I am 17, A senior in high school. I enjoy helping people a lot so if you want to know anything please ask.
Gender: Female
Location: Oregon
Occupation: Unemployed
Age: 17
Member Since: December 4, 2011
Answers: 52
Last Update: May 24, 2015
Visitors: 4590
|
| |
|
i started masturbating a few months ago i'm 13 male it feels really good i have started masturbating a lot more lately sometimes i get sexual urges i'm not ready for sex there's nothing wrong with masturbating a lot is there? (link)
| |
No there's not it is normal to have hormones and be interested in exploring your sexuality be safe and have fun
|
Hi,
I'm usually pretty good at giving advice, but this I can't help myself with. I'm 13 and I just got transferred to a new place. I've been here for two months now. As many people here are teens they love to act all grown up and I'm not comfortable with the kind of things they do and the language they use, so I'm not friends with anyone, I tried to adjust and get used to them but without a friend I just can't manage. I'm kind of shy but I can make friends easily, but no one is like me (a little kiddish and crazy) everyone loves to act all grown up. I'm having a tough time making friends, please give me some advice on how I can adjust or I'll end up a lonely girl who talks to herself (link)
| |
Sometimes in situations like that it may just be better off to be without those people it is good that you're not getting into the bad things or language kids are using nowadays and I applaud you for that. There are some other kids like you there km sure it's just a bit hard to venture out and find them. You should check out if there are clubs or sports you like to find ways to interact with people who have similar interests. Hang in there!
|
Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
Thank you. (link)
| |
I would definitely wait until you are with him in person. You can just tell him your feelings for him and that you feel bad about it and your reasoning for why you did it. If he really cares about and or loves you he will be able to look pass it. If he is a virgin he might have a hard time doing so because in his mind its a special bonding experience he wanted to share with you. I hope all goes well hun, but honestly if he chooses to end things youre just going to have to live with it. Your virginity isnt something you want to "just get it over with" when you find someone you love and care about its a lot more than just sex. Cheating is never an okay thing. Regardless, i wish you luck and im sorry to also add in the things you probably didnt want tl hear. Best of luck!
|
|
I'm 20 and I broke up with my first love a year ago. I loved him with every fibre in my being and did literally everything for him, even if it went against my morals. I spent all the money I had on getting him expensive gifts and I stuck with him, even when he couldn't care less about me. When we broke up because of the fact that he didn't wanna deal with commitment, at this stage in his life, he wasn't upset, not even for a day. It's been over a year and I've been the only one carrying all this pain and I've been holding so much hope that we could get back together, someday. We still see each other and he kisses me and that's what gave me hope that he still likes me. But last night, he told me that he'd never even think of marrying someone like me and that he needs a submissive kind of girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does, like I did.I always picked up on all his lies and everything he hid from me. It hit me all at once, last night that he's been using me this past year and using my vulnerability. I cried in front of him for two hours straight and he kept saying the same things like "You're not my first love so I can't hold that much love for you" and "I told you I didn't want a relationship" "My first made me lose all my emotions" . I don't know why I'm so attached to him or why I'm even this devastated over a jerk like him. I just need someone to talk some sense into me. I worry, that I'll never be good enough for someone. What else can I do for someone to make them appreciate me? I allowed him to cross so many limits of mine and went above and beyond for him, and I get this, in return. How will I expect the next guy in my life to appreciate what I'll do for him and not break my heart again? (link)
| |
He is a piece of shit, he is a child and all he cares about is himself right now. He's going to grow up one day abd regret everything because he will understand what a child he was and what he misses out on. I hope you have the knowledge that you deserve better abd it's nothing you did wrong some people are just shitty. It takes time but you will move on abd you will get what you deserve which is si much more. Keep your head up dear
|
Here's a picture of me: http://i.imgur.com/e2uF7w6.jpg
I have a stupid haircut and i don't look good.
I have no idea what hairstyle would look good for me, but could someone tell me what hairstyle would look best with my face? Every time I've asked this, people have just made fun for how I look; I know I'm ugly, but I just want legitimate advice as to what would look good for me. (link)
|
I think it looks perfectly fine if you ask me, and you're not ugly don't listen to people.
If anything maybe cut the top a little shorter and have them add texture. I'm sure you could pull off any hair style easily
|
Dear Vikki
I'm 24 and from South Africa. I have been in a relationship for almost 7 months now and before that we were only friends. I love him a lot and care about him a lot, but at times I feel that my insecurities gets in the way and it ends up in us having an argument about something small and stupid. See we have a long distance relationship at the moment and it is mostly when he cannot have decent conversation at night because his busy and then I start thinking "maybe he doesn't want to talk to me" , "maybe he doesn't find me interesting anymore and he will leave me for someone else" and I do know that he cares for me a lot and that he loves me and as soon as I think I have these feelings under control, it creeps in again. I don't want to lose him, because I was insecure and clingy. I never was like this in the beginning. I was cheated on before and most of the times it is when I'm away from him, when we are together, I don't have it and because of this it makes things hard for me. I care about people real fast and they can actually hurt me with words. How do I get past this? How can I get past my insecurities and not be clingy when I feel like these emotions are creeping in? I'm not jealous when it comes to being his girlfriends, because I know what type of guy he is. I know he will never cheat on me, but because I don't always see myself as beautiful, I'm sometimes afraid he will leave me for someone more beautiful than me. The guy that cheated on me used to say to me, that I shouldn't think that someone can love me, because there feelings will change. I was so deeply hurt.
Is there any advice you can give me? Guess I'm just looking for someone to talk to that I don't know personally!
Thanks!
(link)
|
I'm not so sure if my advice will be much of any help to you because I can honestly say im the same exact way! I dont really have a method to make myself feel better but I try and tell myself they're just busy, its not that they dont want to talk or you've become less interesting to them. If you know you love and care about eachother there' no need to be insecure and question things because after all, he Is with you. And You must remember it is hard for him also. Maybe bring it up to him because the positive reinforcement could also convince you otherwise. May not be something you want to talk about but conversations like that can often go very well. I dont know if this helped at, but keep in mind that you're beautiful just the way you are. Keep a positive mind and keep your head up.
Best of luck! ♡
|
|
Im a 15 year old girl. I went to my friends party it was our last day of 8th grade. Her friend from Michigan city came by. We started talking and he asked me for my number. We are both 15. We've been talking every day since then. Its only been like two weeks. He asked me if i would do a long distance relationship. I live in Indiana and some of my family doesn't like that he's a different race then me. I dont know what to do can you help me?? (link)
|
I'd first off like to say that weather your family approves based on his race should not matter. It is what you feel, not them. Secondly, two weeks is a little early for you to be making this big decision, long distance relationships are hard, especially at your age, but it all just depends on how you feel about him which you didn't mention. Since school is out you do have a lot of opportunities to meet new boys, and a lot of free time to date someone in your area but if you like this guy and want to give it a shot go for it (:
Good luck!
|
|
i am 18 year old boy . my gf is 17. i love her immensely and i have promised to marry her once i am financially strong.however every time i want to touch her , hold her hand or kiss her...she pushes me back and turns away.she does not even talk about sex!! when i asked she says that she loves me and she wants closeness but she is SHY??...i really love her a lot and it is 4 years now , and i want to make love to her. i can figure it out that she wants it too , i have gone through her diary secretly but she says that she is too shy to let me touch her private parts or kiss her??? however she agreed to make love soon. guys please give clues on how to approach to her once we are in bed so that she feels comfortable and it is easy for her to come out of her shyness. and also can anyone explain to me this psychology of girls??? (link)
|
She could possibly just be insecure about herself, I myself am still uncomfortable (at 19) with guys kissing and touching me because I don't see myself in a positive way. You just need to make her feel more comfortable maybe, I don't understand why she wouldn't be after 4 years but it could just be something she's going through. I just recently became shy a few months ago when I was fine before that. No explanation really. As for having sex with you, that shouldn't be your first concern after 4 years, you should have a huge amount of respect for you and like I said you just need to make her comfortable. You have to respect her and be patient. The better she feels about it the sooner it'll happen but pushing her or bringing it up all the time won't make her feel good. Always remember to think with your brain not your penis and remember to respect girls always. Soon enough it'll happen. Good luck in the meantime.
Also, instead of just trying to go for the gold try subtle things like kissing her neck, or lightly rubbing her thigh. Every person gets turned on especially at that age, so maybe shell like it. Or mess around a little but may still not be ready for sex. Patience.
|
|
So I am a 19 year old female, and my cousin is and 18 year male. We haven't seen each other for like 3 years and we've both grown up quite a lot. My dad and I went to my aunts house for a party, and everyone was drinking. My aunt and my dad and their boyfriend and girlfriend went to a couple of other peoples houses to say hi and have a few drinks. So my cousin and I thought we need to catch up to their level, and we've never drank together before. So him and I started talking about high school and how much we hated it and stuff and talking about jobs and my cousin asked if I had a boyfriend and I told him no and so he asked if I've ever had one and I told him no, I just haven't met anyone yet. I thought that was a little weird because we've never talked about stuff like that but we're both grown up now and haven't seen each other in like 3 years. Anyway so we were doing shots together and talking about drinks we like and drinks we don't like and all that then his mom and my dad and their boyfriend and girlfriend get back and we're all doing shots together and having a good time. My cousin walked over to the next door neighbors to ask if we could have some of their wood for a fire in the fire pit. Shortly after that i went over there to see if I could help and just to see what was going on. So they say no and I tell him we should just walk back to his house and on the way they have this shed in their back yard which is creepy looking but I heard my cousin had put in like a beer pong table and made it fun and I had him show me and it's really dark and we're both a little drunk already so while walking I was making sure he didn't fall by like grabbing his shoulders or hand or something. We decide to go back over to his house and my dads girlfriend wants cigarettes and my cousin said he had some and he could barely walk so I went with him. We get to the door and he says "thank you for helping me" randomly. We go inside and he heads for his moms room and i ask him what he's doing and he says something about how his mom and her boyfriend aren't there, which was random. So we go to his room to get his car keys and he opens a drawer and he's got two big boxes of condoms in it and I turned away because I was like I probably shouldn't be seeing this. He falls on his bed so I help him up and we head out to his car and on the way he tells me i need to hold him better so i do and we get to his car and he grabs the cigarettes and sits sideways in the driver seat and i try to give him a hand getting out but he says no so he puts his head between his legs and starts throwing up. I asked if he was okay to walk inside the house and he said no and i wasn't doing so well myself so i was rubbing his back and his head for a while until my dad and his girlfriend came looking or us and I got them to help get him inside to the bathroom. They get him in there and him and I both end up sitting on the floor and he's throwing up and spitting and i'm trying to help him as much as i can so i get a glass of water in case he needed it and i get something cold to put on his neck and forehead to help him feel better and i rub his back and make sure he's throwing up in the toilet. Meanwhile he kept holding my hand and leaning on my shoulder and grabbing me for something to hold onto and all this so after a long time we get him into bed with a bucket and anything we thought he might need and then the next day everyone else wakes up with a bit of a hangover but not as bad as my cousins and mine seemed to keep getting worse. I wanted to go check on him but for some reason I thought that might be weird and I didn't want to bug him or anything so I didn't. Well a friend of mine says this sounds like my cousin was coming onto me or something and that it's weird we were holding hands and stuff. I think he's just my cousin and he was drunk and I was helping him out. What do you think? (link)
| |
Theres nothing weird about that at all. When people get drunk together weather they're family or not they need help if they get that wasted which you were just helping him out. Especially if he was that drunk he started puking he was not thinking straight (not that there was anything he did wrong) I think you're just over thinking the situation and your friends is putting thoughts into your head. It would've been over board if he kissed you or grabbed your butt or something but he didnt so you have nothing to worry about.
|
Hi! I am going to a school trip overnight next week, I can't wait to go!
I wonder and wanted to know of what should I bring?
The bus is going to be very cold.
I might get on water rides or just rides.
So any clothes of what should I bring? and etc.
Should I bring snacks like chips, candy and etc..?
It's going from 5:30am to 12:00am Any suggestions? Thanks. (: (Please answer) (link)
|
I dont know your location, but I went to Universal Studios for the first time in March, the only thing I took with me was money and my camera so I didn't have to lug stuff around with me. There are big hills at the one I went to and I don't always trust people to watch my stuff on rides. I did see a lot of people carrying backpacks though (I didn't know that was allowed) so at most I'd wear a sweater and bring food because theirs is expensive. Water too. Then you can take off your sweater too. I wore shorts and a tshirt but it was cold in the morning and heated up around 11 so that should be judged by where you are and how you feel. And also, the one I went to I was expecting it to be like a six flags idea, when there were only 4 or 5 rides. But that was in Californial.
Hope you have fun & good luck! (:
|
|
Hey :) i really like my best friend, and we have known each other for about 3 years now, but i am too scared to risk losing this friendship. I dont know whether i should go for it or try and get over him. I tried getting over him many times, but seeing him in school everyday make it that much harder! help! (link)
|
I say go for it! Most likely even if he doesn't feel the same he'll still be your friend. And if he does feel the same (most likely after 3 years) then good things come out of it.
I never told my best friend of 4 years I was in love with him until it was too late and he had a girlfriend. Now we don't speak to eachother. Definitely heart breaking. And I wish I would've taken that chance to tell him.
Good luck (:
|
Two questions in one if you could tell from the title. Since there's similar I thought it would be better putting them together.
First question, I have a 2nd gen iPod nano. I'd like to get a wire that attaches my iPod to my car so I can choose songs on my iPod and listen to them. What cord would be best for this? Any to stay clear of?
I'd also like to buy some blank CDs to burn some songs from my iTunes on it and give to my dad to listen to in his car. Years ago we had some blank CDs I used but they were terrible. They barely worked in my moms GMC. The brand was Maxell CD-R cds. So those are out. What are the best blank CDs to use? (link)
|
I only have an iPod touch so I'm not sure what kind of plug an iPod nano has, but you can get a cord that looks like a headphone jack (on both ends) to plug into your stereo in your car that'll work, but your stereo has to have that capability. Otherwise if it has a tape player, there are tapes that gave a cord attached for the same purpose, made for cars with stock stereos. Andd if neither of those work there's an iTrip, it's more on the expensive side and plugs into your charge hole on your iPod and connects to your stereo through the radio. Any of these can be found in electronics in a department store. Like walmart, Fred Meyer, target, etc.
CDs you can find really cheap at a big lots, not sure if you have one of those where you live but otherwise walmart is good and cheap also. Get CD-R and I'm not positive about what brand is best, but I've never had trouble with any before.
Good luck (:
|
|
i feel so dumb for asking this... but why is there flavoured condoms... (link)
| |
For oral sex.
|
|
So, i'm going to try and get fit for the summer. I don't really want to lose a lot of weight but i need some exercises/ workouts to help me without having to go to the gym and withought having to use weights. My main focus is my stomach area and love handle area. Also, does anyone know some healthy snacks i can eat throughout the day? Any advice would be appriciated. (link)
|
Running is a really good exercise for your whole body, including your stomach. You could also look on youtube at "insane abs work out" (that way you don't have to buy a dvd) There are usually alternatives to the exercises, if they are too hard for you and those are really good for your stomach and whole abdomen area. Good healthy snacks would be like fruit and vegetables, if you like them. They are good for you, and pretty filling also so a little can go a long way. I hope that helped (:
Good luck!
|
|
I Hate My Body, And I Think I'm Fat. I've Been Starving Myself, But Then I Break Through And Eat. Please Tell Me How I Can FULLY Starve Myself For A Long Time. (Slso, I Don't Know If I'm Anorexic) (link)
|
If you want to loose weight eat healthy and exercise. Starving yourself is NOT the way to loose weight because you have to go back to eating someday and at that point you will gain a lot of weight, because your body will go into starvation mode and store all the fat from when you start eating again.
The smart, and more effective way is to just exercise even as little as 30 minutes a day will work. and eat healthy, cut down on soda, and chips, fast food, etc. because all that stuff is a big cause in weight gain.
I can assure you though, that no matter your size you are probably beautiful just the way you are. don't be comparing yourself to others and causing yourself to try and look "skinny" like all these other people that you're seeing online and on tv, and in magazines, because thats not what beautiful is. everyone is beautiful. remember that
|
|
Hi, I am one of those people that is super shy until you get to know me. Then thats when you start calling me weird and crazy. But I am reallllllly tierd of being shy! So I would love for someone to give me a list of a few different things to do in school this next month to help me. There is also this guy I wanna meet but he is super popular! And I totally messed up when he talked to me once! It was horrible!!!! If I make this list myself, itll be too easy. thanks! :D (link)
|
Just try and step out of your comfort zone,
talk to people you don't usually talk to, make conversations with people you sit by, or see often during the day, make it a goal to smile more, and laugh as often as you can, once people see you as a more friendly, fun, happy person they will talk to you more and that will help a lot with your shy situation.
I used to be that way too (:
Hope i helped, good luck. (:
|
People At My School Keep Calling Me Anorexic. Here Is Why I Think:
-I Have A Fear Of Gaining Weight
-I Count My Calories
-I Do Think I'm Fat
-I Starve Myself
-Food Kinda Grosses Me Out
If I'm Not Anorexic, What Do I Have? (link)
|
You didn't include your gender, age, or height so i can't determine exactly how to answer this question. But i can tell you one thing. You are probably pretty close to having anorexia disorder. I can almost guarantee to you that what you're doing is not necessary. If food grosses you out, and that is why you are choosing to starve yourself then i recommend you find foods that you like, and eat those. There are PLENTY of foods to choose from, and that is a very important thing. If you think you're fat, and that is why you are afraid of gaining weight and you count your calories, then that may be necessary, but not to a huge extent. Most people now a days (especially girls, because i'm assume you're female) think that they are fat when they're not. because that is how things are being perceived lately and people are comparing themselves to others, and to what they see in magazines, on tv etc. But i am sure you are beautiful just the way you are and doing this to yourself is not at all necessary. If you are overweight, or unsatisfied with your weight then you should loose weight by exercising and watching what you eat. Eating healthy is a big factor of doing so, and exercise plays a big role too, but that means you can't be starving yourself you do have to eat in order to be healthy because food is a NEED.
I really hope i may have helped somewhat, If you have any other questions, or anything feel free to message me because i'd love to help. Maybe think about talking to your doctor about this also.
good luck
|
help me!!!!!!!!!!
i had sex with my boyfriend last night
he couldnt get his penis in my vagina
HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!
(19) female (link)
|
A lot of lubrication will help the process.
Be safe. (:
|
|
Im 16 and planning on getting my belly button pierced. I was wondering how long it would take to heal, how much it would cost, how old i have to be? Also how much does it hurt? I have a medium pain tolerance, ive dislocated my knee before but i dont think it the best with pain. So anything and everything you could tell me would be great thanks! :) (link)
|
I also got my bellybutton pierced when i was 16, you just need a parents consent. It was $35 I believe, and it hurt pretty bad..but its tolerable and well worth it (: It is sore for the first few days, and you have to be really careful not to catch it on anything like in the shower using a lufa, on your blankets, on counters, seat belts etc. As long as you clean it with warm sea-salt water every night it won't get infected or anything. Mine was pretty well off and in a well-healed state after about 3 months (of course it takes longer to COMPLETELY heal though) And I swam with it a few weeks after getting it, which you aren't suppose to do but it didn't cause problems.
I say don't be worried about it, and go get it done! It's worth it (:
Hope i helped, and good luck
|
My little sister read this thing. It said this:
"Justin Beiber is 17. Reblog this because in 10 days you won't be able to."
Is it going to be his birthday or something? Or is it a death threat? She is really scared HELP (link)
| |
Yes, his birthday is March first.
|
|