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stuck between my lover and my possible babys father
Hello. I am 18 years old and have 2 month old twins, the father of my twins left while i was pregnant with them. recently he told me he wants to get back into me and his babies life and wants us to be a family. we are not together but working on it. but on top of this i have recently slept with another boy and could possibly be pregnant by him. i really want to be with my twins father and we have even talked about our wedding but i know if he finds out about this other bot he is going to leave me. i honestly do not know what to do, HELP PLEASE!
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Will it really work out? REALLY? With the guy that left you while you were carrying HIS two children?
Surely, It must be a "if it didn't work the first time, it won't work again" type of situation. Toss in a bit of "He only wants what he cant have" and it sounds close to what you're going through.
Of course, we don't know the whole story. So you need to make a judgement. You also don't state WHY he left. I mean, did he get scared? Was he unfaithful? Did you kick him out? Each possibility would lead to a different situation.
You must also realize that marrying each other *just* for the children will never work. Of course, it's of the highest importance that the children grow up with both parents around. But this can be done when separated. It is good however, that he wants to be in the childrens' lives.
Also, I don't think you should say "By the way, I slept with another guy, and I may be pregnant". Take a test, and then see. If you're not pregnant, then there's no need to tell him that you may have been. If you are, then you have a problem.
But should you tell him you slept with another guy? Of course you should. Relationships are based on trust and communication. You have to tell him the truth. After all, you were not together during the time. And HE left YOU. But will you be able to keep the secret until you're both 80+ years old, with children and grand children?
If he cannot accept it, then you have to accept his decision. Tell him it was a mistake, and explain your reasoning. If he really loves you and wants to be a family like he says, then he will accept that you made a mistake and that you're sorry.
But all this is really irrelevant. You just need to make a call about what you want to do. Think carefully. I hope I convinced you to do the right thing!
Good luck, Hope it works out, and I hoped I helped! :)
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This is a real tough decision but i think the best way is to wait it out and see if your really pregnant,
1. and if you not, then really what he dosent know wont hurt him. it might sound like a cold hearted thing but its really going to make it worse if you tell him. Ive been in that situation where you find out or get told something you say you want to know but infact you really dont want to know.
2. If you are well there is no other resort. you have to tell him the earlier the better. because if he sees your belly questions will be asked and its better to deal with the heat now than later.
IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU AND TRUE LOVE IS IN THE AIR HE WILL UNDERSTAND YOU. :)
Sincerely. Rey Rincon
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