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Slutty or not?
Is it slutty to send pictures of you in your underwear and bra to guys? I'm not fully naked so it has to be classy, right? What do guys think of girls who send them pictures? And is it cheating if the guy is in a relationship but I'm sending him pictures still?
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First of all I don't like labels or words like slut or slutty their is no place for them in this world today and they should not be used. They are degrading.
More importantly IT IS ILLEGAL TO SEND OR RECEIVE NUDE OR PARTIALLY NUDE PHOTO'S OF ANYONE UNDER THE AGE OF 18. IT IS CONSIDERED CHILD PORNOGRAPHY. EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE THE SENDER OF YOUR OWN PICTURE YOU COULD BE CHARGED AS A SEX OFFENDER AND HAVE TO REGISTER AS SUCH FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. THE SAME GOES FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND.
The social networks, like facebook and myspace are working with law enforcement to crack down on this type of pornography being sent over their networks. You can be caught and even if you delete the file from your phone or computer they remain hidden in a manner the police can restore them from.
That is all the evidence they need for conviction and then you are screwed for life.
Worse if anything is worse than that is the fact that once you send the picture you lose all control of it. Someone gets a hold of your boyfriends phone or you two break up and your picture gets distributed all over the Internet to every child molester out there.
Unfortunately there are child molesters living in every neighborhood; including yours. Do you want them to see you half naked.
Am I trying to scare you. You bet I am. Sending pictures or even giving pictures like that to a boyfriend is just plain wrong and dangerous. The Internet is full of pictures like this.
I've given you several good reasons not to do this so just don't do it.
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Although this has already been answered, and I did not read the below answers I thought I would add in my opinion anyways. I do not think that makes you a slut, but you are giving guys what they want in a not so good way. Which could be a negative for you although most girls like the attention of "oh your so hot" "you have such a nice body" blah blah. But, what most people don't know is that is not allowed. And it isn't very smart for yourself. Once you send a picture of yourself like that, weather it's on facebook, email, texting or whatever else you can never get that back and it stays there forever. Most guy's don't think much of it from personal experience but if he's getting pictures of you, think of how many other girls he's getting or has gotten them from. That might change your mind. And yes, that would be cheating.
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Slutty? No. Degrading? Yes. Yes. Yes.
Like the other users said below if you are under the age 18 than you can get in serious trouble. Your parents can go through your cell phone provider and get all your information regarding pictures and text messages. Yes, it cost money. But if your parents get suspicious than they will do it.
Just because you aren't fully naked doesn't make it classy. Nothing about a bra and panty picture is classy. It would be different if you were dating the guy, but I doubt you are. And even then, you shouldn't send them.
If a guy isn't dating a girl and she is sending him degrading pictures like you are than she comes across as 'easy'. It gives you a bad name and reputation. This guy could get mad at you and post it all over the internet. People your age believe in the word 'slutty' and that word will probably be used numerous times.
You need to gain some respect for yourself. Why in the hell would you be sending a guy that HAS a GIRLFRIEND personal pictures like that anyway? Are you that desperate for attention??
I mean, I don't believe that, but that is what it will come off as to other people who may know the boy, or if his girlfriend found out.
Anything a guy doesn't want his girlfriend to know that he does, or says is CHEATING.
Hm, let me ask you this. If you had a boyfriend, and some chick was sending him pictures of her in her panties and bra, would you consider it cheating? What would you think of that girl?
This kind of situation will make HIM, HIS FRIENDS, AND ANYONE ELSE WHO FINDS OUT, not look at you as 'girlfriend' material, but someone easy that they can sleep with. They will use you.
Quit sending pictures now, before you lose the little respect that people do have for you.
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I agree with Razhie
Now, Are you aware that if you are under the age of 18 and sending any pictures nude or semi nude is considered PORNOGRAPHY? Yes, They actually just recently passed a law about that.
Anyone who is in possession of nude/semi nude photos of a minor can be charged and forced to register as a sex offender even despite "deleting evidence" A cell phone works in similar ways as a computer it stores data including hidden files. Also, Why would you disrespect yourself enough to send inappropriate photos of yourself to someone? Even if someone promises not to show anyone, It is IN HIS PHONE! All someone has to do is borrow his cell phone or even if you two have a fight he can or could use it against you. Seriously, Don't do it. 99% of the time you will end up regretting it somewhere down the line. If the guy is pressuring you into doing it then break up with him because nobody needs to date someone that is all about your body. That would then be obvious they want nothing out of you but sex or something of their own satisfaction never mind your feelings. Also, The guy is in a relationship with someone else. That is seeking attention in the wrong way and a desperate way. Learn to respect yourself
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Is it slutty to send pictures of you in your underwear and bra to guys?
I also don't like to label things 'slutty' but it is an unwise and foolish thing to do. Not only might it get the young man into legal trouble, he could share these photos with anyone he likes. Once those photos are out there, they are out there, in the world, forever. You can never take them back, and you can't always control who gets a hold of them.
I'm not fully naked so it has to be classy, right?
No. Being 'classy' means a lot more than just ‘not fully naked’. Being classy is about being of high quality, worthy of respect, exclusive and elegant.
Sending some teenage boy pics of you in your panties that you took by yourself, is definitely not elegant, not worth of respect, and not the actions of someone who believes they are of high quality or that they are an exclusive and superior person. It is definitely not a classy thing to do.
What do guys think of girls who send them pictures?
Some of them feel lucky. Some of them feel disgusted. Some of them will just find it funny.
Every guy might feel differently about. There is no one way that all guys will respond.
And is it cheating if the guy is in a relationship but I'm sending him pictures still?
Even if it’s not cheating, it’s still helping him to betray his girlfriend. ‘Because she doesn’t know what he is up too, and if she did, she’d be legitimately upset. It is still betrayal and still wrong.
It’s also definitely not classy. It crass, immature, rude and vulgar to help someone betray their partner.
It’s particularly unwise to think that a guy who would betray his partner in this way, wouldn’t also betray you someday, by maybe sharing your photos with all his friends and having a good laugh about it.
Stop sending him photos. It’s a bad idea.
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First of all, I don't like the word 'slutty'. It's degrading and pointless. What is and isn't 'slutty' is entirely subjective. I tend to follow the rule: if it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
We have a few issues here.
1. If you are under the age of 18, you risk straying into some hazy territory relating to child pornography. If you do remove that underwear and take a picture of yourself, you are producing an illegal pornographic image. Send it to a guy and you are distributing it.
2. What do I personally think of girls who send guys pictures? Like I said, I don't like to judge but would I do it? Probably not. You need to question why you do it.
Now I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that it's because it makes you feel good, you like that guys are finding you attractive, maybe even getting turned on by your pictures, and that raises your self esteem.
If that IS the case, then let me tell you this right now. Your self worth should not be measured on how attractive guys find your body. What are you getting from this deal in the long term? Sure, guys might be getting off from your pictures, does that really benefit you? You may feel good for a while, but the fact that you're even asking this question tells me that you aren't 100% comfortable with it.
3. Once you send those pictures, you lose control of them. They could go anywhere. They could potentially be around for years. Those guys might swear down that they won't send them on, but are you really willing to take that risk? Those pictures could get you into serious trouble and embarrassment further down the line.
4. Is it cheating? Well, I sure as hell wouldn't be happy if any boyfriend or girlfriend of mine received a picture of someone else in their underwear.
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