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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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well i have been seeing him since last 5 years but some thing happened and we both got married to two different people. He said to me that i must leave my husband in a month and he will leave his wife in six months and we will be together again. I left my husband and for some reason he is still with his wife. I did not sex my husband but yes i sex my love many times. he also promised he will not sex his wife but now his wife is pregnant and he says sorry to me for this he wants me to wait for him for some time like two years. i know he loves me but these days most of the times we fight with one another and i do not know what should i do?please help me out
In an aspect this question is difficult to answer because I don't know where you are from so it's difficult without knowing the laws of your country.
Here in the United States being married to more then one person is illegal.
This man is married and he is expecting a child with another women. This man says he may love you but he is not being faithful to his own wife and is likely lying to her about his affair with you. How do you expect a cheating man to be faithful if he can't be faithful to his own wife? This what you call a relationship is a fantasy. This man is a liar, A cheater and apparently a manipulator as well. Focus on your own marriage with your husband not someone who is married and expecting a baby. If you aren't happy, File a divorce. Like I say many times in this situation cheating isn't the answer to your problems and see multiple people at once is wrong. Stop falling for his lies and move on
i have been in love with this very nice boy for about a year. I have dated other people because he turned me down. Then i saw him naked at bandcamp he didn't see me.He mooned me at the lake by acciedent and then he said my bikini was nice very nice. How do I proceed. He is still in love with his ex. She dosen't love him and is stringing him along.
From the sound of this, This guy is a pervert. It's odd that he turns you down after you wanting to date him and then all the sudden once he sees you in a bikini it's the other way around. Don't ya think? If you want a guy that truly appreciates you for who you are then find someone who wants to get too know you not your body.
I am his first girlfriend and well i slept with my old boyfriend and i have to break up with him. How should i do this I am his first girlfriend ever and my friend says that he is gonna tell me he loves me! Oh crap!!! What should i do?????he's never even kissed me!!!! oh shit!!!!!
You cheated on him, You owe it too him to be honest about it. You knew when you cheated you were doing wrong now face the consequences to your own actions.
Imagine if someone you cared about cheated on you, How would you feel? You'd be hurt wouldn't you? Be honest, At least give him that much respect.
Also next time please don't use profanity! Thanks
I once had a girl I met back in high school. I was her best friends boyfriend and I realized that there was a spark between me and her friend so I took her instead.It was a long relationship and she was everything to me. Now im 20on and I still find myself thinking of her and were her life has gone and think I miss her but still don't have the courage to call and say hey girl how have you been or something.I lost my virginity to her and she lost hers to me in a very funny place but it was one to remember .what should I do?
It seems like the users below don't think about the downside of the situation so I'm going to spill it..
I'm not trying to piss on your cornflakes here but it have you been in contact with this girl over the course of 2 years? If not, I hope you keep in mind that there is always a possibility that she could be with someone else, Be married, Have children etc. This is natural nowadays with people that have been out of High School. Whatever you decide to do don't be forward and pushy. Worse case is she could ignore your text or the conversation will be short. If she is with someone don't try and come between them as after a 2 year time it wouldn't be your place to just suddenly try and get someone you formerly dated back or try at all period. Just don't get your hopes up too high..Anyway, I think your best bet is to move on and get over it. You are living in past but debating over whether you should call someone you formerly dated. If someone did that too me, I'd be shock back and probably weirded out and I'm not sure it would be in a good way. It would be one thing if I happened to run into them in public but not to the point where I get some random phone call out of the blue.
I am a 21/f and about a little over 2 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 4 and a half years. There are many reasons for the break up and it was mutual when I initiated it. Reasons for the break up were because things weren't the same anymore, trust issues, argued alot, things became routine, didn't talk throughout the day alot, no romance, more like friends than bf/gf...etc. After the the break up the ex wasn't so fond of the idea anymore and kept trying to get back together. I declined and he let me be. We had a long conversation like a week or so after and was kind of like closer because we both realized we weren't getting back together. I haven't talked to him since. He asked if it was okay if he deleted me off facebook when the break up went down and I was like ok? Mine is private and his isn't. Even though I know this isn't helping.. I do the occasional creep on his FB.. and here recently he had mentioned going to the movies with the girl who he talked to behind my back. All of a sudden I grew angry/irritated at the fact and I'm pretty sure its normal to feel that way. I am obviously not going to say anything because he aren't together and I am doing my thing too.. I am wondering if it would be bad to text one of these days to see how he's doing, maybe not mention the fact I don't like him seeing that girl but see how things are. It's really weird not being able to just text him out of habit and say hey and stuff... he was apart of me for over 4 years and it's not that I want to be with him again but I wonder if we could be friends but I'm not so sure right now would be good. I am at lost at what to do and I am probably answering my own question by saying don't talk to him, don't be friends and stop looking at his FB.. but easier said than done. Any suggestions on how to move on?
If you text him you will be adding fuel to his fire. His page is public, He wanted to get back together with you and you declined is offer. This kids intentions ARE to get you to notice and sometimes people have a certain way of manipulating their way back into certain situations. Maybe this really isn't the case here but the reason why I'm assuming is because him asking if it would be okay to delete you from facebook is already the beginning of his game.
> He asked if it would be okay to deleted you from facebook and here is where he was trying to grasp your attention. Likely, He knows you peep in every once and awhile and that is exactly why it's public.
You really aren't helping the situation by looking at his recent activity, You instead are making things worse for yourself. You suggest that you both go your separate ways and it has also been two months. My advice is move on and stop looking in. If you have to and find it easier block him but giving him exactly what he is looking for isn't going to benefit you in anyway but remind him that his twisted game of manipulation worked. You said it yourself, There was no trust and you both argued a lot and therefore it breaking up was the best choice in the end. Really, Don't go crawling back if the relationship was baggage. It doesn't look good and skip the texting because like I said you are feeding into it giving him what he wants and that's nothing but to manipulate you.
I agreed to help a friend out who is sick and has no job and no home and who is waiting on S.S. disability by allowing her and her dog to live in my home. I thought it would be a short term thing, but I'm starting to think it will never end. She was denied SS disability and is now in the appeals process. Its been 10 months. She has not paid me anything. She sleeps all day. She does do her own dishes, but thats about it. I work 10 hrs/day, 6 days/wk and take college courses and am getting very stressed at her unwillingness to do anything around the house. I am at the point where I am ready to ask her to move out, but I know she has no where to go. Everythime I've asked her to help around the house, she complains about how bad it hurts her. I feel like the bad person, but this is causing me to be stressed and become depressed and sick also. What do I do?
You are not a bad person, You've given her more then enough time to get herself together and she refuses to even try and help herself. We can only lend a helping hand so far before it just no longer gets anywhere. I would sit down and have a talk with her and if you have to give her a month notice. Tell her you have no choice but to have her move out and you are giving her a 30 day notice to find somewhere else to go. You work, You go to college and I believe you have been more then fair in this situation. Sometimes we just can't help everyone, If she has family or other friends then tell her to make arrangements.
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year now and we have a pretty good relationship(: The only thing is that he friend requests a lot of girls on facebook. It bothers me that he does this but i see it when i get on his facebook sometimes. If he isn't trying to get with other girls, then why does he keep adding them? He friend requests them.
There isn't enough details here
Does he friend random girls? Is he sneaky about it?
Have you even tried to express how it makes you feel insecure that he is always adding women on his facebook? Here is the main question: Does he hide your relationship? Does he have any pictures of the both of you on his page? ....
If you give me more details I'll be able to give you better advice.
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Hair loss
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If you are or fear any danger of these symptoms please seek help, Anything is possible to overcome but you need to take the steps to get there.
so me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 4 months now, and well for the past 4 months i have done many things behind his back like hangout with other guys lied to him and recently he found i was still talking with my ex. he got upset to the point he had enough but he gave me one last chance he said if i could prove to him things were different he would forget everything. i'm not sure what to do anymore i want to keep my relationship but we fight everyday what should i do?
He doesn't trust you, Do you blame him?
A relationship is about trust, respect and communication if you don't have neither then your relationship is doomed. You betrayed him and from the sound of it even the possibility of trying to prove him wrong may not fix the situation. Trying to prove someone wrong doesn't make what you did okay or right. If you want a real relationship then be faithful because if you were my girlfriend you'd be out the door. Now what should you do? I'd say try and talk to him about the situation and see if you both can work it out, If you have to gain his trust back then do so but don't get your hopes up on trying to erase your mistake. I don't know you or your boyfriend but things can only be taken so far before they are just permanently damaged.
Is the Secret Garden a love story? or like a love story? like do Collin and I believe her name is mary fall in love or like each other? Im comfused I havn't seen it in a while so I forgot. Well Thanks(:
It's about a little girl who's father is going in the Army and places her in some sort of temporary foster home and discovers a secret garden. Also, As far as I remember Colin was her cousin.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Secret_Garden
I've been talking to this guy on the internet for seven years and we've been on cam before and shared pictures with one another. Now its been a year since I've seen him and he refused to send me a picture of him. It didn't bother me at first, but when i would ask him he would make up an excuse. Like, ' I don't look good right now ' or ' I have acne' and 'i have a black eye, ill show u when it disappears. This was two weeks ago he said this and i don't know, doesn't a black eye go away in a couple of days? Should i stop talking to this person? Because it seems like he is hiding something from me now. Part of me thinks he is scared to show what he looks like now for some reason, but i don't even care :S
Do you even know if this man has a girlfriend? Sure, He may tell you that he doesn't but why else would he suddenly not want to talk to you?
Honestly, I would give up and stop looking to met men over the internet as it is not a safe way to really get to know someone. Perhaps he doesn't feel comfortable sharing further information with you, Maybe he did at one time and then he thought about. He's making up excuses, Obviously he no longer wants to be in contact. Just move on you don't need to be seeing someone you met online anyway.
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I need advice on christmas presents for my boyfriend and his family okay for my boyfriend I was thinking about getting him,
- Sneakers
-Wallet
-2-3 Tops
- Jeans
-3/4 shorts
- Perfume
Is that good? or should I get some thing else please give me ideas he likes cars!
For his family, my boyfriend and I have ben dating for almost 6 months but the bond between his family and I is great they all love me and I want to get them all gifts however there is 6 in his family ! I was thinking about getting them all different perfumes, is that good?
One thing some people don't realize is Christmas may be right around the corner but it doesn't mean you have to go all crazy. I personally think maybe a wallet and cologne would do it, I'd skip on the sneakers, shorts and jeans as he wouldn't be able to try it on and you don't want to buy something that won't fit. I also think that after only 6 months of dating that list is sort of overdoing it, That list would be understandable if you have been dating for a few years but definitely not 6 months.
For his family, If he has a big family then you could just get a house warming gift for them. For example: I bought my in laws a gift basket. You do not have to buy a ton of things, I'm sure they do not expect you to go all nuts either as a gift basket would do just fine. Your boyfriend and his family should appreciate whatever it is you give them.
i met this guy in maryland but he lives in ohio and i live in michigan. at first i blew him off but then i apologized and started talking to him via text messages and he is sooo sweet and he recently started calling me on the phone. He calls me babe and everything. Thing is he is a junior in highschool and im a freshman in college. I know there is plenty of guys in college but i recently have fallen for this guy. He plans to move to maryland when he graduates highschool and im going to move there after college. So what should I do?
I'm going to tell you what you don't want to hear...
Move on, Waiting for someone who lives a few states away is a waste of time especially seeing you are in College and he still has another year of high school left. This relationship is unrealistic, Do you know him personally? Have you ever seen him in person?.
Seriously, Long distant relationships generally do not work out. Right now you have the mind set of moving after College, How do you know in a years time you won't meet someone in college? What if he meets a girl in high school or even his state? Do you really want to put your life on hold and wait around for someone who is young and still has another year of High School? Assuming the kid is only 16 or 17 he doesn't know what he wants. People change and things happen in our lives, We cannot predict what is going to happen in a few years. Meet someone who is in your area and get out of fantasy land.
Hi, I'm 18/female. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years, and it seems as if we have hit a spot in our relationship that we probably won't be able to overcome. It hurts like pure hell to know that the end is probably drawing near. So I need help from the experienced in this area. What are some tips on pulling through a bad, no, a horrible separation? I just need help before I lose my mind.
When I left my last relationship of 5 years I never thought I'd get over it but I did.
You need to try and see the situation from two point of views.
1, What you had was nothing more then an experience
2, It wasn't meant to be, One door closes another opens
Breakups suck but nothing is ever so bad to the point where we can't overcome the situation. We can cherish good times but we also need to put the past behind us and move on. Here is what helped me cope but at the same time everyone's situation differs..
Instead of focusing on what I'll miss. I told myself to focus on the things that my partner did that I hated the most. I used my anger to my advantage and told myself it is over and I can finally move on and find true happiness. I thought about all the cursing, All the things that were said and done and I really thought about the situation and just how unhappy I was. Believe me, It didn't come overnight it took me awhile to realize that this relationship was a lost cause. The best thing you can do is focus on what you need to do in your life. Spend time with friends and family and just be yourself. Healing comes with time and in relationships there are also the 7 stages of grieving. With time you will learn to except it, You will get over it and you will meet someone that is right for you. If you want to move on faster then I highly suggest you to cut all contact with him. Don't answer his text, calls, emails, facebook etc. As long as you are in somewhat of contact you will prolong your pain.
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this is a difficult question most will give me a "you should know" or "not something we can advise" to..but im just backed into a corner. In a few months i go to college and i just really need to break free, i was the constantly social, religious jock then i got into drugs, struck in depression and pushed all my friends far away. i never got the highschool experience other than a few nights and that fact is pushing me deeper into depression since i want what i cant have. my boyfriend of over a year is also completely against parties/drinking, i love him and i would love to get married, but he may die soon and he puts me way down which sounds so heartless im sorry but he also makes me feel amazing at times..he has brain cancer and is just letting it take its course and im not allowed to tell a soul he has it so i cant get help and its tearing every last peice of me apart. he is also so negative and puts everything down. not good with the fact im already becoming a hermit and on depression meds..
but my questions are: should i stay with him? we might be going to the same colleges or should i not? how do i help either of us with the situation? how do i live my life like i used to? and anything else, i really cant think
I agree with the user below me, This is the most difficult question I've seen and are attempting to give my best answer too.
You are young, Sometimes there are choices in life we have to make although we don't want too. The main question you have to ask yourself like the other user said is do you love him enough to stay until the very end? Whatever the answer may be I want you to know that you should never put your life on hold and stall your happiness. We can be by someone's side and support them mentally. You need to go on with your on with your life and he should work with the doctors on trying to get better. It's depressing I'll take your word for it and I think the best thing you could possibly do for the both of you is to be his mental support but also do what you need to do as well. You need to do what is best for you, If you feel that being friends with him is best then you can do so. You can still be his mental support like I said. You are young and you are not expected to stall and I'm sure nobody expect you too. If you need a break then take one, Go out with friends, Relax, Read a book or go for a walk but take a day off to do things you enjoy and relieve the stress. Whatever you decide, You aren't a bad person as we are all human and sometimes we need to make tough choices in our lives. As I am sure he would want nothing but the best for you as well.
i like this guy and he likes me back but things were not working out so i broke up. he said he doesn't mean to be pushy but he wont take no for an answer he is gonna keep trying until he gets me back. should i go outwith him?
If you don't want to date him then don't.
If he isn't taking no for an answer then be stern and tell him it's over and to back off. Sometimes guys can be clueless and only really get it when told in a stern way. Never date someone out of pressure and to be honest this guy sounds a little controlling, Put your foot down and tell him where to go.
I know I'm young (16) but I've been curious about "the one" lately, and I have a few personal questions to ask.
What is "the one" to you? (If you're married now, how did you know your spouse was the one?)
How long did it take to realize it? Is three months enough if you've known the person for a long time but have only been together for three months?
I spend all my time with my boyfriend. He's very responsible, very neat and organized, smart, and good with children. I am around him so much that I see him in several situations, like grocery shopping and decision making and all the so-called important things in life. Not only do I feel like he could be the one, but we have such an amazing bond. Our trust is so strong and we're best friends: telling each other everything, sleeping over at each other's houses, etc. But we've only been dating for three months. He talks about the future subtly, and he says he won't leave unless I say the word. Am I just insanely infatuated or could he be the one? He's 17.
I don't believe in using the term "The one" There is no definite way to know whether someone is the one you will spend the rest of your life with. You are young, I wouldn't be worrying so much about settling down with someone or even thinking along those terms.
Now as far as my terms; I think if someone makes you happy, You fully trust one another are happy spending time with them then I guess you could say they make a pretty good partner but I would never put a label on it. I didn't even start thinking along the lines of marriage and settling down until I was in my 20's so my best advice is don't worry about it. If the guy makes you happy then that's great but just enjoy spending time with him as it is and worry about the long term a few years down the road.
I think I want a divorce, My husband does not trust me and I do not trust him, but we have a kid together and I do not want to make it harder for my child. He gets to go out and do whatever he wants and I am supposed to be at home and ok about this. He keeps telling me that I am not his mother. I do not feel that it is fair for him to go out without me and when we do go out it feels like we are not even together. we have only went out once in about 2 years the rest of the time he has went out by his self
what should I do?
If you aren't happy, Divorce him.
Trust is the main factor in any type of relationship, If you both don't trust one another then you shouldn't be in the marriage. You aren't entitled to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you despite having a child or not.
Now, If you both want to try and make things work between the two of you then I would say try marriage counseling. This is the last straw before filing for divorce but if your husband shoots down the idea then you are only left with one option. If he isn't willing to make it work then there is no point in being married to him.
So I'm a 19 year old college student. I live in my own and have a steady job and I have always dated older men but 25 has always been my cut off age.I recently met this guy that is 27 and we connect on a different level. I am starting to really develope feelings for him but im a little nervous about the age gap? would it be wrong for me to date him?
I'd personally pass, When someone dates another person that is older they have a hard time connecting on the same level in some areas. Meaning no matter what this guy will always be a few years ahead of you. You both have experienced different things in your life, You are just getting started while he is likely looking to settle down.
I would try and find someone you can relate more too and share goals with. Not someone who is way past you in your life and I think he is a bit too old but I'm the type of person who likes to stay within my own age.