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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

Today I woke up feeling feverish and ill, so I called work to tell them I wouldn't be coming in. I went to the doctor's in the afternoon and when I got home my Dad told me that work had called saying that I'd be on Facebook saying that I was 'out enjoying the sun with my boyfriend'. I called my boss who said that a member of staff had told him that. I told him that it was a complete lie as I had not been on Facebook all day and had been at the doctors. He said we would discuss it when I next came in on Friday.

Now I am really quite worried that I am in trouble about this. I can swear now that there was nothing of the sort on my Facebook and that the only time I have left the house today was to go to the doctor's. Furthermore, my boyfriend is away today so there is no way I could have been out with him.

What should I say to my boss on Friday? I'm now worried that someone from work has got it in for me and don't know what to do.

Maybe someone had seen a previous status you posted & assumed that it was from today. You should probably edit your Facebook privacy because it could really get you into trouble.

I think if you just explain the situation to your boss, you should be fine. It was a misunderstanding. And if your boss would like to see it, maybe you could show him your Facebook to prove that there was no such status update for today.

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this is me ON THE RIGHT:

http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll119/iscream4bananas/cedarpoint033.jpg

and im debating between this color/style:

http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll119/iscream4bananas/scenehair107.jpg

and this one:

and this one:http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll119/iscream4bananas/scene.jpg

I like the first one. I think it could work for you. :)

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yours was the best advice i received...and you seem to really know what you're talking about so i thought maybe you could help with the other part of the issue..
(i asked the question about my friends all hating me about the stupid dress thing)

okay, i just found out why theyre all doing this.

its all my so-called best friends fault.
She technically still lives with me, all her clothes and everything is still at my house, she just hasnt been there in over two months.

she pretty much stays with her boyfriend.
but when she asked his mom if she could just move in, his mom said no. so now they're trying to get me to kick her out so that his mom will think she has nowhere to go. and my other two so-called friends are just going right along with it.

it's bullshit.
so basically they completely ruined my reputation, made everyone at school think i did something horrible, and i have to walk through the halls alone now. my school is sooo small... 14 kids in our senior class, and every single kid in the school believes them.

grr... some friends..
should i fight fire with fire and be the "bitch" they accuse me of being?
or should i just ignore it (but that's really really REALLY hard)?

thanks..=)

I would tell you to just ignore it, but I'm gonna tell you what I did.

I had a lot of people at my highschool who weren't really my friends to begin with (& knew nothing about me) talking shit behind my back (as if I wouldn't find out) & they were saying I was a bitch, and a cunt, and I was stuck-up & all that shit. I can admit, I can be a bitch if you treat me like one, and I can be a cunt on my bad days, but I AM NOT stuck-up. So..I figured if I can't ignore them (I get frustrated so easy) that I'd just be what they said I was. That way, it wouldn't bug me & I'd be happy.

I'm gonna just advise you to be this huge bitch they say you're being. & You know what? You'll more than likely do something good when you graduate since you're a nice person. And when you go to your reunion in 10 years, they'll probably all be divorced like 5 times with 3 kids & no money.

Just be yourself. If these kids don't like you, that's fine. Nobody asked them to be your friend, and nobody asked them to dislike you. They did it all on their own & that's good. Fuck the bitches & everyone else. Life's too short to give a fuck what everyone thinks about you.

You'll be much happier when you realize the opinions do not matter.

Again, I really hope this helps you & you can move past these children. They're just unhappy with their own lives so they're taking it out on you. You'll be fine if you just be yourself. That's what I did & I eventually moved out of my city & ended up going 2000 miles away from everyone, haha. But yeah, just do that & you'll be happy. And senior year is over in no time anyways. :) Enjoy your prom, enjoy the rest of 12th grade, and enjoy your life.

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Hi,

22/m here. I have two friends. Let's call them Craig and Alex. I've known Alex longer, but Craig and I are closer and are practically best friends. Craig and Alex didn't know each other before though. I'm the connecting link in between.

Anyway, so I try to hang out with both of them together and maybe all 3 of us can be friends. Craig is really shy, but he's been loosening up a bit around Alex. Last week though, we were just joking around and stuff and Alex made a crack at Craig that made Craig upset. Alex doesn't know he made Craig upset and i'm 100% sure that wasn't his intention. I think Alex is just getting comfortable having Craig around so he's joking around with him even more to kind of help us all bond. Craig took it personal though and thought it meant Alex doesn't like him or thinks badly of him. So, now Craig doesn't really want to be around Alex. Alex has no idea what's going on and I feel bad being around Alex because i'm sure he has no idea about how Craig feels.

Now, i'm kind of caught between these two friends. I wish Craig could understand that Alex wasn't being mean-spirited, but I guess Craig is a little paranoid because of past experiences with old friends. :(

I feel like a mediator here between and just want everything to be okay and have times where I can spend it with both of them and not have to choose one or the other. What should I do? Should I do anything at all? Will Craig eventually come around? Should I even tell Alex?

You definitely need to tell Alex. Craig isn't going to, and since you are the connecting link, then you should tell him.

Maybe when you tell Alex, he'll contact Craig & they can meet up to talk about what happened. If you feel the need, explain to Craig what happened with Alex & maybe he'll reconcile.

I have a friend like Craig, so I know how you feel.

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well i love fingering myself and im not sure if my boyfriend will like to. I have loads of other canidates who would love to but ilove y boyfriend more what shall i do?

You should stop considering other guys to finger you instead of your boyfriend.

Either ask him about it, or dump him. You don't love him if you're thinking of having somebody else do it. Your question makes you sound like a heartless bitch.

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i have a huge problem...
and it's pretty long but i hope someone can help because i don't think i've ever hurt this bad in my life.

ok so here's the deal. two weeks ago, my best friend and two other girls went tanning. i was under the impression that i was supposed to go, but apparently they "didn't have room" but no one told me anything, i just assumed i was still going until it got too late to go. we kind of all got into some tension about that, and i felt like they just didnt want me to go. so i felt shut out.
then they accused me of stealing my best friends purse, which i would NEVER do. can you understand where i felt like they didnt want me around?

well when my boyfriend heard about the situation he made the suggestion of not eating with those girls at prom with the exception of one (one of them is dating his best friend, and they live two hours away so they have to ride together) so i texted that girl and said "hey maybe you and i and our boyfriends should just eat together at prom..." and she kinda got upset about it and i said "oh ok well it was just a suggestion from my boyfriend because i felt like you guys didnt want me there anyway. no big deal, we can still all eat together if you want me and my bf to" and it was fine and everything was settled by thursday. everything was perfectly fine.

well, the girl i was talking about (my boyfriends best friends girlfriend...lol) was supposed to borrow a prom dress from me. i guess my mom thought she said that she was going to buy it, because the girl texted my mom and asked how low we'd go on the cost. so we were under the assumption that she was going to buy it. mom needed to know if she was still interested because if not she was going to go sell it so that we'd finally have a little bit of money. so i texted her friday and said "hey my mom said if you're going to get the dress you gotta buy it because if not we gotta sell somewhere else it or i can't get a dress" and she got sooo pissed off because she thought i was demanding payment right then, when really i was just telling her the situation. we just needed to know if she was still interested. i apologized for the misunderstanding and thought everything was fine. until i tried texting the girls and no one answered. and when i drove by where my best friend and her boyfriend live, the girls were there. so once again i felt shut out.. i didnt know they all hated me.

so i texted my best guy friend (best friends boyfriend) and asked to talk to my bff. he said no. and i said why, and he said because i said no. i thought he was joking around, cuz he always says stupid stuff like that. so i just said please, and he said it depends on what its about. i didnt have anything to hide, so i said well i just need to know why everyone is ignoring me. and he said "because you're a stupid bitch and you think you're better than everyone and no one likes you" and i still thought he was kidding......
so i said whoa what did i do?! cuz i wasnt sure what to think. and he said "that was a stupid question" and i said no, its not because i have no idea what you're talking about.

and he said:
"i'm talking about the shit about you saying that only you and *alex* and *tory* and *Joe* could only eat together at prom and you demanding that *tory* pay you for that dress right then. you think youre better than everyone and we're all sick of you"

so i said "no, that was a suggestion from *alex* because he thought the girls didnt wanna be around me after the whole tanning thing and the purse incident. it was all settled by thursday though so what changed"
and he said "nothing was settled about you eating with us, but now it is and you and *alex* arent invited"

thats fine, i dont care, but now they all say they hate me except my best friend, but her boyfriend will not let her talk to me or my mom, so i lost her too.

and she let her boyfriend tell my mom that her daughter was a stupid bitch and that if she would pull her head out of her ass and look around she might see how worthless her kid is" my mother saved her from abuse and neglect! we let her live with us for six months, and paid for everything for her. even bought her a brand new cell phone!

so they left, and now everyone hates me...but i really didnt do anything wrong! i live in such a small town, and they were really my only friends...
and they have forgiven the girl who called us all sluts and hoes, and stole our boyfriends. (the same girl who is dating my boyfriends best friend and who told them the doctored and edited dress story) they gave her a thousand chances to prove herself, but yet no one bothered to ask me about any of this before they made up their mind to hate me.

these are friends i've had since i was three.... what do i do?

People change over time. Sometimes the change isn't immeadiate, or even too noticeable at first, but it does happen.

I can see how you are not at fault for what is happening. I think they're just finding stupid reasons not to be your friend so that they don't have to deal with you. They don't wanna be your friend anymore, so they assume that if they knit pick at what you say/do, they'll find something to attack you on.

I would say it's your best bet not to be friends with them anymore. If they're going to be rude, immature & childish then they're not your friends & you don't need them to be your friends. End of story.

Ditch them & find some new people to hang out. These girls sound like a bunch of cunts.

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16/f
serious question and im looking for guys answers mostly. why cant you just like one girl? why do most of you have to been hooking up with alot of girls? i dont understand why one isnt good enough =( please help me understand.

I'm not a female, but maybe I can help?

Most guys (not all, but most) like & want what they cannot have. They think that if they hook up with just one girl, they will miss out on something else. So, they hook up with a ton of girls so that they have a variety or a spread of different girls.

It could also be that they're shallow, or that they don't think they deserve just one girl & that they should have every girl they see as if they were God's gift to Earth.

Honestly, not all guys are like this, but most are and it's a sad, sad thing. It's hard to find a nice guy. I think as long as you stay single & get to know a guy first, you'll see that there really are some nice guys out there. Don't jump into anything with a guy just because he's hot & seems into you. It'll end in disaster.

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My boyfrend thnks I'm cheating on him.
I'm not! I shall say I'm attractive and a lot of guys like me, but i only have eyes for him. I'm also friends with mostly guys and I told him that when we first started talking and he semed to understand...

but I've told him everything imaginable how I felt and how I wasn't lying. I've even asked him if he's the on cheating and he says he's not. Today, he told me he's going to find out that I am some kind of way and I said I did not care because I'm not cheating.

& I always let him go through my phone & I go through his.

soooo... Wat can I do to prove to him I'm not? I'm sick of him saying it!

You & your boyfriend do not have a relationship.

The foundation of a relationship is trust, and neither of you have it. If he trusted you, he wouldn't go through your phone or even ask to. If you trusted him, you wouldn't go through his phone or ask to.

Break up with each other. There is nothing to prove. There's no trust, so there's no relationship. That's it.

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hi, well. my mom doesn't find webcamming so
safe bc i wanted to buy a webcam and use it
on oovoo. and shes just not listening to me,
in her words she thinks webcamming is " inviteing
people into your home " and she doesn't like it
yett i told her all my other friends have it.
she doesn't care and said so, use it when
you go over there house so i guess what
im trying to say is, is webbcamming
safe or not on oovoo? if so, what
are some way i can convience
my mom to get me one.

-torii x0o

I usually don't think webcamming is too safe unless it's a friend. If it's a random stranger, then it probably isn't safe & I wouldn't do it.

Personally, I only use the webcam on my laptop for when I'm on Yahoo Messenger talking to my mother or brother. I think as long as you're just talking with friends & not some complete stranger, you'll be okay.

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Me and my girlfriend are 20 years old. We been going out for 2 years and 10 months. But on our anniversary I found a text message in her phone from another guy which called her babe and if he could call her at 9.15. I broke up with her and I don't know what to do.

She told me that she met this guy once before we started going out, he lives in LA but I don't know what to believe, she also told me that she's never done anything. And doesn't plan to meet him. She said she doesn't talk to him all the time, but its only been about less than 1 month that he started talking to her.

I don't know what to do. I love her. But I don't know if I can forgive her. What do I do?

I answered what seemed to be your girlfriend's question, so now I am going to answer your's.

Please do not take this the wrong way as this is meant to help you.

I think you're overreacting. Your girlfriend did nothing wrong. It seems as though she just made a friend. The only thing I'm wondering is if she told you she made a friend, or if she hid it & you ended up finding out.

If she hasn't done anything, then she isn't cheating on you, and if she doesn't plan on meeting him, then why don't you take her word for it. Accepting a phone call from a friend who's a guy isn't exactly a crime & you shouldn't be so hard on her.

If you love your girlfriend, forgive her. She did nothing wrong & you're blowing this all out of proportion. You have nothing to be mad at her for. She really does love you. If you don't believe me, go see her question on my column.

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Where can I get cheap, 34 (or 36) DD push up bras?

I'm just looking for plain black ones.

I'm 38D, so I hear what you're saying. It's incredibly hard to find a good, decent bra these days for someone with breast sizes like ours.

Anyways, I usually get my bras from places like Dots, or Wal*Mart. But now since the Wal*Mart where I live is kinda far, I resort to Target. These places still run kinda high ($10) but it's the cheapest you'll find. If you happen to have a Marshall's or an AJ Wright where you are, you can also try there. I can't guarantee that they'll always carry your size, but the bras are really cheap. :)

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I'm having tough time coming up with one for my account on youtube and Diviantart.
Anyone have any ideas for a good username, todo with eccentric, open-minded, random, diverse or active. Perhaps any tips creating one or any good sites that can help.
Thanks

You could try putting those words in front of your name. Say your name was Jennifer, you could put:

EccentricJen
TheOpenMindofJen
JenniferRandom

Stuff like that. Obviously feel free to change those up a bit to your liking, but those could work. :)

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I am sixteen, and since I was small, I've always been scared of the dark. I don't mind when it's dark but there's streetlights, but if it's dark, outside or inside, I'm scared shitless.
I was mildly scared in my old house, but in my current house I am absolutely terrified, especially as this house gives off such a negative feeling (but that's another thing)
I just wish I could overcome this but I can't. I mean I can sleep with my lights off but if I have to go to the toilet at night, I have to turn on the biggest light in my room, then the light in the corridor and then the bathroom.
Any advice, please? And no stupid comments, that's no use to anyone.

I'm 18 and still afraid of the dark, though for me, it all depends on how dark it is. If it's dark, but I can still see where I'm going, then I'm fine & I'm not all that scared but if it's pitch black & I can't see anything, then I'm scared shitless pretty much.

This might sound a little embarrassing but ask your mom or whoever for a nightlight for the bathroom, your room & the hallway (corridor). My mom did that not only for me but for herself because she liked the added lights. And honestly, who wants to turn on lights when your eyes are used the dark. It's practically blinding.

To be honest, I think the nightlights are really helpful for me because I still do it & I'm not really embarrassed by it.

I think the best way for you to get over your fear though, is to conquer it. Just remember that nothing is going to get you, and you'll be fine. Maybe spend 5 minutes in the dark by yourself & then once you realize you're okay, keep going & adding some time to it.

I think you should be fine. Being afraid of the dark is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about because I'm still scared of it, and I'm older than you. :)

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i think i want to start looking for jobs
im 16/f
my question is how do i make a resume
and what has to be on the resume
this is my first job so i dont know what happens at an interview
can u clue me in on the details

I think since it's your first job, you won't need a resume since you've had no experience. With no job experience, a resume is pretty much pointless. You'll more than likely be applying for jobs in retail anyways.

At an interview, they just ask you questions. They're gonna ask what you think you'll bring to the company, what skills you have that are valuable to the position you've applied to, and why you think you're good for the job. It's good not to have any extreme piercings such as your lip or your eyebrow (nose is fine, and so are ears). Also, no extremely visible tattoos which won't be a problem since you're 16 & it's illegal for you to have them anyways.

Make sure you wear something nice & appropriate. Black & white are usually nice but it's not bad to add some color. Stores like Wet Seal, Dots & Charlotte Russe usually have a section that has interview appropriate clothing. So obviously don't wear ripped jeans or a hollister tee shirt.

Maybe have a parent give you practice interviews so when you go into your interview, you know the ropes a little bit & you won't seem so nervous. Oh, and also when you get there, shake their hand, give them a smile & thank them for their time both when you arrive, and when you leave.

I'm sure that should help you. If you need anything else, just ask in my inbox. Good luck!

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So ealier I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time, (not my first time, ours like in our relationship) ...

We were kissing and he pulled it out and was trying to put it in and I realize, there's no condom! I ask "Do u have a condom on?" He said "No, i'll get it in a minute. I don't want to get up." A MINUTE?! YOU DON'T want to get up?! So I made him stop and go "find" one because he didn't know where one was! Can you please tell me what could have been going through his head? I'm pretty sure I should take this as a red flag! How should I confront him about it? I'm so disappointed in him because I THOUGHT we were great for each other!

You need to ask him what the hell he was thinking!

To me it sounds like he was only thinking of himself, and it definitely doesn't sound like he respects you enough to wear a condom.

I'd honestly dump this kid. If he cannot respect you enough to wrap it up, then he does not deserve you.

Have a talk with him & if nothing changes (I doubt it will, he sounds like an asshole), dump him.

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I'm a girl. I want to go to a strip club, just to see what its like. How weird would it be to go with my boyfriend, his friend and his girlfriend? Would it be really awkward? And is it true that most of the strippers are nasty (at most clubs)? I mean I'm from Rhode Island and there really aren't any premiere strip clubs haha.

I don't think it's too weird. I'm sort of in the same situation as you. I've never been to a strip-club before & asked my boyfriend if it'd be weird to go with him. He told me no.

I also don't think it's too weird if your boyfriend's friend's girlfriend is going. Maybe you & her can bond or something.

Not all the strippers are nasty, but some can be pretty wild. However, just know that if you go & you're uncomfortable, it is okay for you to leave & not go back to a strip club. Your comfort is what's most important here.

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My dad just recently told me he is gay. He hasnt told anyone his whole life accept for me. This is really difficult for me and I was wondering where I could find people to help support me through this hard and confusing time.

Your father just came out you to so why are you the one in need of support & help?

Your father has more than likely been struggling internally with this & had no idea who to tell or how to tell them. He trusts you enough to tell you something this huge & you're this self-absorbed to only think about yourself?

Your father needs support the most. This was a hard & confusing time for him. :(

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there's alot of girls at school that dont like me and think im a slut . and i barely have any friends that are girls, should i care? or should i just keep living my life the way i do? people tell me its just because their jealous, cause i dont really give them reasons to think that way of me .

I don't think you should care too much. People are going to talk shit no matter what you do so keep doing what makes you happy. Fuck opinions.

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this dude i use 2 go with our relationship was on and off u knw but we still have sex and he nuts inside me but he told me that he cant have kids what should i do bout it

Either stop having sex with him and people, or tell to him to wear a condom. Get some self-respect before you end up pregnant. You're probably like 16.

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i am about 5'1", 100 pounds, started my period a few weeks ago, and am and totally desgusted with my body because i have no boobs. i don't even have buds yet, there's nothing there. i'm so concerned about it, and i'm the only person i know with this problem. i know i'm slightly on the small side, but i have a friend who's even smaller than me and she has boobs- EVERY SINGLE person in the high school does other than me. i feel so alone and and i want them so badly. i already wear padded bras and i don't think anyone notices, but i can't even go swimming with my friends because i know they'll be able to tell. people keep telling me to wait but i'm so afraid i'll never get them.

please help,
thanks.

You're only 14 & just not started your period. You're not fully developed yet, and won't be for a few more years. Your body is still growing & maturing.

Be patient because there's nothing you can do. You will get boobs eventually. Don't worry. Having boobs isn't even that great.

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