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I lie to him about my age and he's 23!!!!
I lied to a guy telling him I was 18 but I'm 17. I didn't think it would get to real, but now it has! Should I tell him my real age and risk the relationship, or just let it be I'll be turning 18 in May 2014.
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The lie is not the worst part of the problem. Depending on where you live he could be in real legal trouble for even being with you.
In many states the age of consent has been raised to 18. This means that even though you two may not have had sex or may never have sex. The fact that you are below the age of consent he can be charged with statutory rape, which has nothing to do with whether you had sex or not and all to do with just being in each others company as a relationship.
Worse if you happen to live near the state line and frequently cross from one state to the other. Then the Federal Law called the Mann act comes in to play. Like Statutory Rape the law assumes immoral purpose for crossing state lines, not that it happens.
Those are the law, they don't get enforced unless for some reason a police officer finds need to check identifications when you two are together or someone makes a complaint. Being stopped for a simple traffic violation would not necessarily cause an identity check unless the officer found another violation of the law.
My advice is to tell him of your lie, it is for his own protection. It may cause your relationship to break up but if you have any feelings for him this is the right thing to do until you are actually, legally 18.
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Eventually he'll find out the truth so it's better to tell him now than later.
I mean you said it's getting real so when he learns your birthday and does the math, he'll be upset. It's better he hears it from you now.
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Tell him the truth
Lying doesn't solve anything, Leading on a lie can only do more harm then good. One small lie can turn into a big one and the more time you pass holding a lie, The less believable you become.
Although something that may be seem to lead nowhere, It has or is becoming more of what though it would be. You need and should clear the air, Never lie about who you are and how old you are to someone. It benefits nothing, A chance that may of once be, Maybe no longer be a chance because of something that shouldn't have happened.
Be well
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Telling him would be the considerate thing to do. If the relationship has any longevity, he's bound to find out anyway. It'll be far better that he find out now as opposed to later. It's a bad idea to let things like this fester.
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