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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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Well, I've hardly been eating ANYTHING lately. And when I do, it's small doses of like...carrot sticks or something. I've been loosing weight and everything. I don't think I'm fat and all that, I don't even want to be on some stupid diet. I want to eat, but everytime I try, I get sick if I eat too much. Should I see a doctor? Or is this normal for a girl my age?

13.f.

talk to a parent or see a Dr. I was aneorexic, and it's terrible, I had that same feeling. You really need to talk to somebody. It's NOT normal

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May 17, 2004, ((st. patricks day)) one of my best friends committed suicide. She was 13 years old. She was born on September 11, 1990. Her name was Alyssa, and she was walking to school late and she was walking on the tracks. She heard the train coming and she turned around, put her hood up, and gave the thumbs up sign to the conductor. He couldn't stop the train. Alyssa got hit and died. A month later the investigators claimed it to be suicide, which everyone already knew. She had tried committing suicide a couple weeks before that, but I had to drag her off the tracks by her hair. I had made her go see the school counselor before that and I guess she still wanted to committ suicide. The night before she was hit, she wrote R.I.P Alyssa on her and her boyfriend's bedroom wall. She killed herself for many reasons, but I only know of how her boyfriend was cheating on her and she was in a gang and family problems. She told me there was more though. I tried so hard to convince her that death wasn't the soulution, but she didn't listen. I did everything I could to help her. Anyway, I know it's long but I thought you needed to know the whole story.
So my problem is, I still haven't been able to cope with it. I cry all the time and nobody seems to understand me. I miss her so much. I've already seen numerous counselors but they haven't helped me much. I just want to know if there's any way that I could start the "healing process" or if it'll just take time. I would appreciate all the help. Thank you so much!

Love, RacheL
((xoRachel))


R.I.P Alyssa Gonzalez.. I miss you so much.
9/11/90 - 3/17/04

did she have an older sister angela?

Well anyways, One of my really good friends rachel, everybody called her rae rae, passed away. It was actually my boyfriends sister. Well we were all supposed to go to this party, but me and my boyfriend stayed home, and we ended up gettin a phone call saying that she was killed in a car accident, because she was on her way home driven by a drunk driver. It was terrible. Me and my boyfriend thought it was our faults, because he can drive, and he doesn't drink, so we would've been her ride home, and so we were totally blaming ourselves. There isn't much you cah do, but talk. Talk to a really good teacher. I sent out some anonymous e-mails to a few of my FAVE teachers, telling them the story and asking them what they would tell their students to do. I even got a new e-mail adress, because you can have like a zillion for yahoo. So TALK, to anybody who will listen. CRY, sing, take up a new passion. This happened recently to me, I still feel like it's my fault, yet I know it isn't. Death is a HARD thing to deal with, especially with somebody SOOOO close. ME and my boyfriend are 16, and 13 1/2, but we're so close, I'm like at his house all the time, and now that his sister has passed, I'm over there as much as possible. You should never say you know how it feels to somebody who has experienced death, but I've experienced it, so I have the ability to know how it feels, and it SUCKS!! I'm sooooo sorry for your loss, and I hope you can deal with it a different way than your friend chose. Good Luck with life, live each day like it's your last, and DON'T make it your last!!!

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ok see i knew that i would be seeing my boyfriend on friday (last friday) so i didnt eat rly anything all week maybe 3 things..seriously! and i only drank water and see when i saw my boyfriend he said i looked thinner!!...i was happy and i was wondering what are other bad things that'll happen if i keep up what ive been doin?? plz dont say..you'll die or get sick!! it made me feel better about my self cz my stomach wasent as big almost flat

hey, I was anorexic, it was terrible.
I felt great about myself, but now that I look back at pictures, I think I'd rather be a fat ugly thing then be as thin as I was. (i'm not fat or ugly, just using that as an 'example')

Well, just think like this, there was this one episode of oprah on a LONG time agoe, and this lady thought she was fat because she couldn't fit her fingers around her arm(like RIGHT under her elbow) and if that means your fat that I'm Obese. Soon after she lost hair, and her veins were doing something funny, and she passed away.

I didn't really realize what I was doing until I was down to about 50lbs, I was aneorexic from the end of fourth all the way to the first month of 7th, now that I look back it was soooo hard.

If you want to make yourself look better, go on a 30 minute walk, eat only 5 meals a day... breakfast, lunch, snack, dinner, snack. Don't have any sweets past 6 unless it's the weekend, and your having a sleepover or party, or unless it's for dinner

Look at some diets, and see what you think you could handle. Good luck, and aneorexia and bulemia SUCK, I've been through it, it isn't fun!!

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OK...uhmm i have this guy that i really, really like and he treats me like a princess and like im the most precious thing in the whole entire world! but the thing is...my dad doesnt like him b/c he herd sumthing about him and now he has that assumption about him. I REALLY REALLY wanna go out with him and go to our skewls formal but i feel like i cant go bhind my dad and what he says...what should i do? please help me!! thanx!

hey, this isn't an actualy good answer, but a playful thing where if your allowed to cuss, you can say.

When you assume you just make an ass out of you and me. I love to say that when people say, I assumed...

Tell your dad that you are going to go out with him, and there isn't much he can do, or talk to you mom about it (sorry if you don't have a mom you can talk to)

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how come people say it is bad for a 13 year old to be friends or have a realationship wit a 16 year old?

i'm not sure, I'm 13, and I asked a question about my 16 yr old boyfriend, and a few answers I got were, he's just a pedophile, and I was like BS, I love my boyfriend... yet I'll be 14 in like a month and 5 days, so it doesn't really matter.

By the way, just incase you don't know what pedophile means, it means child molester, I didn't really know what that meant until just a few weeks ago, I'm so smart, aren't I lol

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Hey, i am 15 and weigh 150 lbs. I'm not "fat" but i feel that way. I dont look it or anything, but i have no idea where the weight is going. I have been taking birth control for like 4 months, and that might be the reason for gaining all this weight, but i dont know how to get rid of some weight. I have tried the south beach diet, i dont eat that much.... never really have, i drink only diet drinks since forever, but i still dont know why i am gaining all this weight. It worries me a lot... Hopefully you can help.. thanks

most likely it's the birth control, I don't have much to say that will help, but get off the dies drinks, My 7th grade teacher said her gyno said that diet drinks are actually worse for anybody under the age of 20, than regular drinks.

Talk to your Dr about the birth control though

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Heya! I'm passing out candy on Halloween, and I want to know how I should decorate my porch. Nothing too big or expensive, just stuff I can do from things I have around the house. I think I'll have the candy in a hollowed out pumpkin, but I'm not sure what to do to decorate my porch. Any suggestions? Thanks!

I like vikyooos idea, and also what I'm doing is I'm buying a bunch of silly string, and for the older kids, if they have REALLY cool costumes, I'm going to spray them, if you get it at wal-mart, then it'll be like $10 for 5 cans, or around that price, or if you do the thing where you sit there, and the kids take more then one, and the sign says take one, you can SPRAY!!

Black and orange balloons would be cool, I like the idea that you have with the candy in the pumpkin, I would say if you were going to do it in your garage, then have a plastic cauldron with dry ice in it, so it smokes, but that's sort of dangerous to touch, so maybe a smoke machine, or just have a bunch of cobwebs, and spooky stuff. Watch an Addams Family movie, and see the types of things around their houses.

All you have to really do is go to the store, look at EVERYTHING, and see which things look cool.

If you have a joke shop near you, then get a bunch of those things, and be like who ever can tear this will get extra candy (like there are unrippable toilet paper things) then randomly w/o the kids looking, when it goes from an older kid to a much younger one, swich out the toilet paper, for the real kind, and give the little kid extra candy.

I can't believe I even thought of some of this stuff. Just brainstorm, it's CRAZY on what you can come up with

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I have heard about the 5 small meals a day diet. I'm not sure about what would be good to eat for it. I really only want to do this to stay healthy. I am also trying to be more healthy by stretching, walking for about 30 minutes a day, and doing other exercises. Do you think I should do any of this? I am 13, 5'2 and 115 lbs.
xxAmyxx

Thanks for the feedback :-), I'm glad you liked my advice!!

There's nothing wrong with excercising, as long as you don't over do it. Walk for 30 minutes a day, and for the whole 5 meal per day thing, Breakfast, Lunch, and dinner, and then one snack between breakfast and lunch (during the summer)
But since you have school, and probably can't eat snack at school, then make it an after school snack, like a cut up apple, and dunk it in peanut butter(REALLY good) or a banana, or something REAL healthy, then have one or 2 servings of dinner, then maybe an hour or so before bed, have something, and then before bed have some water, and after 5pm, NO sweets unless it's something in your dinner

YOU yourself don't really need to follow that, because you are a PERFECT weight, actually you'd still be a good weight if you gained 5 pounds (not saying you should) So really, unless you feel really insecure, then don't follow this.

And no matter if you're underweight, overweight, or just fine, walking everyday is a GREAT way to keep healthy, just make sure you have water with you.

I was going to say something else, but I forgot, so if I think of it, I'll add it in later.

Good Luck, like I said, you don't need to do any of this, it's just a good way to stay healthy, or to get healthy.

For any other information, go to www.am-I-fat.com

It'll tell you whatever you need to know!

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My girlfriend says we should see other people, but I'm schizophrenic, does that make me other people?

is that supposed to be a trick question, or are you serious?? It sounds like you're just messing with us, but if your serious let me know, and I'll edit this.

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Well in a few weeks I'm going to see Green Day in concert (this is my first concert EVER) Anyways, I was wondering, how much does they're merch. cost basically (like a shirt or hoodie) cause I just wanted to know how much to bring.

usually around $20-$40 for a shirt, hoodie, cup, magnets and stuff cost around $10, and hey this is comming from somebody who has gotten free, box seat tickets to a concert, and everything there is soooo expensive even if you get special service, Drinks are like $10 just for a soda, It's CRAZY.

You are soooo lucky to see greenday in concert, where are they playing... what state?

Pretty much, if you have it, bring around $100, if you don't have atleast 100$$, then bring all you got.

If you have over $250, then don't bring more then that

Unless you have less than this amount, bring anywhere from $75-$200, that way you can atleast get a few shirts, or some other stuff!!

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Well my friends and I all decided to be "goth" for halloween this year, and well I'm not really sure what to buy for clothes (other than things that are black) and I'm not to sure what to do with the makeup either, got any ideas or website to give me some idea?

Thanks

Much Love,

Britt

[[BTW, I Rate 5 For EVERYONE!!!]]

ya know, whenever I get to a question where I have a good answer, it seems EVERYBODY else already answered it, but Hot topic, spencers, pac sun (not really gothic, but you can get some stuff)

Where BLACK nail polish, you can get it at wal-mart, uh... pink eye shadow, black lipstick, and if you can try to dye your hair black, and make it spikey (it doesn't matter that you're a grl, it's still possible) and if you have long hair, either cut it, or put on a wig to make it shorter, not as short as a pixie cut, but maybe shoulder lenght, or to your chin.

I'd suggest a wig, because you might not like your hair that short.

Hope this is help, and hope it's not too repetitive of the other answers, but Hot topic is definitley the place to go!!

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i have a Sony Psyche walkman. it's about a year old and it worked great. well just recently the music only started coming out of the left ear. i thought the batteries could be going, so i put new ones in and it's still the same. so whats wrong or how do i fix it? im pissed off cause it was a $50 walkman.

1st try new headphones, if you've already tried that, go back to the store where you bought it, and see if you can get a refund, or exchange it.
$50 isn't much to spend on a walkman, maybe thats why, did you get a used one? If not, then ask somebody who works there or something.

Sorry I'm not much help.

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Hey all, it's Siren...Okay. Usually I pose my issue and ask for opinions, but I actually have a problem this time. Sorry about the length...I can't help it.
Here's the issue at hand:
My boyfriend's family is going to Mackinac for halloween weekend, and leaving him home alone. He's invited me over and would not object to my spending the night. My mom does, though. Here's how our conversation went: "Hey mom, how much would you object to my asking you if I could spend the night at my boyfriend's one weekend?"
"I...would...no. It's not appropriate."
"Just like, one weekend..."
"NO. You're not his wife, you're not engaged, it's not appropriate."
(The worst thing about that is we technically are kind of engaged. He proposed, I accepted.)
She's refusing to even CONSIDER it. How do I get her to let me do what I want? I mean, she lets me stay over at my guyfriend Sean's house when he has parties and we all drink...that's WORSE. My bf was actually at one of those parties, but she doesn't know that.
So...help me out? Bottom line is I want to get her to okay it. I don't want to lie, and I don't want to sneak around. I hate keeping things from mom. How do I do this?

I know this isn't any help, but I have to say, I agree with the last two people who've answered. Bring it up in a mature way, DON'T beg, she'll find it childish. tell her you won't lose her trust, and DON'T do anything to lose her trust. I assume that since you're waiting to tell about the engagement, it's either because you're not ready for marriage, so you don't think everybody needs to know, or that you think that your mom couldn't handle it, but hey when I assume, I just make an ass out of u and me, so I don't assume that much.

Well, it's nothing new, just tell her i'm 17 years old, and I am practically an adult, I can handle any situation that comes my way, I won't do anything worth regretting, and if it'll make her feel better, have her ask you about a bunch of different types of situations, and tell her what you'd do.

If that doesn't convince her, then I don't know what will

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Hi. My name is Toni and i'm a girl. My friend has been putting things about me on her profile and they are really mean things. I saw them and they made me feel bad and when i was alone, i cried for hours. I can be a dramaqueen, but who isn't one at one time or another?
Also people in her guestbook were calling me a bitch and saying that i was immature and they dont even know me! Should i tell my friend? Thanks in advance!
Toni

In my opinion, I'd confront my friend about it, ask her why she's saying this stuff, and ask her about the people talking about you. Ask her if you've done something to upset her, or if she's jealous, or mad, just ask her whats up.

I'm sorry if you don't like my advice, I'm just telling you what I'd do in that situation.

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HeLoo i hav a queston bout..umm..some kinda gross stuf i gess...~im 14 and fer abouT um, 3 yearz i have this stuff in my unnerware its like whit and i dun no wut it is? is it like some sickness?ƨ? its like relay gross i thought it would go way afta i got mah period but it din't and iono its lyk embarassing if neone sees my unnerpants cuz its rely NASTY. is dis normal?? is there n e way i can yk rid it cuz idont want nasty white stuff comin out of my vagina!!!!!!! hey tanks i rate high!

It's called discharge, it's normal to get before you start your period, and after you finally get it. It will NEVER go away, or atleast not until you are an adult. Unless it smells really bad, is discolored, or your vagina burns, your good, but if any of those 3 things are happening, it could be a yeast infection, if it's really buggin you, talk to a parent

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I just met this girl this year in my class this year and we immediatly clicked. We like became best friends almost after 5 weeks of school. Well today we were writing a writing prompt and shes like "I'm farther than you, you liddle b****" And I got really offended even though she was kidding. I wasn't brought up that way and no one in my family really curses. So I told her "Can you please not call me that, its really mean and I don't like it" very nicely. And then she responds with "And like you are not mean!?" So she takes my school photo I gave her two days ago out of her clear view binder because of that reason. I was so pissed off, I told her "If you are not going to keep my photo give it back to me." And she just sat there humming. I know its just a picture but why does she have to let something like THAT make us get in a fight. So should I just blow her off or keep trying to work it out? But I keep telling myself, I don't need a friend like that. But I never seen her like this...
x0x_surfergirl_x0x = my user

seems like this person is REAL immature, and it sounds like you handled it too seriously. I know she must have offended you, but I think you both overreacted, apologize, and if you receive an apology back, then stick with it, but if she doesn't apologize back, then don't withdraw your apology, but just be civil instead of friends, or whatever you are to eachother

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okay, i've been with this guy for a while now and our realationship is pretty good and stuff, but...i somehow want him to show more affection towards me; like more touching or even just talking to me or w/e. He touches me and stuff so its not like he stays completly away, but its always not when i want it. I guess i just kinda hope for the 'fantasy relationship' but i think that maybe his ways could be changed. Do ya'll have any ideas on how i can get him to show more affection or w/e? please help, and dont just say talk to him about it :o) Thanks, i rate!

If you want him to be more affectionate to you, then be more affectionate to him, and tell him how much you like him, and that you want to take it a bit further

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its my friends birthday on sunday.. n im going to her party saturday to sunday.. i have no idea what to get her!! shes a punk girl who likes soccer.. so if u could give me ideas thatd b great!! i'll rate u!!

I'm sorry you didn't like my opinion, but can I have a reason why I got a one for that?

Hot Topic, and pac sun are both my faves.

But what I usually get my friends, is anywhere from $15-$30, or gift certificates to the mall that we shop at most. That way they can buy what they want, but it's still a GREAT gift!!

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ok,my period was supposed to come on the 24th. i've only been getting it since april 2004. its been missing and it's always been dead on since i've gotten it. i never had sex and i'm 13/f. thanx

it usually takes a year or longer for your menstrual cycle to properly function.

So it'll be a while before you can actually tell when you'll be getting it

But if you're REALLY REALLY concerned talk to a parent.

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Does anyone know what Tienes amigos? means

Also what Como estas hoy?

Help!!! i need it asap!

well, I think the first one is do you have friends?

And I don't know the word hoy, but como estas means how are you, so I guess you can work off of that

Pretty sad I've taken spanish for who knows how many years, and I can barely answer this question.

Sorry, but I'm better when counting in spanish

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