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Okay so me ad my boyfriend have been dating a year, i love him id do anything for him hes been a best friend for me through so much stuff and i cant imagine things after us. Lately he was distant and last night he asked for a break because he didnt know what he wanted all my friends think hes a "douchebag" and i can do better. not just because of this instant but because of many. but i dont anyone else, as much as he says hurtful things i still love him and i know he loves me too. we decided not to talk for a week and see where that leaves us at first he says its going to help and then he says not to be hopeful. im so confused i want him so badly he says he doesnt know if he wants us, he says time has taken a toll. im really lost with all this and i cant stop crying and i dont know what to do.
please help me
thanks
H
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I feel really bad for you because I
understand what you're feeling.
You need to face reality here though.
Needing a break is just a polite way
of breaking up. People don't take a
break in a good relationship.
I know you want to be hopeful, just
be prepared. You want someone who is
sure about how he feels for you.
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I totally understand where he is coming from, you can definatley change in a year, a whole lot actually. It seems like he is trying to do what he thinks is best for you and avoid hurting you. It may seem totally illogical to you but you don't know what he is feeling and how he feels he has changed. I dated a guy for 3 years and I was completely head over heels for him, at first. By the 2 and a half year mark things were changing and my feelings were beginning to change. I had to let him go and though he didn't understand it then, he finally began to understand that I was trying to avoid hurting him and let him go before it got farther.
I advise that you just try and let him go, yes it will be hard especially if you really love him. But realize that he was trying to be a good guy and let you go before things got in tooo deep. Try to be understanding though that is sometimes the hardest thing to do.
Hope I Helped.
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Don't cry he seems like he has really changed in the year that you've been dating. If your friends see something in him they don't like they are probably right because all they are trying to do is watch out for you. And as different you may think he is when it is just you two its just as important for him to treat you right in front of your friends. He is probably saying that the break will be helpful because you will be use to not talking to him as much, which makes me find him even more lame. If i were you I'd take the bull by the horns and break up with him. It will make you feel fresh and give you a single outlook on the situation. And if he says that would upset him you will know he cares and i know you know he loves you but he's doubting it and being a jerk...You deserve better and I know you know that Good luck xoxo Diane
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