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PLEASE HELP!!!!
im sorry its long but i really really need help!!
my boyfriend dated this girl jessica, i dont know how long they dated but they did date for at least a few months! this was at least a year ago because we have been dating for a lil over a year and it was before us. he was her first kiss and stuff. now out of the blue she is calling him and he told me that they always talk during jazz band (class) and my friend justin said they always go in this dark room to talk and sometimes this other kid goes in there with them but its usually just them. this girl told my boyfriend that she likes him and she thinks he likes her. he said that he just wants to be friends. (im going off of everything he told me). then for his bday a week ago, she made him cookies... he said he asked her to get him something for his bday and she had cookies left over so she gave them to him but there were a lot of cookies in there so idk. the girl is constantly at his locker and talking to him and HE sits by her at lunch ALONE TOGETHER and she calls him and they talk for hours at a time. everytime i come around she leaves. i dont know what the hell to do but its not going away. i tried talking to him and he said that he doesnt wanna feel like he cant be friends with her. how do i deal with this cuz im ready to just bitch her out and be really really mad at my boyfriend because hes going with it and allowing it to happen. thanks in advance! also jessica keeps saying to everyone how hot my boyfriend is and she wont stop talking about him and stuff. now were fighting and he just doesnt understand anything. i tried talking to him but it doesnt work. everyone else (including guys) understand but he doesnt. grrrrr
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well that seems reali suspitious sence everyone els understands then there must be somthin going on i think you should talk to the gurl jessica n seee whats up but try to be nice or els she wont say anithing and try talkin to your bf again say that your his gf and you care about him n you need too no whats up with him hanging around his x-gf tell him you dont mind if he hangs around with her sometimes but say you hang out with her way too much like always !! hope i helped xOx !!
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hey, you should definately talk to him about this.. i know i wouldn't like it if my bf was doing that and i know how it feels to have a girl trying to get on your property, if you know what i mean lol.. it's not pretty and well, it sucks..i don't know your personality but i know me i'm shy so i couldn't really say anything to them about it UNLESS they did it in front of my face, but if i were you i'd tell the bitch to back off and i'd talk to him about it.
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well you need to find a good place to talk and get him and just sit him down and be like, whats up with you, whats up with her .. whats going on, is there something i dont know about? is there something i need to notified about? whatevers going on i dont like it .. and make him choose if he really loves you and cares about you as much as you think, test him! see the truth behind things, well good luck!
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omg i would so hit her.. well thats me i get really jealous about boys you should try to talk to her and him. tell him how you feel i know sometimes that doesnt work so try to get him to look at it from your perspective lik what if i was talking to my ex boyfriend and basically pretending were going out what would you do? if he really cares about you he will listen and try to fix it. dont let him use that oh so i cant be friends with her? dont let him make you feel guilty your defenitly right in this situation and he is totally in the wrong. he shouldnt even make you question what hes doing. i hope it works out good =]
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Talk to him again, but make sure you're going about it the right way. Explain to him what shes saying and point out how shes trying to break you two up, and how she always leaves when you come around. Tell him that you like him a lot (or love him, depending on how you feel) and that you dont want anything to come inbetween you two. Say that he can be friends with her, but it makes you uncomfortable how they are always alone and how she says she likes him. Say if he and her are really just friends, then the three of you should be able to hang out. ( I know shes a bitch and you wont wanna do that, but its better than them being alone. Plus if he doesnt want to or she doesnt, then it shows there is more then just friendship) Just make sure you are really sweet, and say you are trying to cope with it. Just dont yell or say they cant hang out at all, because then you seem like the needy girlfriend. And try to throw in a compliment or 2 ("I can see why she wants you, I mean your so hot" or something like that)
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Hm it seems to me like Jessica likes your boyfriend and is trying to ruin things between you to, so then you two will break up, and then he'll be back on the market. But don't instantly believe that. That's just my view on the situation. I would try talking to her some time and ask whats going on. Just ask her if she has feelings of "more than friends" with your boyfriend and explain to her how it's upsetting you and such. Also, I'd suggest talking to your boyfriend. Explain how your just getting worried because the two of them hang out ALOT and everything. That you don't mind them two being friends, but it's just sometimes it seems like she wants to be more than friends, and it's worrying you. Because this situations tough. They could just be really really good friends here, or he could possibly be cheating on you. And if he is, then break up with. You don't deserve that at all. =/ I would have a huge serious talk with your boyfriend and find out exactly whats going on. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
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It may seem like Jessica is trying to break you and your boyfriend up. Like she's purposely putting tension in your relationship by putting your boyfriend into situations that make you uncomfortable (and maybe him too). Like she knows that you'll get upset about it and she may be hoping that you two will break up so that she can be with him again. Now, don't get too excited, maybe she doesn't want any more than to be buddy buddy with your boyfriend. I've seen this happen a lot. Your boyfriend is going along with her but it seems like he's still being loyal to you. What you need to do is talk to Jessica about it nicely. Tell her how all of this is making you feel. You need to figure out if she wants more with your boyfriend than to just be really good friends. My guess is that she doesn't. They were really close for a few months and instead of being enemies after their breakup they've decided to be friends, which is a good thing. It's so easy to misinterpret her intentions because of her past with your boyfriend and your current attachment to him. So my advice to you is to take a deep breath and go talk to Jessica as if she were your best friend. Sounds crazy, but I'm pretty sure it will work...good luck!
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i would talk to the gril. be nice at first be like hey i dont respect that your talking tomy guy and saying how hot he is .. and then if she is bitchy back to her leave the frist time then go tell ur boyfriend and see what he says and if he still doesnt do anything tell him you cant talk to him until he fixes the problem and that you cant handle it and you really dont want to lose him to anouther girl and that you want him to have friends but you dont want to be left out. hope i helped..
~*Deb*~
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From what you said, it seems like there is something suspicious in your boyfriend's story. I'd be wary of trusting everything he told you. Go with your instinct, it is usually right. If you think that they still have a relationship, and he is cheating on you, he isn't worth being with.
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