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my friends hate me for NO REASON!!! =(
i have a huge problem...
and it's pretty long but i hope someone can help because i don't think i've ever hurt this bad in my life.
ok so here's the deal. two weeks ago, my best friend and two other girls went tanning. i was under the impression that i was supposed to go, but apparently they "didn't have room" but no one told me anything, i just assumed i was still going until it got too late to go. we kind of all got into some tension about that, and i felt like they just didnt want me to go. so i felt shut out.
then they accused me of stealing my best friends purse, which i would NEVER do. can you understand where i felt like they didnt want me around?
well when my boyfriend heard about the situation he made the suggestion of not eating with those girls at prom with the exception of one (one of them is dating his best friend, and they live two hours away so they have to ride together) so i texted that girl and said "hey maybe you and i and our boyfriends should just eat together at prom..." and she kinda got upset about it and i said "oh ok well it was just a suggestion from my boyfriend because i felt like you guys didnt want me there anyway. no big deal, we can still all eat together if you want me and my bf to" and it was fine and everything was settled by thursday. everything was perfectly fine.
well, the girl i was talking about (my boyfriends best friends girlfriend...lol) was supposed to borrow a prom dress from me. i guess my mom thought she said that she was going to buy it, because the girl texted my mom and asked how low we'd go on the cost. so we were under the assumption that she was going to buy it. mom needed to know if she was still interested because if not she was going to go sell it so that we'd finally have a little bit of money. so i texted her friday and said "hey my mom said if you're going to get the dress you gotta buy it because if not we gotta sell somewhere else it or i can't get a dress" and she got sooo pissed off because she thought i was demanding payment right then, when really i was just telling her the situation. we just needed to know if she was still interested. i apologized for the misunderstanding and thought everything was fine. until i tried texting the girls and no one answered. and when i drove by where my best friend and her boyfriend live, the girls were there. so once again i felt shut out.. i didnt know they all hated me.
so i texted my best guy friend (best friends boyfriend) and asked to talk to my bff. he said no. and i said why, and he said because i said no. i thought he was joking around, cuz he always says stupid stuff like that. so i just said please, and he said it depends on what its about. i didnt have anything to hide, so i said well i just need to know why everyone is ignoring me. and he said "because you're a stupid bitch and you think you're better than everyone and no one likes you" and i still thought he was kidding......
so i said whoa what did i do?! cuz i wasnt sure what to think. and he said "that was a stupid question" and i said no, its not because i have no idea what you're talking about.
and he said:
"i'm talking about the shit about you saying that only you and *alex* and *tory* and *Joe* could only eat together at prom and you demanding that *tory* pay you for that dress right then. you think youre better than everyone and we're all sick of you"
so i said "no, that was a suggestion from *alex* because he thought the girls didnt wanna be around me after the whole tanning thing and the purse incident. it was all settled by thursday though so what changed"
and he said "nothing was settled about you eating with us, but now it is and you and *alex* arent invited"
thats fine, i dont care, but now they all say they hate me except my best friend, but her boyfriend will not let her talk to me or my mom, so i lost her too.
and she let her boyfriend tell my mom that her daughter was a stupid bitch and that if she would pull her head out of her ass and look around she might see how worthless her kid is" my mother saved her from abuse and neglect! we let her live with us for six months, and paid for everything for her. even bought her a brand new cell phone!
so they left, and now everyone hates me...but i really didnt do anything wrong! i live in such a small town, and they were really my only friends...
and they have forgiven the girl who called us all sluts and hoes, and stole our boyfriends. (the same girl who is dating my boyfriends best friend and who told them the doctored and edited dress story) they gave her a thousand chances to prove herself, but yet no one bothered to ask me about any of this before they made up their mind to hate me.
these are friends i've had since i was three.... what do i do?
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High school drama can be crazy and that's a terrible thing to go through. My sophomore I delt with a smilar situation and I realized I was better off without them. Now I'm a junior and I have an entire new group of friends I met and most are seniors and sophomores. Those people clearly are not your friends and no oen deserves to be treated like that. In order for soemone to call you names like they must be on soem high horse and they need a slap in the face.
It's not worth your time to try to get some witches with a b.. to be your friends when they aren't very nice people from the sounds of it. You should reach out to other people not just in your grade and you would be surprised what you can find. This year I was gonig in thinking I was going to have a horrible year but I decided to stand up for myself and ignor the people causing me trouble. I went otu and did different activities and trips for my school and met an amazing group of people who I hang otu with every week. There is better people out there for you to find and you need to put those jekrs in your past and not look back.
Make sure you are mature about this and don't stoop to their level of name calling and don't let them get to you. If they try to talk to you just ignor them and walk the other way. Don't answer and phone calls or texts from them and don't let them know they are getting to you. What they want is to see you miserable and you need to be strong. Go to that prom with a beautiful dress and show all them up and have the time of your life. Best of luck :D
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DUDE .... !! What the hell?
How can you let a freaking asshole fag to call you names??
People here on this website will never advice you to get your revenage but i will
"Having a good life is the best revenage"
That's true!! Ignore those CRAZY/childish/immature/little brats/ lifeless/worthless people. No they are not your friends and they don't deserve your time, so i demande you not to waste your time thinking about what they did or say because they don't deserve it in any kind of way.
Maybe you're hurt but i believe in every story there is a bright side and i advice you to look at yours and your bright side is "now you actually know what people are capable of and that those people aren't your friends"
Life is a bitch, but we all have to suck it up, and we also can make it better by doing the RIGHT thing.
Go to the prom, do not sit at home and be depressed eating ice cream.
Find the BEST dress and go wild, have the best night of your life with your boyfriend and completely walk by them as if they are invisible.
Good Luck =]=]
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People change over time. Sometimes the change isn't immeadiate, or even too noticeable at first, but it does happen.
I can see how you are not at fault for what is happening. I think they're just finding stupid reasons not to be your friend so that they don't have to deal with you. They don't wanna be your friend anymore, so they assume that if they knit pick at what you say/do, they'll find something to attack you on.
I would say it's your best bet not to be friends with them anymore. If they're going to be rude, immature & childish then they're not your friends & you don't need them to be your friends. End of story.
Ditch them & find some new people to hang out. These girls sound like a bunch of cunts.
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I'm so sorry you have to go through this. As hard as it might be to hear this, these people obviously aren't good friends. You deserve much better. You haven't done anything wrong, & as horrible as it might seem, it sounds like they're just looking for reasons to turn against you. It sounds to me like a case of jealousy on the girl's parts. If I were you, I'd go to the prom with just your boyfriend & have a great time. Act like they don't matter to you at all. By acting like they're really upsetting you, you're just giving them the satisfaction that their stupid little plan worked. Sounds like they all need to do a little bit of growing up. And it is absolutely wrong of that guy to say those things about you to your mother. He sounds like a huge coward. It's hard, I know, but don't let it get to you. Hold your head up high, & enjoy your life.
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