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I like my best friend should i risk it?
Hey :) i really like my best friend, and we have known each other for about 3 years now, but i am too scared to risk losing this friendship. I dont know whether i should go for it or try and get over him. I tried getting over him many times, but seeing him in school everyday make it that much harder! help!
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If he's your best friend; you should be honest with him about your feelings. If he cares about you he will be fine with it.
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Ever heard the term "Half life" before?
It's a physics term. Radioactive substances slowly loose their radioactivity over time. Some things have a half life of thousands of years, while others might have seconds or minutes or hours.
The half life of your friendship is limited. You like him to the point you've tried to get over him before. Eventually the attraction will die and you'll probably find someone better to be a best friend (someone you genuinely aren't interested in).
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I think you already know the outcome of your idea of trying to get over him and yet continue to be such close friends.
Those things you like about him, his facial expressions, his smile, his humor, the stories he tells, etc...that will all be there like flashing neon signs you can't ignore. So you know there is no continueing this friendship with him and trying to squash those stronger romantic feelings. If the draw is that strong...theres probably a good explanation.
Theres a saying that some people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. You won't know what you will learn or how you will be blessed if you focus all your energy on avoiding this strong feeling of being drawn to him. Just ask him. If too chicken in person, then ask him on Facebook or in a notecard but I suggest the face to face. As your good friend of 3 years, even if he didn't feel romantically drawn to you, he likely will feel very complimented that you asked. After that much time passing, if other girls havent drawn his interest yet, I'd say theres a good chance the feelings might be mutual.
I say Go For It!
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I say go for it! Most likely even if he doesn't feel the same he'll still be your friend. And if he does feel the same (most likely after 3 years) then good things come out of it.
I never told my best friend of 4 years I was in love with him until it was too late and he had a girlfriend. Now we don't speak to eachother. Definitely heart breaking. And I wish I would've taken that chance to tell him.
Good luck (:
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I don't know how old you are, if you are in middle school or high school.
Either way it's tough to make these kinds of decisions when you're still in school because it makes everything so much harder.
These are the things that can come out of this.
-You either stay friends with him and maybe you'll move on and keep the friendship the way it is.
-Maybe you won't make a move and he'll end up with someone else.
-You date him but it ends terribly and you lose the friendship.
-You date him, it ends on good terms and you stay friends but it never really goes back to how it used to be.
So you can either try it out and risk the friendship or just keep it as friends. You could also see this as a learning experience.
A lot of girls I knew waited till they got out of high school to date because it was mostly drama and most high school relationships don't last. But nowadays there are kids that are so young that want to be in a serious relationship because they are pressured by society and think being with a guy is a going to make them feel more loved.
So you can take your outcomes into consideration and if you're willing to try it, then go for it. If you think you can handle it then it might be a good relationship.
If you would rather keep the friendship the way it is, then that's what you do.
Good luck!
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