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hey. i just met a girl about a week ago and weve only had one conversation but it was PERFECT. i knew that she was definetly the one. but heres the thing. i always act weird! ALWAYS. like sometimes im myself and confident and others im shy...and sometimes i talk to people trying to impress them. i have always done this and i hate it. what can i do to stop trying to impress people??
PS-please give real answers. what do i mean real? i mean no "just be yourself"/"dont think about it" crap.
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I think that the people you like as friends you act normally b/c you know that they already like you. You feel that if you act like yourself then they wont like you for you. I use to do that with this guy i liked and turns out he liked me being the way i have always been. It is totally normal for you to act weird in front of someone you like. The best thing is not think about what you are going to say just let it come out naturally. If you dont think about it then you wont have to worry about you acting weird.
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hey boo,
what's up? well i am not going to give you a reply like "be yourself" or "think about it" i am going to say...you should just try to carry on a random conversation. it's normal to act "weird" around someone that you like. thats what i do. just i just act goofy to cover it up. you should always be confident in yourself don't short yourself of what you are. but part of it is being yourself but you already know that. stop feeling like you have to impress other people! be true to yourself....=* thats the bet way to go! xoxoxox
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ok. your always going to be trying to impress someone everyone does .. trust me. and how do you no shes a 'THE ONE' you never no you have to hang out with her and get to no her more and when you guys really get to no each other you wont try impressing her so much ..
hope i helped
x0o natalie
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I would NEVER give crap answers like "just be yourself." You could be a real loser--how do I know?
On the assumption you aren't--a risky prospect in the modern world--I will give you some classy advice.
If there is anyone in this world who gives a crappy-poo about you (even when you're stupid), you're golden. The whole world can kiss your not-so-royal buttox, because you know that most people don't care what you're doing or how stupidly you're doing it -- unless it is caught on tape, (because then it is freaking hilarious).
Secondly, just assume you aren't impressing anyone. That's usually the truth, no matter how hot you are. Well, that's a lie. If you're really hot, I'm darned impressed and would like a phone number please.
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This is a toughie. I've been in similar situtations and it's something that's really hard to control and can get really annoying! What's happening to you is that you are switching between being extroverted and being introverted. Certain situations make you feel certain ways so you react to your emotions. It's quite a rush to act confidently when you are really the complete opposite of that. I loved feeling this way when I did it, but I couldn't be like that all the time because it wasn't "me". As I settled down and hormones stopped raging a little, I realized that being embarrassed and shy was something that came with trying to fit in to the social world. I didn't want to be obnoxious and I wanted to be smart, pretty, pure, etc. The social structure of high school and the age that you're going through makes it very difficult to even know what "me" really is. Your conflict isn't with yourself, it's with your social life. You act differently than what you really are in order to remain "normal" in everyone's eyes, but sometimes you let yourself slip. Your "me" just like everyone else's isn't "normal".
Understanding what causes something is the best way to figure out how to fix it, so I hope that all of what I said is helpful to you in some strange way. Eventually you'll figure out who you really are, but for now don't worry about it so much. Everyone goes through this to some extent and some sooner than others. Being in a relationship with someone is the BEST way to sort all of this out. So, my advice is to try to get into a relationship with this "perfect" girl. Remember though, if things don't work out between you, she's not the only "one". I hope all of my jumping all around and writing a lot that probably makes no sense can be of some use to you. Good luck and know that you're not alone...everyone goes through this!
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