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I miss her but still don't have the courage to call
I once had a girl I met back in high school. I was her best friends boyfriend and I realized that there was a spark between me and her friend so I took her instead.It was a long relationship and she was everything to me. Now im 20on and I still find myself thinking of her and were her life has gone and think I miss her but still don't have the courage to call and say hey girl how have you been or something.I lost my virginity to her and she lost hers to me in a very funny place but it was one to remember .what should I do?
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SUCK IT UP YOU LOSER!!!!! Call her!!!!!!..........hope this helps:))))
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You must absolutely call her. If you don't, you will wonder for the rest of your life what would have happened if you did. Trust me on this one.
But be prepared for disappointment. As others have said, she may have moved on by now. She may have changed in other ways; people change a great deal through their teens and early twenties. Don't call with expectations or with outlandish hopes; just call, and see what happens.
It might be a good idea if you didn't call clear out of the blue, though. Try contacting her via E-mail or Facebook first, if you have that option. Otherwise, you run the risk of calling at a bad time, and it'll be awkward.
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It seems like the users below don't think about the downside of the situation so I'm going to spill it..
I'm not trying to piss on your cornflakes here but it have you been in contact with this girl over the course of 2 years? If not, I hope you keep in mind that there is always a possibility that she could be with someone else, Be married, Have children etc. This is natural nowadays with people that have been out of High School. Whatever you decide to do don't be forward and pushy. Worse case is she could ignore your text or the conversation will be short. If she is with someone don't try and come between them as after a 2 year time it wouldn't be your place to just suddenly try and get someone you formerly dated back or try at all period. Just don't get your hopes up too high..Anyway, I think your best bet is to move on and get over it. You are living in past but debating over whether you should call someone you formerly dated. If someone did that too me, I'd be shock back and probably weirded out and I'm not sure it would be in a good way. It would be one thing if I happened to run into them in public but not to the point where I get some random phone call out of the blue.
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If you really feel strongly about this girl than call her. I wouldn't call her and be forward about everything but just call her and talk to her like you would any other friend. See what she's been up to and what she's doing right now. My boyfriend now did the same with me. He told me he couldn't call me because he was nervous and scared. It's ok to be nervous and scared but if you want to see if there is any chance of you two talking again you're going to have to pick up the phone and call her. Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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Find courage to call her. If calling her seems to tough to do, start out with a text, or an email. Whatever one you are most comfortable with. You have nothing to worry about. The worst that could happen is:
1. She won't text back/ answer the phone.
2. She will pick up, and be short.
But you never know, she could be feeling the same way you are. Maybe she can't build up enough nerve to call you either? Maybe she thinks you are over her, or don't want to speak to her. Those questions won't be answered unless you make the first move.
I know, if I was this girl, I would be thrilled to get a call from an old lover. I would be estatic. Give it a try. Just take a couple of breath's before you do it, and just think to yourself, "She's worth it", and give her a call!
I believe in you! You have it in you. Maybe once you call her, you too can meet up, and catch up. Who knows, maybe the spark is still there and yall can rekindle the relationship you once had!
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My fingers are crossed for you.
Good Luck!<3
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