuse, abuse isn't just physical and please try to get help by either telling someone at school, another family member, or the local authorities. Sometimes, abuse goes too far and it may be recognized, unfortunatley when it is too late. A record needs to be kept of your hardships, just in case it needs to be used later.
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mental and emotional yes. go get some help. being in that environment will only make matters worse and things like that. you will grow up with a very low self confidence and have many issues later in life. trust me my mom had that happen to her and she has had many mental and emotional problems since. so go do something about it.
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Dear abused
When I was younger, my older bros picked on me. Some of it is natural, but yes i would call it abuse because if theire mad and they hit you, thats using you as a punching bag. And they are your family, theire supposed to comfort you in your bad times and love you and treat you with some respect. Nobody deserves to be abused. The only advice is to treat them with goodness, fight evil with good. Good luck ;]
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If you have to ask it probably is. What your brother is doing does sound like "sibling rivalry" and normal brother stuff. HOWEVER, your mother should not be doing what she is doing to you. She should be supportive of you and not call you names for any reason unless she's joking and she makes sure that you know that. My guess is that you're old enough where your mother shouldn't be hitting you either. I think that this is something you should talk to a counselor about. I can't really judge if it's abuse from what you've told me and I don't think many people on this site can. Good luck!
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Dear Abuse,
Yes, any hitting or degrading name calling is abuse. Personally, I would not put up with it!! I do not know how extreme the abuse is that comes from your mom, but if she was a good parent she would not be calling you fat and stupid or hitting you. That is mental and physical abuse. It's also against the law. Unfortunately, the fighting among siblings is up to her to stop.
Let me tell you what I did when my sister would hit or call me names. I found small ways to get her back without actually even touching her. One time I nailed her favorite shoes to the floor. Another time I sprinkled itching powder on all of her clothes paying close attention to her underwear. Then took the itching powder and sprinkled it on the toilet paper in the bathroom. I kept a roll hidden in my room that I would secretly take with me into the bathroom so I was not using the contaminated roll. (itching powder can be picked up at any gag shop in the mall) I put a dead fish in a sock behind her dresser. That made her hole room stink and she had no idea where it was coming from. I even waited for her to leave one day and used a needle and thread to sew the legs of some of her pants together. Not perfect stitches but solid ones.
I got into trouble every time I pranked her, but it was worth it to see her fall on her face when she put her pants on or tried picking her shoes up off the floor. The funniest though was watching her itch her butt every time she put underwear on. Eventually she got the hint that every time she hit me, or called me names I pranked her. Vaseline on the phone receiver was another good one or super gluing her hair brush and make up to the counter was classic. Dog poop in her backpack, jelly in a pocket or hair remover in the shampoo. The possibilities are endless. Most of my pranks were harmless, but it got the point across that IF I wanted, I could seriously ruin her day. It showed her that I had access to her when ever I wanted, and that left her feeling paranoid. I even let her know as long as she abused me, she would have to wonder if her underwear were spiked or if her shampoo would leave her bald. She stopped hitting and calling me names and the pranks stopped.
Please do not let the way they treat you stunt your spirit. Don't flip out and kill your family while they sleep either. People are driven insane all the time from being tormented and then they flip out. Don't let this happen to you. A sense of humor will see you through these tough times. It will make you a better person. Everything you endure in your life makes you who you are. What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger. Learn self defense and defend yourself.
If things are really bad, and your family truly abuses you for no reason, then maybe you should talk to an authority figure, like a teacher or counselor. You can even call CPS (Child protective services) yourself. Even tell your mom that if she hits you, or allows anyone else in the family to hit you, that you will report the abuse. But if you do this be sure that the abuse is serious and that there is evidence of it. Keep a diary of the fights and abuse. Your accounts of the events must be accurate and honest, no lies. That diary can be used in a court of law as evidence of abuse.
What ever you do, try not to let their negativity consume you. Don't hit them back, don't call them names. This will only feed their desire to abuse you even more. I wish I could help you more and I do not have all the answers (I wish I did). I can only tell you to keep your head up, keep smiling and be strong. Good Luck
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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this reallly sounds like a case of sibling rivalry just dont respond or hit them back if it gets any worse talk to someone at school like a frend or a teacher counselor etc if ya ever need to tlk to anyone sand me a email sammygamy@hotmail.com or if ya really want ring me 01912641449 im in the uk tho so email wud prob be best lol i get like home scooled so im here constantly so anytime im here
also for the not fighting back thing look up janeism there the ultimate passafists
hope i helped
all my luck sam
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the brother and sister thing is stuff that you do when your young.
me and my brother used to get into fist fights when we were younget and i would have bruises all over cuz he obviously could hit harder.
when you get older you will all get along, trust me, i've experienced it and so have the friends that i have told this. just give your siblings time to grow up. hit back darn it, i would.
if your mom hits you for no reason then yes its verbal abuse. and she shouldnt be doing stuff like that. if she loves you then she wouldnt hit you, especially when its for no reason.
your very brave to be going trough all of this...but your not alone otay?
If you need more advice then leave me a question in my inbox otays? im here.
Sam
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