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Pulling through the anticipated heartache
Hi, I'm 18/female. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years, and it seems as if we have hit a spot in our relationship that we probably won't be able to overcome. It hurts like pure hell to know that the end is probably drawing near. So I need help from the experienced in this area. What are some tips on pulling through a bad, no, a horrible separation? I just need help before I lose my mind.
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Well that's a pretty negative way of putting it. Relationships are tough it's not always going to be fun. I'm sure you've hit some dead ends in your relationship and have overcome them. The point of these "bumps" is hwo stronger your relationship is. Sometimes its just a phase and sometimes things happen. I don't exactly know whats going on with you two but in every relationship I'm hopeful for myself and for other people. At the end of the day its whether or not you both want to fix this and make it work. Maybe you need sometime away from your boyfriend and maybe make a date night once a week or something. Remember why you got together in the first place and why you love him. I know it's hard but don't think negatively because it's not going to help. Maybe try talking to him and expressing your concerns about your relationships. Keep your head up and I hope everything works out for the best!
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When I left my last relationship of 5 years I never thought I'd get over it but I did.
You need to try and see the situation from two point of views.
1, What you had was nothing more then an experience
2, It wasn't meant to be, One door closes another opens
Breakups suck but nothing is ever so bad to the point where we can't overcome the situation. We can cherish good times but we also need to put the past behind us and move on. Here is what helped me cope but at the same time everyone's situation differs..
Instead of focusing on what I'll miss. I told myself to focus on the things that my partner did that I hated the most. I used my anger to my advantage and told myself it is over and I can finally move on and find true happiness. I thought about all the cursing, All the things that were said and done and I really thought about the situation and just how unhappy I was. Believe me, It didn't come overnight it took me awhile to realize that this relationship was a lost cause. The best thing you can do is focus on what you need to do in your life. Spend time with friends and family and just be yourself. Healing comes with time and in relationships there are also the 7 stages of grieving. With time you will learn to except it, You will get over it and you will meet someone that is right for you. If you want to move on faster then I highly suggest you to cut all contact with him. Don't answer his text, calls, emails, facebook etc. As long as you are in somewhat of contact you will prolong your pain.
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