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He didn't want to put on a condom!
So ealier I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time, (not my first time, ours like in our relationship) ...
We were kissing and he pulled it out and was trying to put it in and I realize, there's no condom! I ask "Do u have a condom on?" He said "No, i'll get it in a minute. I don't want to get up." A MINUTE?! YOU DON'T want to get up?! So I made him stop and go "find" one because he didn't know where one was! Can you please tell me what could have been going through his head? I'm pretty sure I should take this as a red flag! How should I confront him about it? I'm so disappointed in him because I THOUGHT we were great for each other!
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You need to ask him what the hell he was thinking!
To me it sounds like he was only thinking of himself, and it definitely doesn't sound like he respects you enough to wear a condom.
I'd honestly dump this kid. If he cannot respect you enough to wrap it up, then he does not deserve you.
Have a talk with him & if nothing changes (I doubt it will, he sounds like an asshole), dump him.
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Bullshit.
I'm impulsive, I act without thinking alot, and I still don't miss things like that.
Ask him why he was about to do that. Let him know its a big deal to you. If he blows it off, you might want to start thinking about how to break up with him.
Willfully violating a partners trust in the sack is fucked up, if he tries to play it off or repeats it ever again its time to move on.
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Well...in the heat of the moment, there was only one thing going through his head, literally and figuratively.
Men don't do alot of thinking in a situation like that. It's just their nature. I wouldn't make more of it than that, but, emphasize to him that you cannot risk getting pregnant and that the next time you have sex, he must have a condom ready or there will be no sex. Don't do it in the heat of the moment as he will not be thinking straight.
How to confront him...just talk to him. It's really not a big deal unless you make it a big deal. I'm sure he will even agree with you.
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