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i need help about my emotions
Hello so I brok up with my bf because I thought I needed to focus on my education, I stopped liking him and now were friends but no he's dating my close friend and I dont why but I feel this were swollen feeling in my heart is this normal
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Oh my god... Seriously... You broke up with him it's your fault... Maybe he didn't want you anymore so he dated someone who wanted him... He's not coming back so get over him and stop making people feel sorry for you cus boys are stupid immature horny players who only wanna get inside your panties
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It's normal and it's smart to focus on your education. It's always going to hurt, it sucks. You still need time so don't hang around him, or try not to hang around him as much as possible. Don't talk to him, don't text or message him, ect. Give yourself some more time to heal.
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Sometimes when we break up with someone it is best to cut all contact with that person. Although many people are can successfully hold a friendship, It can also hurt others and prolong them from moving forward in their lives.
My friend, I have learned over the years that sometimes it takes awhile to learn who your true friends are. While others say your friend had the right to date who she wishes as he was single, Others as I will tell you that friends don't take other friends exes. If you are hurting then my advice to you will be that you should stop contact. Sometimes apart of the healing process is to take time to yourself and learn how to become strong again. Leave anything that may delay you from moving forward. Realize that you are better and deserve better in life.
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If you liked him before and had feelings for him, it likely you still have feelings for him because when it comes to matters of the heart, it can't be turned on or off easily as using a light switch. It's very difficult to just 'stop liking or loving' someone because you're determined to do it.
So yeah, it's normal to be feeling something, whether it's hurt, jealousy or feeling left out.
If you are determined to focus first on your education, then use distractions as has been already suggested.
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This is quite common and quite normal. Generally speaking, people have a fear of being replaced, left out. Just because romantic feelings aren't doesn't mean you're safe from the feeling that you're left out.
If this all happened relatively quickly, despite the fact that you broke up with him, there hasn't been much time apart, so there hasn't been enough time to gain a new perspective and closure.
It's normal and it'll take some time to get over, but I'm certain you will. I suggest trying to distract yourself with school, work, hobbies, going out with friends, whatever you feel like doing. If that doesn't work, try to make sure your feelings are known. It might help to talk to your friend about how you feel.
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