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Stubborn mom
Hey all, it's Siren...Okay. Usually I pose my issue and ask for opinions, but I actually have a problem this time. Sorry about the length...I can't help it.
Here's the issue at hand:
My boyfriend's family is going to Mackinac for halloween weekend, and leaving him home alone. He's invited me over and would not object to my spending the night. My mom does, though. Here's how our conversation went: "Hey mom, how much would you object to my asking you if I could spend the night at my boyfriend's one weekend?"
"I...would...no. It's not appropriate."
"Just like, one weekend..."
"NO. You're not his wife, you're not engaged, it's not appropriate."
(The worst thing about that is we technically are kind of engaged. He proposed, I accepted.)
She's refusing to even CONSIDER it. How do I get her to let me do what I want? I mean, she lets me stay over at my guyfriend Sean's house when he has parties and we all drink...that's WORSE. My bf was actually at one of those parties, but she doesn't know that.
So...help me out? Bottom line is I want to get her to okay it. I don't want to lie, and I don't want to sneak around. I hate keeping things from mom. How do I do this?
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how old are u?? first of all u should just sit down and have a talk wit ur mom and let her kno that u are not a little kid and that she should trust you. let her kno that u arent goin to be her little gurl forever
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I know this isn't any help, but I have to say, I agree with the last two people who've answered. Bring it up in a mature way, DON'T beg, she'll find it childish. tell her you won't lose her trust, and DON'T do anything to lose her trust. I assume that since you're waiting to tell about the engagement, it's either because you're not ready for marriage, so you don't think everybody needs to know, or that you think that your mom couldn't handle it, but hey when I assume, I just make an ass out of u and me, so I don't assume that much.
Well, it's nothing new, just tell her i'm 17 years old, and I am practically an adult, I can handle any situation that comes my way, I won't do anything worth regretting, and if it'll make her feel better, have her ask you about a bunch of different types of situations, and tell her what you'd do.
If that doesn't convince her, then I don't know what will
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Well, I'm assuming you're over the age of sixteen. But I'm going to say exactly what the person below me said. "Mom, I'm ___ now, I'm an adult and I am responsible for my own actions and well-being. Whatever happens, not that anything will, I will take responsiblity for. I'm not your little girl anymore.". Just have a mature conversation with her about it.
~Laura~
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"Hey mom, what have i ever done for you to not trust me"
don't say that if there are reasons for her not to trust you. If she has reasons, tell her that forgiveness is a virtue and that everyone gets secound chances.
tell her that you desperately need her to trust you, and you wouldn't do anything "wrong."
then, maybe just maybe you should subtly mention that you're engaged.
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