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Okay so me ad my boyfriend have been dating a year, i love him id do anything for him hes been a best friend for me through so much stuff and i cant imagine things after us. Lately he was distant and last night he asked for a break because he didnt know what he wanted all my friends think hes a "douchebag" and i can do better. not just because of this instant but because of many. but i dont anyone else, as much as he says hurtful things i still love him and i know he loves me too. we decided not to talk for a week and see where that leaves us at first he says its going to help and then he says not to be hopeful. im so confused i want him so badly he says he doesnt know if he wants us, he says time has taken a toll. im really lost with all this and i cant stop crying and i dont know what to do.
please help me
thanks
H (link)
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I feel really bad for you because I
understand what you're feeling.
You need to face reality here though.
Needing a break is just a polite way
of breaking up. People don't take a
break in a good relationship.
I know you want to be hopeful, just
be prepared. You want someone who is
sure about how he feels for you.
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How do you know if someone is emotionally manipulative of you? (link)
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Here is a good site that helps you to spot
an emotional manipulator.
http://www.cassiopaea.com/cassiopaea/emotional_manipulation.htm
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Ok, I thought doctors were supposed to be confidential. When I go to my annual check up I can't go into the room by myself, they require my mom to be there. I'm not allowed to ask her to leave. Sometimes there are some embarrassing questions I need to ask right in front of my mom.
Whats up with this? Could it be because its a pediatrician?
17/F (link)
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That could be the problem. At 17 you
should be seeing a doctor without a
parent being present.
Its an odd doctor who would even allow that.
At your age most doctors are smart enough to
realize you may have questions not for a
parents ears. They also aren't getting the
full and honest patient history from young
patients because they should know most
will not admit to being sexually active
with parents present.
If at all possible ask your mom to take
you to another doctor. If she won't and
you have questions, look up your local
health department and go in for a chat. :)
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ok the thing is a friend of mine might be bi. but the thing is, would she act any different if she is? i mean i havent known her for long, and i dont know if she acted differently b4. but a friend of hers and mine as well(she known her 3 years ago) told me she acted different this year. im worried, does it make a difference if a persons not straight? one of my friends told me she had a bi friend and dat she isnt different. well the thing is i dont noe any bi or gay or lesbian people so i dont know. i need advice! please! thank you. (link)
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Bi or gay people act the same way everyone
else does. There are some stereotypical
flamboyant gay characters out there, but I'm
sure they had that behavior before they
even thought about their sexual orientation.
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Is being a landlord a form of self employment?
Can you please tell me, thanks! (link)
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Yes it is. If you make money at it
you can consider it a job. :)
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ok so i am with this girl we have been dating for a while now and things are absoloutly amazing i love her so much.... so whats the problem? well ok i am 15 years old ill be 16 on june 22 but my gf is.... 13 and in seventh grade i dont see whats so wrong with that but my dad hates it and no one approves not even my best friend... but i love her so much plese help someone idk what to do..... (link)
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A 2 years difference in age isn't a big deal.
They are probably more concerned with her
maturity than anything. She may be an exception
but most 13 year old girls are a bit ditsy
and immature. No offense to you 13 year old
girls out there.
You are not 18 so it isn't "illegal". By the
time you reach 18, she will be 15/16. If it
lasts that long, I think parents would realize
the relationship was more than just a passing
thing.
I advise that you continue the relationship
if you really care for her. Keeping in mind
that down deep she is more of a child than
you are right now. Don't get involved with
her sexually until she is more mature.
She hasn't reached the age of consent until
she is at least 16...long time to have to
wait,but I'm sure her parents could make
your life hell should she end up pregnant.
Be smart about it if you care. :)
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okay 16/f, i have this boyfriend, and we've been going out for 7 months and he is very respectful and is in love with me and treats me right, but i've told him i wasn't comfortable going too far, with sex and he understands, but he like expects me to when we've been going out for a year..and i don't want to like dispoint him or make him wait for me, cause i dont know when i'll be ready. He is 100 percent comfortable with me, but i dont know why i'm not 100 comfortable with him, which can be the problem, im also scared to do some sexual things like head or fingering me, and i dont know whyy. so i believe that from my lack of sexuality he watches porn, but i feel like since he does, my expectations of those girls are higher and that im being compared and even if he doesn't see it like that or compare me in any way i feel like it does, but i'm just mental about the whole situation. i don't know what to do to make myself relax or feel more comfortable or do i just have to wait untill im comfortable whenever that will be. and i dont know what to do about my boyfriend because i don't want him to feel like hes gonna get something i'm not sure he will. so please give me advice thanks (link)
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I think if you've already been going
out for 7 months, you're relationship
is pretty strong. I don't think if after
a year you still don't feel ready for sex
he is going to just dump you or anything.
The time to discuss it is now though.
Don't wait until its been a year and
then try to get him to understand.
Whatever you do, don't fall into the
trap of having sex just because "Hes
been made to wait long enough".
A lot of curious young men look at
porn. I believe most are grounded
enough in the real world to realize
that most women do not act like that
in real life. There is a difference
between love and getting paid. :)
Please don't feel that there is
anything wrong with you're being
scared or not 100 % comfortable.
If most teens took the time to
actually think about the risks they
are taking, they would be scared too!
While most young people just jump into
sex without a care, it is actually a
very BIG responsibility. You have to be
mature enough to handle all possible
consequences. Most of those consequences
alter lives in ways that can't be erased.
I always told my kids, if you aren't
ready to be a parent and/or marry the person
you are having sex with, don't do it.
Been there done that! So you are not
scared or uncomfortable without very
good reason.
Follow your heart but listen to your
instincts. When ready there will be NO
doubts.
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Hello world. So does anyone have like really good tips on how to write a song, liek jsut the lyrics part. And i know stick to your deep true feelings, because those ideas are the best, but where do you go from there? Thanks if you can help! (link)
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Here is a good search for tips on
lyrics writing. Couldn't pick just
one so will let you have a look. :)
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this little girl i was babysitting fell and she hit her head and there was no sign that she was hurt. and I dont know if i should tell her parents about it or not should i? i need advice!!! (link)
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Its always a good idea to tell the parents
of anything that happens while they are
away. Children fall and hit their heads,
especially toddlers who are just learning
or haven't been walking for long.Its not
your fault, you did nothing wrong, and
the parents will know that.
For use in the future here is some
information on how to treat closed
head injuries, goose eggs etc. :)
http://firstaid.webmd.com/head_injury_treatment_firstaid.htm
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17/f
okai.. long story short.. about two weeks ago, me and my bf had sex.. penetrated ONCE...yes ONCE.. and we kept trying but it didnt go back in.. is there a possibility that the precum might've empregnated me? although it went in once, i see it as a threat.. i haven't gotten my period..its a good 6 days late.. been getting some headaches and tiredness... could it be> thanks so much uin advance! (link)
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Chances that you are not pregnant. 6 days
late is not a big deal. You're stressing
and that can make you late.
Pregnant women may get tired easily or
get headaches, but those symptoms are
NOT indications of pregnancy.
Here is a site for you to look over.
LOTS of great info you could use. I
will link you to the pregnancy symptoms
page but please do look around while there.
You don't want to go through this again,
so never let a guy near you unless he
is using a condom. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm
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I have a bit of a problem and I am not sure how to deal with it. I am 21 and recently discovered my mother is smoking weed. I found a joint and today when I walked in the house it smelt like weed. She is a grown woman and can make decisions, but I am worried that it will turn into worse.
My father was a drinker and druggy and thats how he ultimately died. So I am worried that she will end up the same way to early.
So please tell me if I should just butt out or what I can do about it. (link)
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Just so you know use of marijuana
may cause DEPRESSION in SOME users.
That is the mental illness the
government uses to scare the masses.
Marijuana has never killed anyone
by itself. It may contribute to
accidents, it may contribute to
lung cancer in those who smoke it.
Personally, I have never smoked it.
However I do know several who do.
You would never know it if they didn't
tell you. They get up, go to work
and do not smoke it all the time.
I understand your concern for your
mother. Talk to her about it and
tell her your fears.
I'm going to take a guess and assume
that if she hasn't become a big druggy
by now, she probably isn't going to.
Chances are she has been smoking it for
years.
Talk to her, find out. Then leave her
to make her own decision on it. She is
an adult, as you are and is free to do
what she will. I realize it is illegal
and she is risking her freedom. Tell
her that. But from a health standpoint,
drinking is far worse on a person. :)
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Okay so I've been having alot of stomach pains lately, It isnt nasaea. I have a doctor appointment tomrow.
But here the catch, I've been sexually active... could I be pregnaut??? I've had my period a few times since my last time but i've heard you can still have a period in the beginnig of pregnaucy.
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Stomach pain is not a symptom of pregnancy.
If you have had your period a few times
since you last had sex, and they were normal
periods then you aren't pregnant. Being
pregnant and continuing to have regular
periods is very rare. If it was a few
months ago, you would probably be showing
by now if you were pregnant.
Hope they figure out why you are having
pain! But you can stop worrying about
pregnancy. Do tell the doctor you are
sexually active when asked. Your visit
is confidential. :)
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my friends mom is having triple bypass surgery because shes a heavy smoker. my friend is tryin to be there for her but shes already told him that its going to be impossible for her to quit. hes torn apart because shes not even willing to quit even if it means her life. i dont know what to say to make him feel better i dont even know if theres anything i can do to help i just feel so bad cause he cares about her so much and she could careless if she died or even saw him graduate (link)
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Shes having triple bypass because she
has heart problems. Whatever the reason.
Because of media hype he is concentrating
to much on the possible cause right now.
He needs to be there for his mom. She is
in for a long hospital stay without access
to her smokes. He needs to let her doctor
take care of her quitting and concentrate
on his mom in the here and now. Let the
future take care of itself. He can discuss
it with her doctor after the surgery:)
Right now she is probably nervous and
depressed. Not a good time to badger
her about her habits.
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Me and my huband are moving in 41 days from FL to NC so my brother can help my husband get into the police adacemy (my brother is a cop and my husband has been stuck at a dead end job for years). My brother has offered us to say in his house with him, his wife, and 2 teenage kids untill we get on our feet. We are very excited about the move that we know is going to help us grown and be able to start a family. We have sold all of our furniture and we are beyond the point of changing our mind and staying in FL. Well my brother called me today and told me that he and his wife are getting divorced. He is moving out of the house but they dont know if they will sell the house, ect. He says we are still welcome to come but he just wont be living at the house but will still help my husband and us out as promised. What sould we do? Should we still move and cause more stress on my brother? Should we just stay and contuine with our dead end jobs? (link)
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Your being there for him may actually
be a help to him. I don't see any reason
to delay your move. Either stay with him
wherever he is staying or find a place
to get you by. It will work out. :)
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14\Female.
I stayed back in the sixth grade, and while all my friends continued on with there lives I went in reverse. I made a friend named Becky- who at the time seemed to completely replaced all of my friends that I accumulated over the 7years of my educational life. I am now in the 7th grade and have completly changed. I went from being mean and phyically hurting people and Fstudent to Honor Roll and the last time I hit someone was my first year in 6thgrade. Im extremely proud of my accomplisments, and I can't look at school without Becky now.
Rebeccas' completely changed though, into someone no one likes but her. People are telling her Why are you so mean? Why did you say that? When did you start acting like this? She acts like she hates the world and I have tried helping my best friend. During this year I accepted Christ and my personal savour. It's a awesome feeling to know my whole life is planned out for me- and even if I do mess it up God has a back up plan for me or already predicted this. I tried explaining this feeling and she didn't understand it or didn't want to. I will not force anything on her, expecially not a religion she might not believe in but I feel were growing in complete oppiste directions.
I love Becky. She got me through school, and I donno what I would do without her but now? We have nothing common some of her jokes I dont get. We dont have the same amount of fun we had.
Im thinking I should break the tight relatinship we have together. Still be friends just not as close... but I love her Shes my best friend.
Can I have your opinion on the madder and why Im thinking like this... anything is helpfull
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All you can do is continue doing what
you're doing to keep yourself on track.
You did your rebelling early, If that
is what she is up to, you have now
matured to a level she isn't at yet.
I think you have the right idea. Be
there if she needs your help, but
move on with your life and goals
for your future without her. One
of these days she will reach out.
Until then, she isn't hearing you.
In the meantime make some new friends
that see the future as you do. :)
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okay this is kinda random but what would you do if you and you and your best friend had a big fight and you were the one that caused it and it was all your fault and you new that your friend had depression problems and that she cut herself and stuff and you were really mean to her and a couple days later she killed herself and left a suicide note for you saying you were the one that made her kill herself. there are no wrong answers i just really wanna no what yall think. thanks! (link)
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I think you would feel guilty for the
rest of your life. Not that it would
be your fault. A person has problems
beyond just arguing with a friend if
they are depressed enough to kill
themselves. :)
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so in a nutshell, my first love and i dated for a year and a half and were completely INSEPERABLE, and had zero problems 99% of the time. b/c of certain reasons, we ended up having a very hard breakup 6 months ago. about 4 months ago, this guy who i'd been [mutually] crushing on and i started dating. the ex and i half way kept in touch via myspace and occasionally phone. the other day we crossed paths and talked for a minute, and you can tell there still are some feelings there. all the while, he has told me & made it very obvious that he loves me more than anything, and isn't over me and wants me back, and a part of me will always love him since he was my first love. saturday he had a graduation party, and now this girl who i guess he met there is his number two on myspace, and he is on hers as well. and they have comments back and forth and he's left pic comments telling her she's beautiful and the whole shebang. the point is, i think they could like each other and quite frankly i HATE it. i know im with my boyfriend, but i feel as if we ever broke up, my ex and i could have another chance, and before i KNOW he would want that, but i dont want him to forget about me over another girl. i want to know that he's there for me. and he's the type that WILL get really wrapped up in someone else. i dont even know what im asking. i just dont know what to do? how to cope? should i say anything to him? of course i want him to be happy, but i hate that i could end up being replaced, even as a friend. i guess im just used to being that special girl in his life, =/. whats a girl to do? (link)
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Venom gave a very good answer
and I don't have a lot to add
to that. :)
I just want to say that you will
always have special feelings for
your first love. Don't mistake
those feelings for BEING in love.
He will replace you as you have him.
Seeing it happen can be a little
unsettling is all.
You say you halfway kept in touch
until recently. You will probably
continue to do the same. Friends
usually remain friends even though
the go on with their lives. Do your
current guy a favor and concentrate
on him. I'm sure he thinks you are
special too. :)
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so there is this guy named D and he is 17 and i am 15 we have known each other for about a month or more now and for the past 3 weeks he has been texting me and contacting me everyday. I have never initiated a chat with him before maybe once or twice. One night we were texting and i stopped because i was watching a show and in the morning he instant messaged and texted me he was sorry for not replying as well and wanted to know where i was. Then i went to a horse show and i arrived late and he kept asking my friend where is she why isn't she here? and then when i got there he kept texting me to say why aren't you watching this where are you and he would come find me. So i am asking you is he into me because i am kinda confused. because i tried flirting with him and he kinda gave me a weird look but maybe it was because we were in a room filled with adults. Also he was talking to my friend H does she like me? does she think i like her? and my friend H was like no goodness why do u flirt with her and he was like i don't know but she is younger then me and i don't think she can hold a relationship. please decipher all this. (link)
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He likes you. He just isn't sure you are
ready for a mature relationship. Sometimes
flirting can be seen as a sign of immaturity
so that could explain the weird look.
If you're interested in him just tell him so.
He is texting you all the time...not something
a guy does if he isn't interested. Don't have
friends ask him, just tell him how you feel.
I think you'll be glad you did. :)
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i want my boyfriend to be more aggressive with me while we're having sex.
or making out.
what are some ways i can hint around to him without making a fool out of myself.
& i love teasing my bf. but not prick teasing him.
i like to have sex afterwards.
wat are some ways to tease without givin blow jobs and all of that (link)
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You can't hint around. Hinting never works.
For any relationship to work you have to communicate. That includes what you both
want sexually. So don't be shy about it,
you know him well enough to have sex, you
know him well enough to talk about it!
Ask him what he'd like and tell him what
you'd like. Use your imagination. Just
doing things that please the other is a
turn on. Give it a try. :)
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um okay i didnt know what to put this under
but like whats the clit?
cuz i dont know. haha just curious (link)
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Here is the scoop! :)
http://www.answers.com/clitoris?gwp=11&ver=2.0.0.453&method=3&au=1
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