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I'm 19 dating a 27 year old man.. is this too much of an age gap?
So I'm a 19 year old college student. I live in my own and have a steady job and I have always dated older men but 25 has always been my cut off age.I recently met this guy that is 27 and we connect on a different level. I am starting to really develope feelings for him but im a little nervous about the age gap? would it be wrong for me to date him?
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No its not as long as you understand each other and you have a lot in common and besides that age is not that big gap. Hope that helps. Good luck
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Age can be just a number or it can be a tripping point. Zane makes a good point. Your boyfriend has already experienced a lot in life, things that you will want to experience before settling down to being a wife and mother. Your boyfriend on the other hand is looking for a life companion. Someone to support him in his role as husband and father. To help him climb the corporate ladder if needed.
While you may have always dated older men and may even identified more with older men; I don't think you are ready to settle down yet to the life your boyfriend may be looking for.
Before you allow yourself to fall head over heals for this guy you need to find out where this relationship may be going from his point of view. What he expects things to be like in 5, 10 and 15 years down the road. See how his life plan fits with your life plan. Are you ready to be a wife and mother? Can you be a wife and mother during the day and if needed be eye candy for the corporate bosses should he be a corporate climber? Can you do all this and keep house and work at a job outside the home if needed?
While I'm not looking to rain on your parade. Given your age difference I feel it is important that you take this information into consideration before you allow yourself to fall for him and then get hurt. What I have written here is the same conversation I would have with you if your were my daughter and came to me with this question.
I'm not saying the age difference is to great. That is something you need to decide. What I am saying is be cautious. Consider everything, not just today; but tomorrow and years ahead to make sure you are not letting yourself in for a big fall.
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If you feel that you "connect on a different level" and you're "really starting to develop feelings for him" then why should the age matter? If you guys like each other and you feel happy with him then why should the age make a difference? Don't you think what you feel dominates over a number?
Perhaps you should ask yourself why you're worried about this. If you're questioning it, there must be a reason behind it, maybe even subconsciously. Were you raised to believe big age differences were a problem in relationships?
Like I said. Just ask yourself why you're concerned. You might have an answer. :)
I really hope this helps and I hope you figure this out! Also I could be wrong about all this considering I'm fifteen and it's all just a matter of opinion for me. Regardless, good luck.
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I'd personally pass, When someone dates another person that is older they have a hard time connecting on the same level in some areas. Meaning no matter what this guy will always be a few years ahead of you. You both have experienced different things in your life, You are just getting started while he is likely looking to settle down.
I would try and find someone you can relate more too and share goals with. Not someone who is way past you in your life and I think he is a bit too old but I'm the type of person who likes to stay within my own age.
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