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i hate this girl..shes my bf's best friend
there's this girl who is my boyfriends best friend..whenever he chats with her he'll be online but he'll reply me a bit late(not always)..they were very good friends and mostly everyone thought that they liked each other.. i cant tolerate that girl..i have told him that i don't like her..but still they talk and my boyfriend is bit childish..i cant tolerate that girl..she doesn't like him but i don't like their closeness..it makes me insecure. he says that i'm the most important person to him but i don't feel so..what should i do..
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It's natural to be jealous. Everyone is to a certain extent. He is your boyfriend, so you have this idea in your head that he is your possession and that any other girl isn't good enough for him. It's normal that you feel that way. But unless there is a specific reason why you dont like her, (her attitude, she's mean, she's deceiving) than I would say that it's probably just jealousy. I think you need to find a better way to control it, and just remind yourself that he is always with you and not her.
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Respect the fact that she was there before you were. If you can't accept that, just leave. And if you really have actual feelings for him, (Which realistically, you don't, because this question wouldn't exist if you did.) you would just talk to him calmly about it like a normal person. Don't be the jealous girlfriend. It's not attractive at all. He will eventually leave you because of it, so nip it in the bud now before it gets worse.
Good luck.
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So he's technically not doing anything wrong besides the fact that he's not really listening to how you feel about the situation.
So you're just going about it the wrong way.
So lets get some things straightened out. He is going to stay friends with this girl. If you try to get in between them, it'll just make you look like the bad guy. So you're going to accept that he's going to have this friend. If you can't handle it, you should just end things.
You shouldn't go and tell him that you just don't like her. He won't see why and will just think that you're a jealous girlfriend. I mean you are jealous, but you have your reasons. You don't like how close they are and you feel insecure about her.
Even with my boyfriends guy friends that I didn't like, it doesn't get through to them to straight up say that you don't like them.
So you need to tell him that you understand that she's your friend, but there are some things that need to be fixed. The number one thing that you've told us would be that he replies late. As long as he doesn't do that anymore, you should be fine.
I don't know what other issues there are that you have with the two of them being friends. You didn't give any other details. If it's just that you don't like their closeness, you can't change that. But if he's doing something that's actually bothering you besides the jealousy like the replying late then you need to talk to him about that.
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Sometimes it's best to sit him down and express how you feel rather then flat out saying you do not like her. Explain to him that you feel he gives you undivided attention and you feel neglected. Don't assume, Don't make assumptions just talk to him about it. Let him know you don't mind him having friends but if he could maybe take it easy on the amount of time he talks to this friend.
If he is constantly talking to her and showing interest rather then you, Then there may be a slight problem. This guy may be developing interest in the other girl or vice versa. As long as he isn't breaking any rules, Then you can't accuse him of doing any wrong.
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