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Hypocrite boyfriend continue...
Hi there, I have just sent more details and questions to Flare, not sure if you are able to access this...maybe I am misunderstanding his inturpretation of a good woman. Maybe he wants more than I am giving. I do not cook for him and do not wipe him but I do the rest. After a drunk night of throwing up I was up and clean up. I drive him around so that he can "sip". I give him manicures and pedicures. I even put Veet on for his so that he can be hair free and smooth in all the right places. He never has to dish his own food or make it. his mother does that, we make him his lunch and his tea and coffee too.We iron his clothes, tidy his room.Add this to what I have just sent to Flare...the man is treated like a king! We have our good and bad times but living in fear of his temper is getting the better of us. His mood changes instantly. He blames everyone for what happens to him. He never says sorry unless he had a few drinks. He expects everone else to say sorry, gives us the silent treatment or send us to our rooms if we don't do and say things they way he wants us to. Even for a pizza order done wrong over the phone, he will not eat or pay for it. He does not contribute to water & lights, groceries, telephone account or to pay the maid (which he insisted on getting and said he will pay). His mother and her sister share a room and bed, they get pensioners grants. They carry the household with that money.I told him that when you take things for granted the things you are granted will be taken from you...no amount of word of wisdom has an impact on him.He insists he will not change for anyone or anything. How can we get him to see he is wrong. I know he knows he is, he is very calculated...there is no word or name for what he is. I stick around hoping and praying change will come. I feel he is a very sad and lonely person and maybe all of this is a front to protect hi from showing this to us. His father dies when he was only 8 or 9 years old.His mother became an alcoholic and he at times (when he gets drunk) cries. He tells me how hard it was for him at that age to fend for himself as his older brothers did their own thing and left him with his passed out mother. She would urinate while passed out and he would have to wash and change her and the bedding. I can understand that he had a rough childhood but shouldn't this make you more appreciative of what you have now?Shouldn't you want to be better than that? Does he feel that life owes him now for the past?
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In reallity people don't aprecciate things when they have them. Only when they see it leaving then they start apreciating, he sounds like a very confused man but you must try and cope with him. He is human so he should be at a right mind to understand, his past might be the right way to get to him you should try and talk about it with him I think he really needs to know you are understanding, but you also have to make him understand that if he dosent treat you the way you want to be trated then that will be the last he will see you. Maybe you should take a risk for your better like if he does something to you don't say a word just leave for like 2 days and he mighjt just blow up your phone calls. If he does then that mean this man really has big feelings towards you. In the best possible way you have to try and gain control and stop dealing with mostly all his problems, make him understand that you got problems to
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