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I am someone who loves and lives by routine. If I do something I have to plan it and my life isn't particularly exciting. I came away from a movie recently thinking how I want to change this and howni need to embrace life and live in the moment before I see what is so often the case when people get to a certain age and realise they didn't do that.
I don't want to live completely carelessly but what are things I can do to be spontaneous, live life to the max, embrace life etc. I mean, I have a full time job and rent and bills to pay so things like travelling around the world type of thing, though exciting, isn't really an option.
Any help, tips etc appreciated.
Thanks in advance.
P.s. I'm aware of the irony of planning spontaneity! (link)
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I have the perfect answer for you: Say yes more often.
When people ask you if you want to go to a concert, say yes. Regardless of money or etc.
Someone asking if you want to take a road trip? Say yes.
Less thinking. More doing. Say yes more often. Pretty soon you will realize that more you experience more exciting events in life.
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I am 15 and i have been going through depression lately because i like watching porn. That is affecting my relationships with my friends and teachers in my school.It is also decreasing my marks. Kids are bullying me everyday because after watching porn you feel extremely shy around public and it's just messing up my whole life. It even has made me think of killing myself.................... How can i stop this from happening? (link)
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You're a teenager and male, this is normal to watch porn and masturbate. However, if it's becoming a habit that's interfering with your personal life, I would suggest cutting back on it. The reason why is because you are NEVER doing to completely stop watching porn or completely stop masturbating. That's just not going to happen.
First, I would try watching porn without masturbating. This is going to be a challenge, I know, but it will test your strength. I would also get into more physical activities like going to the gym or running around the block.
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Hey I'm a 17 year old boy from England,and I have this issue where anytime something goes wrong with a girl I like I get seriously down in the dumps for days,maybe weeks in certain cases such as when my ex got with one of my best friends at the time. Another example would be that same guy trying to talk to a girl he knows I like last night in order to get to me. My confidence completely revolves around girls and how my love life is. It's stupid but I just can't help it,and when something goes wrong with a girl I just enter this depressed phase where I think I'll never really find a girlfriend,and I just feel lonely and can't concentrate on anything else,because I'm constantly thinking about whatever went wrong.
I'm not sure if I can explain it well,because I don't really understand why it happens myself. I don't really know what advice is out there either but if anyone has some I'd really appreciate it,thanks (link)
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You're 17 and male. This is normal.
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Should I text boy or wait for boy to text my gay pretty boy ass?
Im 17 (link)
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You should wait for him to text your Pretty Boy Floyd ass
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reasons why I love my boyfriend (link)
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because he's handsome
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So my friends are ranting about my other friends to me (who are their friends as well). I love that my friends don't create drama, but they're being two faced. They're so nice to someone's face and then they go and rant about them to me, or maybe someone else. Who knows what they've said behind my back! I mean, if they have a problem with someone, tell them nicely, otherwise they'll probably keep doing it without knowing it's affecting them. Instead, they rant about it to me.
The thing is, I would tell them to talk to the other person about it, but then they might take it the wrong way, and not come to me if they have an issue and I can help, like they'll feel like they can't talk to me about their problems.
I don't want to just stand there and agree with everything they say either.
One time one of my friends texted me ranting about my other friend who is her friend too and then when I told her to talk to her about it and not me, she was like "I can't even talk to my own friend". I know this was a bit dramatic of her, but my point is I want to still be thought of as nice and I want to be there for my friends, I just don't know what to say when they do this.
Sorry if this was confusing to read, but hopefully my question is somewhat clear. Thanks for reading! (link)
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Yeah, this is how it is with young girls. I'm assuming you guys are teenagers, and female, so gossiping is natural.
I have a particular friend who gossips and rants about me behind my back, too. He also talks crap about our other friends. The main problem is that, we're in our 20s. And we are all men.
Next time your friend tries to gossip why not just call her out on it? Tell her that she's being immature and that she should stop being a toxic friend and worry about her own life.
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I don't know why I don't shoot cum during masterbation. Ever time I get to the climax I get hot and numb and can't open my eyes. Then I cum. I forgot to mention I use lotion as a lubricant. When I cum it's the color of sugar water with some solid white parts. But it only oozes instead. When I cum its only enough to fill a thimble. Is there something wrong? Please help. (link)
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It's because you are possibly really young (11-16) and haven't reached puberty yet. Also, if you haven't been masturbating for long, you won't cum that much. Wait until you are in your 20's and it will go BOOM, trust me.
There is nothing wrong with you.
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Okay, I have this brother who is in his 20s and is currently a father to 3 kids. But the problem is he hasn't been spending that much with them nor he isn't around much to help take care of them. It's always his ex's mother and on the weekends, it's me and my mother. So my question is: How can slap some family sense into him? (link)
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Make up a story to make him think something bad happened to the kids, like you lost them or something. Get creative. It will make him realize how important they are and that he needs to wake the F up !
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i'm not sure how to word this properly. i'm 23/f and my entire life i've been curious as to whether or not i am as smart as someone my age should be. i don't feel like i'm quick witted and i never did well in school. i'm not sure how well i retain knowledge because i smoke weed, also. of course no one around me can answer this honestly because of fear that my feelings will get hurt. but i want to know. so i guess my question is what tests can i take or what can i do to find out this information? (link)
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The best way to personally answer this is to take an IQ test. There are tons of them online and they are free. If you score anywhere around 100 than you are normal for a 20-something year old. I did one the other day and got 106.
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I don't know what's wrong with me, I don't feel happy at all lately I know this has nothing to do with relationships it's mostly about me but I feel like I need to talk to someone , iv changed so much in like 2 years I don't myself anymore I'm hardly happy.. I feel like my mood changes a lot , lately I feel so alone like there's no one I can count on. The past few days I just randomly break down crying cause I feel like I'm trapped and there's some sort of void missing in my life I feel like I need to be happy , and it feels so weird because I'm someone that has everything in life but what's everything with out happiness? I don't know what to do I feel like I cry a lot I feel like I'm going crazy mentally broken down. (link)
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It sounds like you are suffering from depression. There doesnt need to be an actual reason for it, it just happens. Normally it can be from lack of connection with people, lack of passion for something, no interest in anything. I think you would feel a lot better if you started doing things that are new and challenging: take on a new hobby, a new sport, a new interest. You can also start putting yourself in places that surround you with people you can connect with, instead of spending too much time inside your home (assuming you live alone). Just try to take on new and interesting things in life and along the way you will find people to connect with, make new friends, and maybe even fall in love. Those things will make you more interested in life and that will lead to happiness.
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I have nightmares almost every night. And even if I don't have nightmares, I constantly remember my dreams. And it's stressing me out. I know that every person dreams but most people don't remember them. I do. It's like they're happening to me in real life, so I always feel tired after waking up. For example if I dream about taking a long walk, I'll literally feel like I took a long walk when I wake up.
Is there anything I can do about this? I also want to get rid of these constant nightmares :( They're either about people that are really important to me not liking me anymore or about monsters trying to kill me. I know it sounds pretty odd. Help? :( (link)
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Everyone has bad dreams. Some are extremely odd and some feel real. The vietnamese used to say that whatever would occur in your dreams, it would not happen in real life. It is just a saying that they used to say, but think about it. If you are dreaming about really bad things happen, maybe it\'s a sign that it wont actually happen in your life. I wouldnt worry too much. Bad dreams tend to happen when you are stressed or have a lot on your mind. I would try doing things during the day to relieve stress and try to relax. Take a walk or go out for a run, and invest your time in new things. Good luck.
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is it okay to ask out guys? (link)
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I don't see why not
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there's this girl who is my boyfriends best friend..whenever he chats with her he'll be online but he'll reply me a bit late(not always)..they were very good friends and mostly everyone thought that they liked each other.. i cant tolerate that girl..i have told him that i don't like her..but still they talk and my boyfriend is bit childish..i cant tolerate that girl..she doesn't like him but i don't like their closeness..it makes me insecure. he says that i'm the most important person to him but i don't feel so..what should i do.. (link)
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It's natural to be jealous. Everyone is to a certain extent. He is your boyfriend, so you have this idea in your head that he is your possession and that any other girl isn't good enough for him. It's normal that you feel that way. But unless there is a specific reason why you dont like her, (her attitude, she's mean, she's deceiving) than I would say that it's probably just jealousy. I think you need to find a better way to control it, and just remind yourself that he is always with you and not her.
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I'm a thirteen year old (nerdy) girl, and it's been pointed out to me that thinking nerdy boys are cute is atypical. I simply don't find what people would consider "normal" boys my age attractive. I think nerdy boys are very cute, especially boys with glasses (I've also been told this is odd), and I've never had a crush on anyone who isn't as smart or smarter than I am (I realize this may seem somewhat rude, as that's saying I think myself to be very intelligent, which I do not- just somewhat competent). What do you think? Is this weird? I never thought of as being so, just not the dominant opinion. (link)
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I'd say it is normal and also a good thing. Chances are, you are attracted to nerdy guys because they seem smart, intelligent, or interesting. From my experience, I've went to high school with plenty of people that I've considered as "nerds". And although most people in high school may not be very fond of nerds, they have always been to me very interesting and smart individuals. So no, it's not unusual. It is better that you'd be attracted to nerds who are kind and intelligent versus jocks or "bad boys", if that makes sense.
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What are some cut and flirty text messages i can send to my boyfriend to make him blush or feel good? Nothing too cheesey tho. (link)
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You can bring up some topics that can get him excited. For example, you can bring up how you guys kiss and what you would like for him to do, and ask him what he would like you to do. Stuff like that. You can make jokes, tease each other, and talk about stuff that relates to your physical relationship.
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Hey I'm 17 and I was wondering if I could get a hookers number or something I'm not a virgin but need sex please help (link)
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Get a girlfriend first.
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