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what's going on?!?!?!
okay im 14 and I have a bf' he is my age. we dated for 4 days them broke up because he had something SERIOUS going on and he didn't want me involved. after it was solved we got back together and it will be 2 weeks in a couple of days. he cares about himself and hunting but he is the sweetest thing ever. I feel like I love him to death but over the phone he is ignoring my messages and calls. I never do that to him. why is he doing this to me??? thanks
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Who knows why he's not answering your messages or calls. The most logical answer would be that he's not interested that much in the relationship.
You need to talk to him and set things straight. Tell him that this is bothering you and you'd like to know why he doesn't message or call you.
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You're at the age when people only begin to learn about relationships. since there's no class to take or school to attend where Relationships 101 is offered, basically for most of humanity it is learn by experience, also known for some older people as the school of hard knocks... so there will be lots of mistakes, assumptions made, bad choices, hurt feelings, broken hearts that come with this way of learning.
The best way to find out the answer to your question is to learn how to ask questions, do so politely without being a pest about it.
This is a time of your life when you are only beginning to learn that girls and guys have differently ways of acting, different ways of understanding and thinking and communicating.
What he is doing may be normal to him but you see it as something being wrong. Not all guys are keen on using phones to text or call when it comes to girls and prefer to talk to them face to face. It might be that they dont realize why but subconsciously they're more comfortable that way cus they are relying on body language from the girl to help them understand her better or the tone of her voice, rather than just rely on texted words. I know texting is popular today but with little experience in relationships yet, it might make sense to do more of your communicating with him in person and always set and agree upon the next time you meet to spend time in person together other than school. He may also have ADD so his attention is distracted by too many other things if you are not right there with him.
So ask him if he likes texting and likes to use the phone a lot. If he doesn't, ask if there's a better way for you to stay in contact with him.
At his age he isn't likely taking a relationship with a girl as seriously yet as girls want. Right now he is trying to just plain old figure a girl out. You have the same thing to learn, how to figure out guys. there are many basics aside from personality differences, that are going to be the same in a guy. If you tell him you want to learn how to understand guys better so could he please explain...... and make it a question in general not what happens to you. Example: when a guy doesn't answer any text calls from a girl ever, what does it mean? He gives his answer and then you can ask, "Do you feel the same way or do you feel differently. " It's like being the interviewer and gathering information about a person. Hope this helps. If you get conversation going, you'll likely find out what he's thinking, that he is or isn't still interested and know better how to understand him.
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He lost interest in the relationship.
Maybe someone has serious things happening in their life, However in my book that isn't a good enough reason to leave someone. The truth is that you are young, Not many 14 year old boys are looking to settle down at your age.
A relationship takes work on both parties, It takes trust and communication. If he is ignoring you and not returning your calls, Then you need to forget about him and move on. Stop wasting your time wondering why, Sometimes apart of a break up is never knowing why. We can't always get the answers we seek. You know he is being a coward because he can't grow balls to tell you directly. You move on and find someone else.
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