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I am currently in the dating stages of life (like many people). I have dated about 5-10 people and i am a nice guy who is just the plain average guy. But everytime i date someone i always end up being broken up for some "bad boy" or someone who is along those lines. I am starting to think that a normal guy can't keep a girlfriend without having to become a total jerk and steal peoples girlfriends. i am just wondering if anyone would tell me what could i do to stop this in the future. i was thinking of starting to date someone and i dont want this to happen again.
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Your problem is, that you are dating women who prefer those so called "bad boys." Just be more meticulous about who you date and you will find the people who get along with you.
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A lot of times the reason that girls let go of good guys is because they aren't ready for committment. They feel like they could spend the rest of their lives with you b/c you're such a great guy and this scares them a lot. Not all girls are like that, I never was, and it seems so stupid because you'd think they wouldn't to get hurt, but when someone's not ready for something there's nothing that you can do. You don't want to be with a girl that isn't ready for you, you're just really mature for your age (which is a good thing). When you get older it will be different. Girls will start thinking more about the future and will start wanting to having more serious and long term relationships. Don't worry about it so much now and don't change yourself. Another thing...it's not the other guy's fault at all when girls leave you. It's entirely the girl's choice to leave you, so don't say that anyone is "stealing" your girlfriends like the girl can't think for herself or we're living in medieval times where girls were seen as prizes and posessions. She wouldn't have left you if that's not what she wanted for whatever reason. I know you're not like that and that you don't think that way, but it was bothering me so I had to say something about it. I don't mean to offend, just to correct. So my advice is to stop worrying because lots of people are in your situation and most everybody goes through at least a few breakups before finding the right person. A really great girl that is ready to be with you will come along soon enough. Good luck!
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Well hunn, there isnt many guys out there like you, and too bad.. Guys who care and are sweet i seem to think are no where to be found... Most girls like the bad boy image it makes them look and feel better walking around arm to arm with someone " COOL ", but those girls are the ones who get there heart broken and cry everynight... I dont think you should change a thing sweetheart, Just do what your Doing be sweet and whatever makes you feel good, w/e you do DONT BE FAKE.. be yourself make her laugh.. Because laugther Beats Tears hunn, and those girls who blew you off, once there alone cause that BAD BOY wants another girl , they will be wishing they would have gave you chance! BUT GOOD LUCK ,,, WISH I COULD MEET YOU..... BIG SMILE... You can Email me at Sophia_Sorgente@hotmail.com if you have any questions
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I don't understand it either. There are these dating shows on T.V. One of them is called Elemidate. I watch this show in total amazement sometimes because the guy or girl picks the bitchiest/jerkiest girl/guy there. The winner is the one who out insults, aggravates, agitates, instigates and pushiest. They want to see people fight over them. I don’t get it because these are the very people who will make your life miserable if you are in a relationship with them. What you see them do is how they will treat a person if they were in a relationship with them and if anyone thinks any different they are wrong. Why would anyone want to encourage this behavior? You rarely hear about these people hooking up permanently. No small wonder. Bad boys are exciting and it is addictive. They keep women wondering what is going to happen and they keep them on edge. This raises serotonin levels, which can be addictive. People keep going back because they love the feeling that it brings up. The problem here is there is no permanence to this. These people can’t hold it together for very long which is why they stay illusive. They break up with them and go back to them to keep them off balance. They don’t want anyone to know that there isn’t much there. Don’t worry. You are the perfect catch. As you get older people will start to figure it out. But, sadly others won’t and will have a lifetime of misery. What do you do in the meantime? Stay true to yourself. Come up with fun and different ideas for dates. Dates don’t always have to be about dinner and a movie. Find out if the person you like has any special interests like art, hiking, boating, plays, football, basketball…the list could go on and on. Mix things up every now and again. Also, ask her if there is anything special she’d like to do sometime. Most of all, just be yourself. Everything will work out, I promise.
Good Luck
LULABELLLE
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well..what i think is..your just going for the wrong girls. i dont no why a bunch of gurls r attracted to the "bad boys" but there are also a bunch who arent. gurls want someone who will be sweet and who will show them love. but not too bunch. she doesnt want u to think shes obsessed. so be sweet and loveable..but also fool around in a good way. but not to the point where she thinks its immature. be yourself and gurls will love you for it. x3
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aw, don't become a jerk to hang onto or get a girl. There are far to many of those on the planet as it is.
I don't know why it s the girls go for the bad boys. They usually wind up getting hurt. There is nothing wrong with being the average good guy. Plenty will want you.
Throw a little romance in your relationships. It doesn't have to be anything you buy. A girl wants to feel shes special. Treat her special and she will fall head over heels. Call her just to say goodnight, leave a little note where she will find it later. Use your imagination!
Good luck to you, don't change. :)
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Maybe you're just going for the wrong girls. A lot depends on age too - many girls who want 'bad boys' now will regret the fact that they passed up their chance with the 'nice guy' now!! Don't become nasty, any decent girls will just lose respect for you. Just hang on in there, the right girl will be along soon!
You said that you are the 'plain average guy'. Well, that's all fine, but try and be a little more interesting when in a relationship - buy her spontaneous gifts every now and then, or if you don't have the money buy her something other than the usual roses and chocolate. Even put up with a couple of girlie movies for her. Take her out somewhere romantic - you could even tell her to get dressed up but not say where you're going and then blindfold her once she's in the car (it sounds horrible lol but do it in a nice way, have a laugh) and drive her/send the taxi to her fave restaurant or something.
Good luck!!
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