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I've been talking to this guy but lately he's put me on the burner saying he doesn't want to cheat on his girl. But there are times where he acts interested all over again, and there are times where he won't text or barely flirt with me. Is he just lying to himself or is he really over it?
It's a mix of both
The guy told you that he doesn't want to cheat on his girlfriend and that is a good thing, It shows that he is committed to his relationship and isn't willing to let someone come between that. Maybe he does like you but he basically told you that he has a girlfriend. Of course he isn't going to really flirt with you, Did you honestly expect him too? One major thing that turns a guy off is attention seekers and drama queens that like to come between relationships. Find someone who is not taken and stop trying to making people miserable.
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. For the last 6 months we have been arguing a lot about big things and petty things. He has currently been away for a month and hasn't Once emailed me saying anything affectionate when he is bk in less that a week. I'm so sick of him making me feel like shit all the time he talks down to me so much but I know he can be nice. He's said before that we just go round in circles and has tarted to breakup with me but then I get upset and he ends up saying 'well I do want to just not when we argue and nothing ever changes ' I don't know whether he does it for s reaction or what? He dosnt seem bothers by anything I do! I just don't know how to act anymore I want to vd with him I just want him to treat me like he use to. I've already said this to him but he just says I over react of says something harsh and blunt. Do j make the effort of what? I've tried everything!!
Sometimes relationships just don't work out, People grow apart or we simply loose interest. You were apart for awhile and he didn't even bother to act like he missed you? Sounds like the guy has lost interest in the relationship. If you two took a break and nothing changed between the two of you then it's time to end it and move on. You shouldn't stick around for someone who doesn't appreciate you.
There's this boy in my class we are both 13 and not dateing he sad that he wanted to date me only to have sex with him. He is always touching my butt and hair during class. What does this mean. I'm a female and he's a male.
I agree with Ninja
Don't do it, Forget about him, Avoid him but do not have sex with him.
This kid obviously just wants sex, That's it. Any guy that is all about sex ONLY cares about sex.
Find a guy that will respect you, Care about your feelings and actually want to be in a relationship with you and not your body. This kid is trying to take advantage of you and use you. Don't fall under peer pressure, You are better than that. If you go and have sex to get the kid to "like" you then you are just another typical teenager who has no self respect for their body. It's not worth it
Well idk what to I basically have tried to watch my sister get dressed that didn't work i think I might try just looking in the shower when she us naked but is that legal to do that
Having sex or sexual interactions with family members is ILLEGAL. It is considered incest and it is wrong.
A link more about that:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incest
It's serious and plus that is just gross.
Is it slutty to send pictures of you in your underwear and bra to guys? I'm not fully naked so it has to be classy, right? What do guys think of girls who send them pictures? And is it cheating if the guy is in a relationship but I'm sending him pictures still?
I agree with Razhie
Now, Are you aware that if you are under the age of 18 and sending any pictures nude or semi nude is considered PORNOGRAPHY? Yes, They actually just recently passed a law about that.
Anyone who is in possession of nude/semi nude photos of a minor can be charged and forced to register as a sex offender even despite "deleting evidence" A cell phone works in similar ways as a computer it stores data including hidden files. Also, Why would you disrespect yourself enough to send inappropriate photos of yourself to someone? Even if someone promises not to show anyone, It is IN HIS PHONE! All someone has to do is borrow his cell phone or even if you two have a fight he can or could use it against you. Seriously, Don't do it. 99% of the time you will end up regretting it somewhere down the line. If the guy is pressuring you into doing it then break up with him because nobody needs to date someone that is all about your body. That would then be obvious they want nothing out of you but sex or something of their own satisfaction never mind your feelings. Also, The guy is in a relationship with someone else. That is seeking attention in the wrong way and a desperate way. Learn to respect yourself
My boyfriend is sick with a minor cold. This might sound dumb, but if I have any type of foreplay, oral, or intercourse with him, can I get sick too? I was wondering. Thanks!
Yes it is most certainly possible!
Some sickness is airborne and others are not
If your boyfriend had a cold and you two kissed, shared drinks then yes it's possible. I can just be around someone who is sick and I'll probably get it. Everyone is different
Well i missed my period this month and im only 12 im worried cause i've always been not on time so there is this white stuff and like i have been fingering up there does that mean im pregent???????
You can not get pregnant if you haven't had sexual contact with someone, In order to get pregnant the sperm has to have some sort of contact with the vagina. You cannot get pregnant by self masturbation.
The white stuff is likely discharge which is very common. It means that the vagina is cleaning itself out.
Here is a link for more information about Vaginal discharge:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginal_discharge
There could also be a variety of reasons you haven't got your period yet, As you are 12 years old your body could be going through the puberty stage and sometimes that alone can throw a period off.
Symptoms of delayed periods:
Stress, Depression, Poor dieting, Illness, Excessive exercise and I am sure there are other factors as well. You are likely fine just be patient and it will come.
i am 15 years old and my dad was never in my life he is married and said he hates me but to cope with it i drink alot and cutt myself alot butt also i go with older guys i relized i do this because i want to find love my dad never gave me and it hurts me to know its true my oldest boyfriend was 30 close to my dad age i just want to find a dads love and i hurt so many boys feelings i know how cold i am but i dont care i wanna know what to do before things get bad i drink so much i black out i just want a dad love but this one boy he is my ex i think i love him but i havent told him about this side of me he was my first boyfriend that is my age he say he love me to but goes with me ex-bestfriend what to do ?
You need to get professional help, That is your first step.
I also do not have a father in my life, You are not alone in this situation. However, The way you are handling it is not a very good way.
Stop drinking, If you feel the need then admit yourself into rehab. Drinking is not going to solve your problems. Dating older men is putting yourself at risk of being raped and despite your pain these older men will never be your father.
Sometimes we have to learn to accept situations. My father had said and done many hurtful things to me as well. My father even had the balls to tell me to my face that he never wanted children and to have a nice life. Yes, It hurts like hell but you have to find the strength to overcome it. Dating older men isn't going to replace your dad, It's not going to make your life better and it won't take away the pain. Your first step is a therapist and your second is rehab.....Those are the best ways to take a step towards getting proper help.
Let me explain something
My father left almost 3 years ago and he did not just leave me, He left my older sister and all 4 grandchildren. It took me a long time to get over it and i still do have my days where I just wish things would be normal. Everyday gets better because I tell myself I don't need my father to survive as I made it this far. YOU MADE IT THIS FAR and you CAN make it. Your father does not have power over you and your life, You are your own person and YOU have your own will power.
After not seeing my father for about 2 years I happened to run into him at a local Walmart with his wife. As he was on his way out I was just entering the store and you know what? He never said ONE word to me. In fact as I recall him and his wife walked right by me and left without exchanging eye contact. Sure, It bothered the shit out of me but I know as long as you dwell on something you will never truly move on from it. Don't prolong your pain as he isn't worth it and sweetheart I didn't learn that one over night I learned it over time as so will you.
A week ago, I bought some jeans at Hollister while they were having their 50% off sale. I believe the sale ends tomorrow, but I want to exchange them. All the tags are still on, and I heard that you can return/exchange something any time you wanted, as long as you had the receipt. Since the 50% off sale would end soon, if I exchanged the jeans I bought, would the 50% off still apply, or would the new jeans I pick out be at full price? Or would I have to find new ones at the same price as the ones I wanted to exchange?
You get what you paid for
If you spent 50.00 then they refund you either cash of 50.00 or they give you store credit of 50 bucks. You do not get full price if you paid when it was on sale. Doesn't work that way
I'm 11,am I to young for my first kiss?I really like my bf but i feel i'll be making a bad choice if we kiss.By the way,i'm a girl!
People of course are going to have different answers on this one.
My opinion?
Yes, I think you are too young and I also believe that 11 years old is too young to be dating and having a boyfriend.
if you have anal sex can a girl get pregro
It's possible as sperm can leak, If you are planning on having anal sex I would highly suggest you use a condom to be safe.
I have the opportunity to sleep with a guy, but there are a couple things that Should keep me away from him (he's married and my boss) but at the same time, I'm running out of reasons not to go through with it. What are the pros and cons of doing so?
Don't do it
1, This guy is your BOSS it is unprofessional and in many places against the job policy to have a coworker relationship. You having any sort of relationship with this man besides coworker relationship IS putting your job at sake.
2, This guy is MARRIED, Despite the possibility of him promising not to say anything shit happens and it likely will get out. Do you really want to put yourself in that sort of drama? When his wife finds out and questions him do you want to have fingers pointed at you?....You are allowing him to take advantage of you and why the heck would you disrespect yourself down to a level of booty call? Yes, This is exactly what you would be as again this man is married.
3, As your boss, This man can fire you at any given time. Having an inappropriate relationship is putting you in what will be a very awkward situation and if you were to get fired you would be jobless. In this economy.......I would hope that you would have the common sense to acknowledge that your boss is WRONG for trying to seduce you and not follow through with it.
Do you really want to put your job on the line?.........That is exactly where your heading. Smarten up
My boyfriend and I were in a 6 year relationship before he passed away. A couple weeks after his passing I found out he was cheating on me with another women. I don't know much of what went on between them because he's not here to ask him. I don't know how long they had the relationship but it seemed from the messages I read it was pretty serious. I'm confused and I feel stupid because I thought we were perfect and nothing was wrong. What am I supposed to do? I'm grieving and the same time I hate him. I look at all the pictures of us and all I think of is him being a liar; I'm disgusted and disappointed in him. What do I do? How should I go about this? How should I feel? Female, 24
Being cheated on is never cool and I can understand your anger but you need to move on and learn to let it go. The guy is no longer with us, It won't benefit you to hold anger against the situation. Sometimes it's best to learn to accept and try and move on from it. If he were still around it'd be different and you would have every right to be angry and confront him about the situation. Sometimes there are certain things in life that are just better off not knowing the full story.
my boyfriend is having child from a divorcée women but i cannot live without him then he said i love you jaan
Like I said... Cheating on someone isn't love. If he really loved you he wouldn't of slept with someone else he is liar and an unfaithful jerk.
what i have to do my boyfriend is having a child from his school mate but he said i love you & also he wants this child but i cannot live without him
Dump him!
The guy cheated , Got someone else pregnant.
Liars, cheaters never change and staying with him only tells him that cheating was okay. Leave him, If he loved you he would of never had to second guess your relationship. The guy is now fathering someone else's child.......Seriously don't get mixed up in that sort of drama. You are better than that
Ok, so I been with my fiance for 2 years we.have a family together, he is recently divorced and now wants to start a new life, he never had.friends I didn't know of and.now wants me to except him having girlfriends cause his ex.didn't allow it. so how would you feel r do you.think its okay.for him to start.something new like this. Or guys how would you feel of your girlfriend all of a sudden wanted boyfriends. And your not even.apart of their social life. Example.facebook!
Would you feel shut out?
I'm a bit confused on your question
Girlfriends meaning friends that are girls or a relationship?
Now 2 different answers;
1, If you are referring to him having friends that are girls, Then yes it is perfectly okay as people are allowed to have friends despite their gender. This man is your fiance and if you want things to work out you need to respect and trust one another. If he is being sneaky and not letting others be aware of the fact that he is engaged to you then I would start to become concerned. Maybe sit down with him and let him know that you don't think it's right that he is keeping your relationship a secret from his friends. There should be boundaries when it comes to "Friends" you want others to be aware of your relationship but you don't want to be up his ass constantly and wanting to know every little detail that goes on in his life. If you are worried then talk to him about it, Communication will get you far.
2, If you are referring to a relationship dating wise, Then of course it's not okay. It's never okay to cheat or have affairs despite engagement/relationship/marriage it is most certainly not a moral thing to do and it is wrong.
The man is allowed to have friends, As long as he knows his boundaries then all should be just fine.
a few months ago, I became really close friends with a guy who I was in band with (he's a senior and i'm a freshman). we would text everyday and sit together on bus rides. it always seemed like he was flirting with me but nothing ever really happened until one bus ride where we held hands. i started to trust him more and i ended up telling him a big secret of mine a few weeks later. he helped me through a hard time and he asked me if i liked him...i wasn't sure but i told him yes. later he told me that i shouldn't like him. i kinda covered it up but after that, we started talking less and he started hanging out with my best friend instead of me. what hurt me the most was seeing them hold hands and talk and how he stopped talking to me. looking back on it all, i do miss him but i also realized that he is really full of himself and he's kind of a jerk. despite that, i think about him all the time and it makes me really sad. what are some ways that i can get over him and our used-to-be friendship.
Sounds like you miss having someone to talk too and that doesn't necessarily mean that you miss him. From the sound of it, He was already interested in someone else and didn't want to lead you on. On his behalf, That would be the right thing to do.
A few months ago was quite a while ago and I suggest you try and move on with your life instead of dwelling on something that had already happened. This guy doesn't seem to have a problem moving on and you shouldn't either. Move on and meet someone else
so im not skinny but i'm kinda chubby and i bought a pair of pants today and they didnt fit when i tried to put them on. So im thinking about becoming anorexic to lose weight. i just dont know what to do.
Anorexia and Bulimia can have the somewhat of the same downfalls.
Anorexia can cause decreased heartbeat
Low Blood Sugar
Infertility
The possibility of your organs shutting down
Hair loss, Tooth Decay
Fragile bones, Risk for heart failure
DEATH
Seriously, If you want to loose weight go about it the HEALTHY way by eating portion sizes of fruits, vegetables make sure you get plenty of protein *Fish, Eggs, Chicken,* It can be done as long as you have the right mind set. Bulimia nor Anorexia IS NOT THE ANSWER to your problems.
If you feel you are at risk then please seek professional help, This is not a normal way of thinking!
I started dating this guy for a month and a half, things were going great the first month..
recently i met his friend Jason, who suppousivly had been his friend for six yeas and just stated talking to him again. I only talked to him a few mins bc my boyfriend spent time with me, wanted to spend time with his friend afterwards. Im cool with that just.. I think his friend might be gay.. Im not sure but just by the way he sounds, dresses really nice like.. in a colorful way.. but anyway, He hung out with him that night, the next night on new years, and when I thought I was maybe going to see him today, he said he'll ask his dad. that was at three, its now seven. I dont think Its going to happen.. so spending time with his friend is cool, but hes not texting me much when hes with him at all. And his friend seems gay.. But i might be wrong. They were talking about his friends ex but. maybe hes bi? maybe hes straight. idk, just spending a lot of time with him. and hasent texted me.. Girls what would you think if it was your guy.. or guys am I just being paranoid? Another weird thing is my bf has talked about this kid alot. said his name in a funny way. not if its important, kinda weird though :/
Do you suspect your boyfriend may be cheating?.....Have you sat down and talked to your boyfriend about how you feel that you two aren't spending much time together? Sometimes the way to get dirt on someone without awkwardly coming out is just asking questions and see how they respond. Of course you can't expect your other half to constantly spend 24.7 with you.
I would maybe start to wonder but I certainly wouldn't jump to assumptions that maybe he was possibly testing his sexuality without questioning him first. Whatever you do, Don't assume that he is cheating/gay/bisexual or whatever as you wouldn't want to upset him. Just casually talk about how you feel and watch how he responds. If he is showing obvious signs of not being interested in the topic etc. Then you may have your answer.
I'm 20 yo, and i want to break up with my bf but i dont know how. He isn't really a bad guy, i just dont fink we're suited. The thing is we've broken up and made up thrice within the last four yrs. I want to end it officially nw cos i dont have feelings for him anymore. He keeps talking about sex but am a virgin and am proud of it. I dont want us to be enemies cos we go to d same university.
Be honest with him
There is really no way of telling someone without getting some sort of reaction from them. You both knew when you started dating that there were always a risk of it not lasting.
If you don't know how to tell him you could say "I feel we are drifting apart and I am no longer happy in this relationship and I think it would be best to go our separate ways." You are not entitled to be in a relationship that you are not happy in. If he decides to sweat it then let him make the situation miserable on himself and eventually he'll get over it.