18/m .M and my girlfriend,we had sex last night for the 1st time.I pulled it out on time.I was not using a condom.And in few minutes we did it again.Now i am scared whether she should take birth controlling tablets.
If you are going to use the pull out method try this
1.Wait about 3 days without cumming before you have sex because some sperm my still stay there.
2.If you use the pullout method, try and wait for a little till you pee, because once you pee you might just pee out all the left over sperm, but it is still risky,
Follow these steps and you will be okayy
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I am 16, i used to be a funny, cool guy that everyone liked. i started getting made fun of alot back when i was like 13 and 14, and it really messed me up. I care so much about what someone is gonna say if i say something funny or what comment i made. I have become so insecure, and i really have lost my old personality. Iv never felt shy in group situations , but after getting fucked with so much i feel super vulnerable to everything someone says to me. Now there are times when my outgoing,confident, fun personality comes out, and i seriously love it. But after 10- 15 minutes, i start thinking too much and start supressing my personality again, leading to insecurity and depression. If anyone knows any type of guide or hypnosis or whatever, im willing to try it. But im just tired of this and i want to feel free and open again, I feel locked inside of my mind
Ive been in your situation before and i was pretty shy but then there are somedays where i say fuck it and i just do me, try and find a girlfriend to express your love too publicly then you might become less shy, im telling you this because this is what happend to me, you start not caring what other people think once you got a person that can distract you, and if it dosent work try slowly gaining in that outgoing side like start talking and keeping your friends at your side, it all takes time but the one thing you should try and avoid is like showing every one you shy because then you might be lables as that, so try and be outgoing fuck what anyone says, just give it a shot.
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Hi there, I have just sent more details and questions to Flare, not sure if you are able to access this...maybe I am misunderstanding his inturpretation of a good woman. Maybe he wants more than I am giving. I do not cook for him and do not wipe him but I do the rest. After a drunk night of throwing up I was up and clean up. I drive him around so that he can "sip". I give him manicures and pedicures. I even put Veet on for his so that he can be hair free and smooth in all the right places. He never has to dish his own food or make it. his mother does that, we make him his lunch and his tea and coffee too.We iron his clothes, tidy his room.Add this to what I have just sent to Flare...the man is treated like a king! We have our good and bad times but living in fear of his temper is getting the better of us. His mood changes instantly. He blames everyone for what happens to him. He never says sorry unless he had a few drinks. He expects everone else to say sorry, gives us the silent treatment or send us to our rooms if we don't do and say things they way he wants us to. Even for a pizza order done wrong over the phone, he will not eat or pay for it. He does not contribute to water & lights, groceries, telephone account or to pay the maid (which he insisted on getting and said he will pay). His mother and her sister share a room and bed, they get pensioners grants. They carry the household with that money.I told him that when you take things for granted the things you are granted will be taken from you...no amount of word of wisdom has an impact on him.He insists he will not change for anyone or anything. How can we get him to see he is wrong. I know he knows he is, he is very calculated...there is no word or name for what he is. I stick around hoping and praying change will come. I feel he is a very sad and lonely person and maybe all of this is a front to protect hi from showing this to us. His father dies when he was only 8 or 9 years old.His mother became an alcoholic and he at times (when he gets drunk) cries. He tells me how hard it was for him at that age to fend for himself as his older brothers did their own thing and left him with his passed out mother. She would urinate while passed out and he would have to wash and change her and the bedding. I can understand that he had a rough childhood but shouldn't this make you more appreciative of what you have now?Shouldn't you want to be better than that? Does he feel that life owes him now for the past?
In reallity people don't aprecciate things when they have them. Only when they see it leaving then they start apreciating, he sounds like a very confused man but you must try and cope with him. He is human so he should be at a right mind to understand, his past might be the right way to get to him you should try and talk about it with him I think he really needs to know you are understanding, but you also have to make him understand that if he dosent treat you the way you want to be trated then that will be the last he will see you. Maybe you should take a risk for your better like if he does something to you don't say a word just leave for like 2 days and he mighjt just blow up your phone calls. If he does then that mean this man really has big feelings towards you. In the best possible way you have to try and gain control and stop dealing with mostly all his problems, make him understand that you got problems to
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Hi, I am in an interratial relationship and it's proven more that once to be a hard one. Not becuase of the race difference as such but the challenge is in the type. He is Indian and they are known for their jealousy and infidility. The one I am dating, well, I am not sure if he is just being that,a hypocrite, narsisitic, selfish or a womanizer or all in one. He pretends to be something he is not with other women, yet back home he will be abusive, mentally and thank goodness for long now not physically. He drinks only over weekends and then all is said, he admits he makes me feel small, provokes me, say things to hurt me but it is to keep me on my toes. He has met 3 women,he chats on a social site with another 20, he sent nude pics, they sms and call. He accuses me of doing the same. He is allowed to make assumptions but not me. I am not allowed to chat on social sites with other men. When we go out he watches me like a hawk and will say men talk to me to get to me. I am not cheap or easy. I told him I am stronger than him because I allow him to control me while I pretend not to know all his scemes, vain excuses and pretentious ways. I know this is one of those pack your bag and dump the duchebag situations. I do love him though. He knows and admits that he uses me at times and preys on my kindness. He is manipulating and controlling but I know and see all this. When I tell him who and what he is he gets angry. When he picks a fight like now I know it's because he did something wrong and wants to fight and put the attention and blame on me for what he did. I know he won't change, I give him the benefit of the doubt and he knows that. He demands trust and honesty but he lies about things, hide them and acts dumb when confronted when I do find out. How do I handle this man? How do I make him see that I am not the enemy but he is. All I do is be good, be quiet, be faithful and loyal...he does not say thanks you or please. Today he told me to take my words, make them into a stick and go f... myself. He does not even bother to buy chips or juice or do anything I want to do, yet he will offer ,then the offer turns into options, then the options turn into he's preference and then we do what he wants to do. He wants me to tone my legs and get my body into shape but he never give me any support or comfort in any situation, like the two miscarriages I had. He was having a phone fling during the first one by the way. I am just so confused, I read up as much as I can about his personality but it seems he has too many. He does whatever he wants too but I am not allowed to do what he does yet he accuses me of it...thank you for reading me out.
This is bound the most intresting question I have seen in a while. And I'm trying not to judge as I see infact do you have any clue what makes him do things such as that like maybe his past or anything, try and wait till he is in a good mood to sit down and talk to him so you can understand a little about the man he seems confusinf but even the most oddest people can be understood a little bit of advice if you really wnt to be with him try your hardest once you know uve tried then you really have to face reallity and think do I really wnt to live this way, trust me a lot of men would love a woman that is loyal and is by his side all the time. This guy your with is really not appreciating what he has. Good luck I really hope you make the right decision
Sincerly ReyRincon :)
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Hi f/14.
One of my friends,same age as me likes this junior.SHe was scared to tell him,but now he knows.They chat and text alot,and she calls him her man,and he likes getting called that.She even said she's gonna ask him out.They'd be cute together.But there's one problem,she already has a boyfriend.He drops and picks her up from school.SO she talks with the guy during school.
I really don't want either guy to get hurt,so what should I do?
Well theres really nothing you can do technacly if you tell them they will get hurt.
As of now its better them not knowing.
i would try to talk to your friend and convince her to make only one decion but if she dosent want to then there is nothing you can do
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Female/14
Me and my rother and his friends all have the same lunch periods.So Ill go and sit with them.But theres this one guy I think is cute and I catch him staring at me alot.
For example today when I was sitting there within five minutes Ive caught him staring at metwice.
And when ever I think about him I get this wierd feeling in my stomach and heart.
I think you are starting to like him you should start talking to him or be friends with him
Sincerely Rey Rincon
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Hey guys. I'm jordan, I'm 16, I'm female, and I don't feel..
My life has been a little more than rough and I slip in and out of depression on a regular basis..
When I was only 4 or 5 my parents split... My father was mentally, physically, and verbally abusive to both me,my sister, and my mother. He also cheated on my mother pretty much every other day with a different girl and my mom stuck it up, just so her kids could have a father in their life. It was all fake and pitiful.
When I was 6 my mom got a new boyfriend named John. John was more than a father to my family than my actual father ever was, and we all loved him very much. Although, when I was around 10 I noticed that John started to change. John was addicted to percription pain killers... The first time he was arrested the police came to my house when I was home alone with him and I answered the door and watched them take him away. As much as I was screaming and crying and begging the police not to take him away, they took him anyway.. Long story short, John has been in and out of prison ever since and I never see him, I believe he's back in now.
But that's only the beginning. When I was in preschool I had a best friend. We thought alike, looked alike, but we were completely different people. I was ... Me.. A crazy dressed, guitar player punk, and she was a preppy, rich, well dressed, normal girl...
Like most friends,we fought, allllot. But would always make up no more than a week later.
Around 2nd grade we met two more girls that we added to our two man clique, we all got along and we're good friends up until 7th grade.
7th grade... Has hands down still been the worst year of my life and I think that's when I lost it.... All those feelings I had... All those feelings that i knew were there at one time.. Allhose feelings that I'll never get back..
In 7th grade my best friend stopped talking to me. She spent her time with the other two girls and I was always the one they never invited to stay, or to the movies. since my family was a wreck and my mom was in great depression, my friends were all I had... Then.. Before my eyes they were gone.. Just like that.
I ended up feeling lonely a lot... I felt as if I was unwanted everywhere I was. I never spoke. I went 2 whole years without saying a word... I severely cut myself everyday, but no one ever knew that. After I started cutting is when I realized it was the only thing that made me feel human. And after a few years of that it didn't work anymore.. And that really scared me.. Cutting was my friend.. And it left me. Just like everything else...
Now Im 16 and I feel....nothing... When I laugh I feel forced. Like Im pushing it out With tons of effort. And I don't feel sad anymore. Or lonely. Some nights I just feel like I should cry.. Maybe thats what i need, a good cry. But when I try to All that happens is my eyes water... It doesn't feel like crying.... Right now writing this... I'm not even sure why I'm doing this... I guess I just want to know if I'm the only one who feels this way? Because everything seems pointless.... I hate to sound like I'm craving attention, but ending my life sounds like the right thing to do at this point... By the time you read this ill probably be gone... So you guys .. Stay strong.. Stronger than me... I'm sure it gets better. I just don't think it will for me. But you hang in there....
Stay strong you guys.
-Jordan .
Dear jordan i understand your feelings ive had my share but ending your life isint a good way out. i am not really good at typing in a way im a good talker and i just want that oppurtunity to have a 1 on 1 conversation with you. there is people out thater that care for you we might not know each other but i for one care. i want you to message me on this email level956@gmail.com, and ill send you my number when you tell me its you, u can call me private if you want i dont care. i just want to see if i can help in any way if you think i am just another adult i am not im 16.. i understand looking for help is stupid but us as young adults we need to help eachother. just consider the offer its always there if you need it
Sincerely. Rey Rincon
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Hi i'm 19 years old and my dad has cancer in his liver. i dont knno what to do and i feel hopeless as if he is going to die any minute. I dont live with him, he lives in his house all alone and im scared to death if he suddenly passes out and i could never live with myself knowing that I couldve done something about it to save him. What am I supposed to do? He is for some reason happy and at peace with himself and i dont wanna ruin it by talking to him about my concerns. I feel like there is something I can do to help him but I just dont know what it is. please help me out. I dont know if I can live without him.
Really all you can do is hope fore the best and cherish every moment you have togther on this earth.i say you go and pay him a visit i think paying him a visit answers your question. and if i were you i wouldent tell him about your concerns because us as human we will feel guilty and i dont think you wnt your dad to worry in this situation. i really hope for the best for you and your father you will be in my prayers i promise you that, this subject really touches me in a way, ive dealt with things such as this, so i pretty much know your situation is.
Sincerely. Rey Rincon :)
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Tonight, my girlfriend of 4 months has told me that she doesn't deserve to date me. She has had some rather rough relationships where abuse (not physical but mental abuse) was involved. She also has the genital herpes STD, and she's not a virgin either and I'm still one. We are both 26 years old as well. But anyways, when she told me this, I did feel hurt and even angry that she would say this to me. Now usually like every month, she talks about her past. However, its getting to a point where her complaining about her past is beginning to frustrate me. Now I haven't gone through the things in my life that my girlfriend has gone through. Often it can be hard for me to help her too. We did date for a while back in 2010 for about 4 months, but we broke up because at the time she was very clingy to me which I hated and I had issues going on with my life back then too. We got back together in the spring of this year and said we would try to have a better relationship. I want to keep that going, but the fact that she often complains about her past is something that bothers me and I won't tolerate it much longer. What should I do? Also, she lost her grandfather in September of last year and her grandmother recently passed away too. Any help would be appreciated.
Thank you.
To be honest ive been in your situation before, to be honest i think your girlfriend is really to stuck in her past which can be a good thing or a badthink what i mean by that is right now its the bad thing with all the talking it can get you upset, but the good thing is that she really just want you to feel her emotions so its not bad to sit down with her and tell what really bothers her she might even feel even more loved than she already has, another option is to let her know that shes not the only one with problems theres people with worse and also add that the past is the past its not a supposed to be as a story like they "the past is the past in the future you laugh" no matter what her situation is she will think back and remember whos been trough it al with her and hopefully that someone would be you. you seem like a real good boyfriend i mean i know how you feel like your just there nowing the things that happend in the past it can make you think bad about the person or maybe even feel pitty but that person whoever it is always will need a helping hand and its better to leave that hand out and keep all those bad toughts away from the badside and look at the bright side all the time. Sorry if it doesent quite make scense but i was talking while typing.
Sincerely Rey Rincon :)
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Hi, im a 19 year old girl, i been with these guy for a year, as a couple. But i know him since i was born, we were raised together. His 24 years old. Im also 37 weeks pregnant. We been living together for 6 months. The problem is, that i want to leave him but i dont know how. Im tired of everything. He spends the whole day critizing me and humiliating me. He berly touches me. He is not romantic, he doesnt even pay for my stuff when we go out. I have to pay for my part. He ignores me when ever he wants. And he thinks im his freaking maide. Point blank he treats me like shit. Theres nothing good i can say about him. He blames me for every little thing even if is not related to me. He berly shows any affection with me being pregnant. The only thing he cares is himself, his friends, his car, and the gym. We are not included. I dont even know if he loves me still. I see that we fight more then were happy. The sex sucks, it always had, he only thinks about him selfs. How can i leave him? Or what should i do? Im 3 weeks before giving birth.
I personaly think that you should gain some ground and take a minutes to think about this decision its seems like a very tough one.I think it was better to do it sooner but you should consider doing it. if he is not making your life any better what makes you think he will make your childs life any better. the Like i always say the sooner the better. i bet your probably thinking about how is it going to affect your child, because when a child dosent have there parents together it really breaks them into pieces but you also have to understand is that it happens every day. Its really up to you, but all i suggest is like the book says "ITS NOW OR NEVER"
Sincerely Rey Rincon
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Hello. I am 18 years old and have 2 month old twins, the father of my twins left while i was pregnant with them. recently he told me he wants to get back into me and his babies life and wants us to be a family. we are not together but working on it. but on top of this i have recently slept with another boy and could possibly be pregnant by him. i really want to be with my twins father and we have even talked about our wedding but i know if he finds out about this other bot he is going to leave me. i honestly do not know what to do, HELP PLEASE!
This is a real tough decision but i think the best way is to wait it out and see if your really pregnant,
1. and if you not, then really what he dosent know wont hurt him. it might sound like a cold hearted thing but its really going to make it worse if you tell him. Ive been in that situation where you find out or get told something you say you want to know but infact you really dont want to know.
2. If you are well there is no other resort. you have to tell him the earlier the better. because if he sees your belly questions will be asked and its better to deal with the heat now than later.
IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU AND TRUE LOVE IS IN THE AIR HE WILL UNDERSTAND YOU. :)
Sincerely. Rey Rincon
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