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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I just wanted to know if this is 'addiction'-
Sometimes (about twice a day now) I sneak into our medicine cabinet to get some ibuprofen pills (3-5, but the most I've ever had is 26 at one time). I don't really know why, but I tend to grab more pills after a stressful day than a good one, and they just make me feel.. better, in a way (I have no physical pain or need for them, though). Sometimes I ask my mom for Nyquil and pretend to be sick (because I'm afraid she would know if I just took it, but I've only done this twice in this past year) and get some just because I feel better and peaceful afterwords.
Is this addiction? If so,what is the deadly dose of both of these medications? (I swear I'm only asking that because I don't want to accidentally kill myself)
Is this addiction?
other info-
I've had depression/ social paranioa (I think every one secretly hates me) for a few years.
There doesn't need to be a label, The fact that you sneak into a medicine cabinet is enough to say it's a problem.
It is not normal for someone to take a large amount of pills, It's not normal for a person to want NyQuil because they want to ease painful feelings.
I would suggest letting someone know you have a problem. Nobody here can tell you how much of a dose can kill, Anything can kill if it's taken the wrong way, mixed etc.
An overdose can lead to brain damage, Foaming of the mouth, Increase heart rate, Low blood pressure and death I seriously think you need to let someone know ASAP.
I feel like I'm growing up and I'm going through a transition in which my values are changing. I'm starting to feel extremely distant from my friends who I once loved dearly, especially my best friend who is in the process of taking on a new boyfriend. These friends who 4 months ago made my entire life a joy now make me extremely angry and frustrated to the point in which I can't be around them because it gives me too much anxiety ESPECIALLY when alcohol is involved. I spend a lot of time alone but when the couple things I rely on besides people fail me, like music, my world falls apart. I also had a recent death in my family of someone I was very close with. Being away at college has been something I could rely on to escape the anxiety I feel about this family situation but right now I feel like there is nothing to make me feel better. I'm drifting away from my friends and I feel like a failure at life. Right this second I feel like I have nothing. It's not just my close friends that give me anxiety but people in general. When I get upset it surfaces as anger, frustration, and anxiety, probably making me an unpleasant person to be around. What should I do about all of this?
This is a nasty combination of a loss, college and just simply growing up and moving on.
Sometimes in life, Friends die out and sometimes they die out suddenly. You may have been falling out with these friends and have not realized it. Unfortunately, Apart of growing up is moving on with your life. Sometimes people are not meant to be in our lives forever, Some are meant to stay a little while. You are not an unpleasant person, You are juggling some personal things in life at this time. Sometimes life throws curb balls at us, Sometimes these curb balls cause us to move on, forget things and make new paths in life.
Take time to yourself to figure things out. If you still feel you want to talk to these friends then go for it. If not, Then it may be time to make new friends and start over. Sometimes that is what we need, We need a fresh start.
My dog is displaying conflicting behaviors. She growls sometimes when I feed her, but she has gone a long way to getting use to me handling her food. I fed her piece by piece so she's 90% use to me touching her food bowl now. She will growl at my girlfriend when she tries to touch her food bowl and I told her to do the same thing as I. Once we take the food bowl away she completely submits though, like she knows she did wrong, but couldn't help it. She will come to us with her lowered head and lower body and tail down and will put her head in between our legs. Today my girlfriend told her to sit and jump up before giving her a piece of treat ,which she ate and walked away, but when my girlfriend pet her she growled and barked. My girlfriend called her over and our dog laid down and displayed a submissive body language. What is going on? I am trying to figure out if she aggressive/fear aggressive/ or just has a strong attitude. She is a golden retriever shiba inu mix and I know that shiba inus are strong in attitude, so I don't know if that is just the shiba inu in her or what. She doesn't do that with me, maybe it is because I spend more time with her? I feed her the all the time as well as take her out to reliever herself. My girlfriend plays with her more though.
Sincerely,
Confused pet owner
You didn't state how long you have been with your girlfriend or whether she lives with you or not.
Your dog is showing signs of aggressive behavior because YOU are her owner. Most dogs don't like people they aren't fully comfortable with handling their food.
I am sure the more time your girlfriend spends with the dog, The dog will begin to bond with her. Your dog may feel she is a threat or perhaps she is a new person that just recently came into the picture.
I have a Yorkie/Chihuahua mix and a Shih Tzu pure bred. Anyone who is not familiar that comes into the household will be barked at. Dogs are territorial and are dominate. She may be acting out because she is not used to your girlfriend being around. I would suggest not letting your girlfriend handle her food just yet but take it slow and try to spend time with the dog little by little and slowly she should adjust.
there's this girl who is my boyfriends best friend..whenever he chats with her he'll be online but he'll reply me a bit late(not always)..they were very good friends and mostly everyone thought that they liked each other.. i cant tolerate that girl..i have told him that i don't like her..but still they talk and my boyfriend is bit childish..i cant tolerate that girl..she doesn't like him but i don't like their closeness..it makes me insecure. he says that i'm the most important person to him but i don't feel so..what should i do..
Sometimes it's best to sit him down and express how you feel rather then flat out saying you do not like her. Explain to him that you feel he gives you undivided attention and you feel neglected. Don't assume, Don't make assumptions just talk to him about it. Let him know you don't mind him having friends but if he could maybe take it easy on the amount of time he talks to this friend.
If he is constantly talking to her and showing interest rather then you, Then there may be a slight problem. This guy may be developing interest in the other girl or vice versa. As long as he isn't breaking any rules, Then you can't accuse him of doing any wrong.
Okay, so.. I met this guy, Robert, from my old job. He was very nice and we talked sometimes when I needed to go to his department for something. We never exchanged numbers or talked about hanging out, it was more just coworkers being friendly. About six months into the job I realized it wasn't for me and I quit. I didn't say anything to anyone other than my boss so I kinda just disappeared. Well, I after starting my new job I began to run into Robert while on my way to work, leaving work, etc. We would talk for a little while and then part ways. One night while I was heading home I ran into him and we started talking about our day as usual but this time when I said goodnight and began walking away he stopped me and said we should grab drinks sometimes. I was surprised but agreed and we exchanged numbers and he said he would text me later. About an hour after I got home he texted me and we talked a little more and then I went to bed. Two days later he texted me, "Good morning!" randomly, which I thought was nice. After that, we started talking more and more and eventually made real plans to hang out. He was more excited than me about getting together (he even told skip some plans I had to hang out with him). When we finally hung out, it was so much fun! We spent most of the night laughing and just talking about life. The next morning he texted me asking when I'd be available again. I was working a lot so I told him I'd keep him updated. He seemed fine with that and we kept in touch. But he had some serious family issues that started going through so I have him my prayers and gave him space. After a month or so of not speaking I sent him a text and he never replied. I don't get all messed up about things like that but I know that things are okay with him now (we have a mutual friend from my old job that told me) and I'm just wondering why he went from being the one to push the friendship progressing to not communicating at all? I actually really like him; he's sweet, really funny, smart, very attractive and single. And he seemed to show a ton of interest but it just suddenly died. I don't know if he just wasn't really into me, thinks I'm not really into him, he's super busy, etc. It's been almost three months since we lasted talked and I would like to try again but I don't know where to start. And I fear if I text him that he won't respond again. What should I do?
I would just wait for him to text you, You have reached out to him not wait and see what happens.
If you don't hear from him within a week, You could try again. If he still doesn't reply then leave it open to him to whether to contact you or not but don't sit around waiting. We cannot put our lives on hold either so just continue doing what you've been doing and if he contacts you, Great! If not, Then just figure he lost interest and move on. It could be possible that you may of read into it more then it was, He could of also liked you as a friend. Text him again, Wait and see if he replies or not but don't keep bothering with it.
I lied to a guy telling him I was 18 but I'm 17. I didn't think it would get to real, but now it has! Should I tell him my real age and risk the relationship, or just let it be I'll be turning 18 in May 2014.
Tell him the truth
Lying doesn't solve anything, Leading on a lie can only do more harm then good. One small lie can turn into a big one and the more time you pass holding a lie, The less believable you become.
Although something that may be seem to lead nowhere, It has or is becoming more of what though it would be. You need and should clear the air, Never lie about who you are and how old you are to someone. It benefits nothing, A chance that may of once be, Maybe no longer be a chance because of something that shouldn't have happened.
Be well
Me and my boyfriend were messing around and he did have a condom on. He tried putting in the tip but It didn't work out well so he quit and I gave him a hand job until he came in the condom. He threw away the condom and washed his hands. Then we started fooling around again a bit later and he put a condom on again, we did have sex but only for a little bit because it began to hurt me. He didn't even pre-cum either. After this, I gave him a hand job again to finish up once more while he had the condom on. & after he threw away the condom, washed his hands and than awhile later began to play with my vagina, until I made him stop. What are the chances of me being pregnant?
None
Hi. I am 26 and I have a 26 year old Muslim boyfriend. When I first met my boyfriend, he wasn't a muslim yet. Last year he decided to become a Muslim, and he became really devoted to his religion. I'm a Christian. At first he told me he wouldn't push me to convert as a muslim. But these past few months, we are always arguing about our faith. He doesn't respect my faith and being so discriminating towards other religion. I told him I respect his faith but I don't want to talk about it anymore cause I don't want to argue. But he wouldn't stop. And tonight he told me that he will give me time to think about converting. I told him not to expect cause I'm really not going to change my religion. He said it will not work abd broke up with me.
I tried to understand this guy so much but I feel disrespected. Please help. I don't want our daughter to grow up without a father. Am I still going to accept him when he comes back to me? I'm sick of tired of arguing about our faith. I accepted him the day he told me he wants to be a Muslim but why can't he respect my faith? I was born as a Christian and I want to stay as a Christian forever. He told me too that he's not going to marry me if it's not in an Islamic way. Don't know what to do. :'(
Thank you for all your answers
This sounds almost exactly how my last relationship was.
My ex was Jewish and I am Catholic. Sweetheart, Unfortunately in many cases when one says that they won't drag you into their religion, When they become heavily involved eventually somewhere down the line it does become a problem.
You should NEVER change who you are for someone else. You are you, You are your own person. Not burn your rope here my friend but if he is this devoted to Muslim where he is beginning to threaten your relationship, It won't work out. Sometimes people tend to over think and over act on certain things. When one converts into a new religion they must want too for them, It must be in their hearts. If you did decide to convert at this time, You will not be happy. In the long run you will be beating yourself up over the fact that you sacrificed yourself for someone else and not for yourself. Unfortunately your relationship may have hit the end of it's road. Don't ever let a man manipulate his way into making you change, You are not his object and he does not own you. Find someone else who will love you as the person you are and will not let something like this ruin it. Please think about what I said, I am just looking out for you.
My boyfriend and I were fooling around, and it just so happened he pre-came on my stomach. I was not naked, I just did not have a shirt or shorts on, but I did have underwear on. As soon as he pre-came, I wiped it off completely. It also so happens he came, but I made him cum in his hand but he got a smudge on my stomach. With all this information, I must include that I was on my period at the time, and I still am. What are the chances of me getting pregnant from the precum? Is it even possible since I had underwear on and a pad that were pretty tight?
You are not pregnant, Sperm cannot travel through clothing.
Lately,my mother has been flirting with me!!! She is 42,and im 21. We have always been very close,but now I see her in a new way!! As soon as my.stepdad leaves for work,she changes clothes!!! She will wear tiny shorts,low cut tops etc. and acts normal!! My cock betrays me and gets huge everytime!!! She sees how hard I am and just smiles !!! My mom looks alot.like Sharon Osbourn,and has big full british tits!!! She loves showing them off,almost completly!!!! What should I do??
Having sex with a family relative is completely wrong. Almost anywhere this would be considered incest which is a crime. If your mother is acting inappropriate towards you then you should inform an adult. What your mother is doing is wrong in so many ways. You are her SON, This is not right.
I'm a bisexual female and my best friend (Who is also female) is straight. I met her about a year ago, but we didn't become close until about a month ago. Well I think I'm starting to like her. She knows I'm bi.
Today she told me she would turn bi for me and that actually gave me a little bit of a hope. Anyways, what should I do? I don't really want to ruin our friendship but I like her.
A person can't pretend or force change upon themselves. Meaning your friend cannot just "turn" bisexual, It is either she is or she isn't.
Clearly, Your friend is not bisexual. It's basically like someone saying "I am a male but I will turn female for you" it just doesn't work that way.
If you don't want to ruin your friendship with her then remain friends. Even if she "tried" to become bisexual it is a loose loose situation.
I agree with Dragon, Your friend can be with you, She can be sexually active but her heart will not be into it.
I find this a very interesting topic, because most people willing to thrust their opinion down my through has never even tried it.
I'm a very level guy, totally willing and able to understand most of what people to to each other, but once in a while, and it take persistence and perseverance, someone gets just a little bit too close too... doing what ever they want and when ever they want it.
I do not intent to ruin their lives, but I intend to show them who precisely they are dealing with.
Why is everybody telling me NO.
They say it always backfires, it's wrong, the wheel is round...
The people saying that never seems like the type to stand up for themselves or try to get back, or even stand up for themselves.
When have you taken revenge, when has it not felt good, and when has it back fired?
Ahh, Now this is an interesting question.
There is a saying that two wrongs don't make a right. Sometimes when it comes to certain circumstances we need to be the bigger person and let things go.
I am going to flat out admit something that I don't admit to very many people, I love to seek revenge on people who deserve it and man to I love to see karma slap people twice as hard in the face.
However, Sometimes revenge just takes too much energy and life is too short to sit on a rotted log. Sure, It feels good as hell to watch someone get what they had coming. I am sure not one to have a guilty side but I have learned over the years that certain things I have done too people, I really do have a soft side I never knew existed.
Sometimes the best revenge we can give someone is the silent treatment. While we get the last laugh, They sit wondering with a head full of questions that are left unanswered.
I have always been the one to cause a butt load of drama in my life but after slamming so many people, You begin to realize that there is no point anymore and it all begins to get tiring after awhile.
Where has revenge gotten me? Nowhere. To be honest with you, I am very tired of revenge and drama. Once you cause it, Depending on how bad the problem was, It's impossible to get rid of it.
Anyway, There is good way and a wrong way of handling situations. Sometimes walking away and laughing it off IS what really pisses someone off. Fighting and seeking revenge, Just not worth the time and energy.
Near the end of 7th grade im getting braces and im happy but scared!I have a few questions,
1:What colors would be best?
2:Do you know any tips to stop the sore in your teeth
3:What kinds of food can you eat?
4:How long until i can take them off?
and 5:What if your ring or bracket falls off?
When you get braces put on your teeth will be sore, It is best to avoid anything cold or hot as your teeth will be sensitive for a few days.
Do not chew anything that may be sticky.
No gum
If your brackets fall off then you just make an appointment with the orthodontist to have them replaced. How long you will have your braces depends on how long it is necessary. This is something that your orthodontist will be able to answer.
Hello so I brok up with my bf because I thought I needed to focus on my education, I stopped liking him and now were friends but no he's dating my close friend and I dont why but I feel this were swollen feeling in my heart is this normal
Sometimes when we break up with someone it is best to cut all contact with that person. Although many people are can successfully hold a friendship, It can also hurt others and prolong them from moving forward in their lives.
My friend, I have learned over the years that sometimes it takes awhile to learn who your true friends are. While others say your friend had the right to date who she wishes as he was single, Others as I will tell you that friends don't take other friends exes. If you are hurting then my advice to you will be that you should stop contact. Sometimes apart of the healing process is to take time to yourself and learn how to become strong again. Leave anything that may delay you from moving forward. Realize that you are better and deserve better in life.
okay im 14 and I have a bf' he is my age. we dated for 4 days them broke up because he had something SERIOUS going on and he didn't want me involved. after it was solved we got back together and it will be 2 weeks in a couple of days. he cares about himself and hunting but he is the sweetest thing ever. I feel like I love him to death but over the phone he is ignoring my messages and calls. I never do that to him. why is he doing this to me??? thanks
He lost interest in the relationship.
Maybe someone has serious things happening in their life, However in my book that isn't a good enough reason to leave someone. The truth is that you are young, Not many 14 year old boys are looking to settle down at your age.
A relationship takes work on both parties, It takes trust and communication. If he is ignoring you and not returning your calls, Then you need to forget about him and move on. Stop wasting your time wondering why, Sometimes apart of a break up is never knowing why. We can't always get the answers we seek. You know he is being a coward because he can't grow balls to tell you directly. You move on and find someone else.
i'm a teenage girl. I've been in quiet a few relationships, they always end bad. guys always want me for sex when all the guys in my school knows I'm not sexually active. they always try or try to force me. it always ends like "u won't do anything with me so were done" or "do this or I'm done with u" or "if u do this with me i'll be with u forever". I have a booty and I have boobs they aren't big but they are noticeable. why do guys want that? i'm not going to give it to them so why do they try
You're a teenager, Hormones are sky high in teenage boys.
Unfortunately, Anyone who dumps someone because they do not wish to be sexually active is a complete asshole. Relationships are not about sex, Love is not about sex and being with someone again, is not about sex. Being in a relationship with someone is about commitment and loyalty. If a guy is constantly talking about sex and pressuring you, They do not want YOU they want you for sex.
Now to be straight, You are dating the wrong people. Not to be a downer but it isn't all that easy to find someone who is wanting an actually relationship or just a fuck buddy at your age.
Maybe you should try and remain friends with someone for awhile before you date them. Make sure they are into you and like you as a person. If someone is dumping you because you don't want to give them sex, Then fuck them. They were never right for you to begin with.
Can i get pregant if I masterbate (fingering) with vaseline and there was possibly sperm in the vaseline. Im only 15 and DONT know what to do! please help!
And Ive missed my period!! Im scared,please help.
Masturbation is the safest way to pleasure yourself without getting pregnant.
There is NO sperm in Vaseline. Sperm comes from ejaculation of a male. Also, I do not recommend using Vaseline because it is very possible you could cause yourself to have a bacterial infection or even a UTI (Urinary tract infection) It is possible that you could end up causing yourself to clog, Meaning that Vaseline is so thick to the point where it could end up causing burning sensation and again, A massive infection.
If I eat healthy, drink water and work out an hour everyday can I lose 80 pounds by June/July?
Yes it is possible, The healthy way.
I have lost 140 lbs in the course of 1 year and 6 months.
Good luck
So I'm a junior and I've been talking to this freshman for quite sometime now. I decided to ask him to my prom like a week ago through a letter and he replies through a letter saying no but maybe as friends and then later on says that he's not the prom going type of guy. I told him that I wanted to go as friends so I know I should've put that into the letter. but anyways, we haven't talked since he declined my prom proposal. I still like this guy a lot but he's been hanging out with another junior girl a lot. Should I wait and see where things go or should I move on?? If I don't move on, should I ask him to prom later on in the year again and see if he changes his mind?? I don't know what to do.
Unfortunately, He has declined the offer to go to prom with you. If he wanted to go as friends, I would assume he would of offered to go as your friend.
It sounds like he is not interested in going to the prom nor does he want to give you the wrong impression of getting your hopes up. You noticed he has been spending a significant amount of time with another girl, Therefore he already has his eyes set and possibly has plans on asking her to go with him. You should move on or ask someone else.
Me and my boyfriend broke up earlier about a month ago andlast week he agreed to see me and gave me the chance to win him back? And so we ended up showing our feelings for each other and he told me he loves me and missed me. And when i asked why cant we get back together right now he said that it doesnt work like that. And we ended up being intimate like how we have been so up to third base with each other. And i guess im just kinda confused as in why we cant be together right off the bat after we broke up eveen though we clearly have feelings for each other. So what does this mean?
I agree with Dragon, I also saw the problem here
He doesn't want to "win" you back, He wants you to believe there is hope in winning him back while he can use you in the process.
A guy that isn't an ignorant asshole isn't going to to tell a woman to try and "win" him back. Sounds like he has some serious growing up to do. You are missing the point here, He doesn't have feelings for you, He is messing with you.