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I sometimes take long breaks from the site. I'm more than happy to answer anyone's questions, but just make sure they're not too time sensitive. :)

Facts about me:
*happy
*employed
*married
*large extended family
*bisexual
*advanced college degree
*no kids (yet)

advice

(Rating: 4) Hi, thanks for the advice and sorry for the delayed feedback. I had a look on the internet for Sevin Dust and it says that its useful against “Japanese Beetles, Ticks and Worms”, not spiders. But I will keep an eye out for similar products, thank you.
(Rating: 5) Thanks yeah I kind of thought maybe I was just making a big deal about nothing but I wasn't sure
(Rating: 5) Thank you so, very much for your wonderful, intelligent advice and I'm sorry it took so long to thank you for it. It means so much to me and everything you've said sounds perfect it's definitely useless to argue with people about where Levi is as you've said and I'm planning to go see a counselor as soon as I can. Thank you so much and God Bless.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for reading and for answering. Your answer is very true and I really appreciate it!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much! I was so happy to see an answer from someone so sweet and understanding. I do not have a union right now because I'm working in a private school. But, perhaps there is somewhere similar that I can take this to! I feel better that someone outside the situation told me that it's okay to leave if I found a better job. Sometimes, I can be hard on myself and it's nice for someone to tell me it's okay and that I'm in the right to be concerned. Thanks again! Blessings. xoxo
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(Rating: 5) You're so right. Thank you!
(Rating: 5) Yes thank you!!!!! This had been driving me crazy!!!!
(Rating: 5) Thanks! The texts may not have been meant to be cold, its kind of hard to interpret emotions over texts messages.They were just brief like "keep in touch" or "ok" like I was being a burdan. I don't want to seem "clingy" Because I'm not clingy. As for age, I left that out, but he's only 6 yrs older than I, and we're both above 20. He kind of caught me off guard with that dream, I mean I was kind of in the middle of trying to get a ride home lol.And when I heard that I kind of found myself lost for words, I felt more embarrassed than anything. And yes, he does keep bringing up the lunch, even told me he hasn't forgotten about it.I too have been busy with family matters. I guess maybe he's just waiting for me to make a move.I just don't trust people very easily.Its a flaw of mine.
(Rating: 5) Anxiety is exactly what I have! You are very right, especially with the evidence. I really have nothing but the little things I mentioned in my question. I know I need to see someone. Y'all just don't understand how real this all feels to me. I know his parents are not us. But I have lied, I have cheated. I told him. He trusts me. I just don't know why its so hard for me to trust him. Its all taking me back. The BJ, the gym and lies I THINK he is telling me. :( when the two (my husband and his friend) are in a room together I feel like crying and running away. They don't do anything in front of me. But it makes me feel uncomfortable. We haven't went to the gym for a while. I told him after I started having my doubts that I didn't want him or me to go anymore. Its been months since we have went.
(Rating: 3) I've made bracelets for my arms to cover the dark burns, but my legs I think I'll just wear a long sheer shirt so my thighs are covered. Thanks I guess
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. You're totally right and you're advice has made me feel so much better. I'm just gonna follow it, believe in Jesus, try to do as the Bible says and I'm sure everything will be fine. I should have never worried so much. Thanks again and God Bless you.
(Rating: 5) Thanks, this really helped. I've kinda been in denial about my whole situation but now my mom's taking me to see a doctor or a nutritionist to help.
(Rating: 5) Thank you SO much for your answer! :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you for all the advice and the information it will be very helpful
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for responding. I have been using contact lens for about a week and was paranoid for no reason haha.
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much! :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you for telling me!
(Rating: 5) Thanks!
(Rating: 4) Not saying he doesn't like it, his responses just aren't the same anymore. So it makes me wonder. And thanks for the advice, I was shaving every day so that was probably the problem. Would using shaving cream when I shave every other day make it dry and irritated?
(Rating: 5) Thank you!
(Rating: 5) That makes the two of us more knowledgeable now! Thank you very much :) I tried some omnious google searches but it did not get me very far... You appparently did a much better job! Thanks again and at least you benefitted aswell :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you SO much for this advice and telling me what happened to you and that POEM! you seriously changed my life forever and i love you for it! THANK YOU!
(Rating: 5) Thanks, that was supportive
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much!! :) Never thought about it this way! Going to try this!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much!!! :) My period should be coming in a few days, and club swim team is starting next week so this could not be more helpful! This is the best advice I could have asked for. I'll for sure need that luck and will try my best not to get discouraged this time!
(Rating: 5) My parents have a strong cultural and religious background. We are from South Asia (Pakistan) and are Muslims. So as you can see, the two don't mix quite well because they mix cultural values and beliefs with the religion. Like in the culture, kids aren't allowed to move out of their house until they're married -- especially women. Of course, I think that's totally bogus but I try and be respectful towards my parents because I know that will probably damage my relationship with them if I don't act accordingly. Personally, I wouldn't give a shit otherwise but I do have a strong belief in God and one of the things that God commands in Islam is to be respectful and dutiful towards your parents, regardless of how they may be. I'm not entirely sure how I can still do my best to follow through with that and still have my own independance, and privacy. Plus, I do only have a part-time job right now so I can't really take care of myself. I think now I'm just waiting on going to college, so I can spend more time outside and less inside and get my parents slowly used to the idea of me going out. It doesn't help right now that I'm homeschooling for my last math credit (my father is more than used to me being at home because he now EXPECTS me to be at home). I think now that summer is coming, and the weather is getting nicer. I'll start going to the library and outside to do my work and then slowly, gradually start going out and engaging in an actual SOCIAL life. It's just having to stay patient, and quiet when my Dad blows up or gets suspicious when I say "I want to go the library, or to the park today and do my work."
(Rating: 5) thanks :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you for your advice.
(Rating: 5) Well that was possibly the best answer I have ever received! That really helped me a lot and I think I know how to handle myself a little better when it comes to sex. Though he is not a virgin and neither am I, so I know he isn't 'saving himself'. Thank you for all that though!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for this answer. That was exactly what I was thinking about doing, and you helped me to figure out that I really should do it.
(Rating: 5) This was extremely helpful! Thank you so much! (:
(Rating: 5) Thanks
(Rating: 3) *Rating changed by L2 moderator* ----------------------------------------- i m not agree to your comments / suggestions.
(Rating: 4) We didn't even have the chance we had his little girl all day which wasn't the plan. But I am taking him out tonight so maybe I'll try your idea later! Thanks.
(Rating: 5) Thanks a lot!!!:)
(Rating: 5) i agree with you i talked to my boyfriend about how we should get engaged before moving in because for one my mom and family would accept the idea more and i would feel better knowing going into this would be for the long run and not just some trial and error! i'm glad im not the only one who feels this way and i will be sure to take your advice on this!!!
(Rating: 5) Thankyou :)
(Rating: 3) I can't ever have a calm conversation without her yelling at me. She told me to talk to her today, and I did...and look what happened. I never raised my voice once. I ask what's wrong all the time and she lies. She has been so mean lately, and I do all I can for her, and I always have concern for her.
(Rating: 3) lovely answer. xxx
(Rating: 5) I already found a buyer, but thanks. I forgot about craigslist.
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice. After much google-ing, I've found a basic waiver. I can just edit it, print off a stack, and ask them to sign it before I start recording. Thanks anyway though!
(Rating: 5) thank you! this response was beautiful! i didn't even think of going to a lawyer. i was so preoccupied and worried that it didn't even cross my mind! thank you!
(Rating: 5) Thank you alot, and I know its not a very good idea to go vegitarian while Im still a teenager but its something Ive wanted to do for a while because well how would you feel if you got put into a slaughtering machine and prepared for someone to eat? You know what Im saying> But thanks!
(Rating: 5) Thanks!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much! This was perfect advice. God bless you :)
(Rating: 5) Ya I have small boobs now and before they weren't even mosquito bites yet haha so it couldn't have been the boobs. Thanks :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks, I think the third one is the best too and I love your idea for a back story. I always appreciate help and love it when people help me improve my stories in interesting ways.
(Rating: 5) THANK YOU!
(Rating: 5) Thank you! Honestly this is one of the best answers. I thought that we should just start dating again regardless of people but I wasn't sure if that was the right move. I am just hoping if we start dating again my parents won't go into a frenzy. (: thanks again
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much! I wouldn't mind if he watched it you know, occassinally, but he told me this morning it was two times a day, four times a week, for 4 months. He told me he is addicted to it, and he knows he can't stop. He also said that he wants help because he doesn't like doing it when he knows it hurts me. He wished he never would have started doing it. He used smoking as an example. An where do I go for help? How can I find a therpist to help him out?
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much! I think those will work great.
(Rating: 5) thanks you really helped:)
(Rating: 5) thanks, that's what i wanted/needed to hear :)
(Rating: 5) Edit: Wow, that was WONDERFUL advice! Sorry I didn't see this until now. I changed your rating to a 5. And thank you again! I looked at your column and you add a LOT to this site! :) Original: I'm sorry, but do you know what dip is? Dip isn't an illegal substance. It's not a drug. It's simply smokeless tobacco. If I were to "turn him in" for dipping, I would have to turn in pretty much everyone I know because they smoke. Chewing tobacco definitely isn't something to threaten a relationship over. But thanks anyways.
(Rating: 5) thankss, i think im gunna do both. :))
(Rating: 5) thanks
(Rating: 5) lol :) that was funny lol put it in someone eles yard lol
(Rating: 5) You were right - that wasn't what I wanted to here... but it makes sense. I kinda wish you'd posted this earlier. I already took someone else's advice and told my brother. He wasn't angry about it; He said he was relieved since he felt the same way. I have had my doubts about whether is being together was moral, but he thinks it's circumstantial, that if we got married, then our parents would be in the wrong. Even though he says that, he still hasn't told anyone about us yet. When I first became attracted to him, I thought it was just in my head, but I know him behind closed doors rather than the superficial face people put on at school or college. I mean...isn't it possible that I'm in love with him? I know I can't speak for my Brother, but he makes me feel loved; feel wanted.
(Rating: 4) well i live in the country 10 miles from anyone..mowing lawns is obselete. but, i found a job. it wasnt a matter of me being too lazy..i applied at every restruant and store in my town. but the boyfriend thing, the number was in my contacts, so i couldnt say it was a wrong #. and this guy, he doesnt have any of my information exept my phone number. i have virgin mobile (pay-as-u-go) so he buys cards and texts the code to me. and im planning on telling my bf..a looong time from now lol. thanks anyways :)
(Rating: 5) thanks!
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much for the advice. I decided to wait until marriage!
(Rating: 5) Thank You!* =D
(Rating: 5) Thanks =]
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much!
(Rating: 5) thx..yep i just had no way of getting to a doc but my friend got it for me so it should be all good now. thx angain.
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice...im just worried ill miss out on something that could have been great, and that if i dont meet him ill never find out...
(Rating: 5) thanks
(Rating: 5) thankss<33
(Rating: 3) I kind of wanted something original.. the animal thing has been done countless time.
(Rating: 5) thanks so much! :D
(Rating: 4) Rating changed by a level 2 mod.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. It feels like you actually care, and I appreciate that.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much!
(Rating: 5) Thanks! That's really good advice and totally helped me!
(Rating: 5) thank you so much
(Rating: 5) sizzlinmandolin, you are awesome. I could go on and on about how greatful I am that you took so much time to help me out, or how powerful your story actually was, but the truth is, you got my mind and imagination going like never before, and therefor you are awesome - and that is enough said. You seem to be amazingly mature in your way of thought, and I'm sure your beliefs are to thank. Stay strong in faith, and keep helping people in the generous way you do :) you will have an amazing life, that I am sure of.
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much! Can I ask you another question? It relates to this 1. I will send it to you! :D
(Rating: 5) Sorry. I think I was just over excited bnut miffed at your answer, but thanks. : )
(Rating: 5) very interesting
(Rating: 5) thanks~!
(Rating: 5) thanx!
(Rating: 5) that was my number one choice. =]
(Rating: 5) shes not like that she is herself she dresses unique not like her other friends and she has always been a little different from us she is a unique person she will never follow a crowd and never has lol in her group of friends their all different...i just dont know anymore
(Rating: 4) Thank you for your help :]
(Rating: 5) Thanks for your help!
(Rating: 5) thank you, that helped.
(Rating: 5) Yes it was- thank you so much =D
(Rating: 5) very good advce :] i feeL better
(Rating: 5) hey there, thanks so much...i guess i really needed to hear that.
(Rating: 5) thank you
(Rating: 5) I know! I'm a christian and she mentioned the creation theory and I was about to kill her! It feels like as a teacher she should be able to respect that we dont consider these things myths, but religions. We believe they're true. Whatever, thanks for the tip! :)
(Rating: 5) put it on after i straighen it?? or while itss still wet? [thanksss very much]
(Rating: 5) thanks
(Rating: 5) alright, thanks for clarifying things. lol :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks girl :D i think i will ask him my self .
(Rating: 5) aw, thanks :)
(Rating: 5) exactly what i was looking for!
(Rating: 4) Thank you for your help :) We won't actually having a car as we're getting there on the train but the plastic tip sounds good.
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