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Boyfriend / pregnancy: How can i leave him? Or what should i do? Im 3 weeks before giving birth.
Hi, im a 19 year old girl, i been with these guy for a year, as a couple. But i know him since i was born, we were raised together. His 24 years old. Im also 37 weeks pregnant. We been living together for 6 months. The problem is, that i want to leave him but i dont know how. Im tired of everything. He spends the whole day critizing me and humiliating me. He berly touches me. He is not romantic, he doesnt even pay for my stuff when we go out. I have to pay for my part. He ignores me when ever he wants. And he thinks im his freaking maide. Point blank he treats me like shit. Theres nothing good i can say about him. He blames me for every little thing even if is not related to me. He berly shows any affection with me being pregnant. The only thing he cares is himself, his friends, his car, and the gym. We are not included. I dont even know if he loves me still. I see that we fight more then were happy. The sex sucks, it always had, he only thinks about him selfs. How can i leave him? Or what should i do? Im 3 weeks before giving birth.
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I'm not sure if you are asking for help in making the decision to leave him or asking for help in leaving him. I'll error on the side of caution and go with the second thought first.
If you need help in leaving him and fear he might harm you after you leave or while you attempt to leave. Check and see if there is a "House of Ruth" in your area. This organization can and will help you with leaving him safely as well as helping you with the legal paperwork to ensure he does right in his support of his child.
If there is no House of Ruth then call this hotline number: 1-800-799-SAFE. It is the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Their web address is: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). While he may not be physically harming you you are experiencing some form of mental abuse so call them if you need to.
Now as to my first thought as to what you are asking. It would not be right for me to advice you on one way or the other. This is a question only you can answer. You Know what you are living with. You have a greater insight to how things may be when the baby arrives. Based on your knowledge of him and what your gut is telling you is how you should decide what to do.
Your 19, I would assume you have family. I know how hard it is to admit that you made a mistake. I am also a parent and I'm old enough to be your grandfather. I feel and I truly believe no matter what may have been said between you and your parents in the past. No matter how hurtful it may have been. If you call home and say daddy this has been a big mistake I need to come home, can I please come home until I can get my life together.
My belief is that your dad will melt right there on the spot and either come and get you or make arrangements for you to come to him and your mother safely. There is one thing about dads and daughters that some times a daughter takes awhile to learn. With dads and their a son. A son is a son until he proves himself a man. A daughter will always be daddy's little girl even when she is all grown up and has a family of her own. Meaning dads are always super protective of their daughters and if you call and ask for help no matter what has transpired in the past; I believe dad will be their for you.
I hope I have helped.
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I personaly think that you should gain some ground and take a minutes to think about this decision its seems like a very tough one.I think it was better to do it sooner but you should consider doing it. if he is not making your life any better what makes you think he will make your childs life any better. the Like i always say the sooner the better. i bet your probably thinking about how is it going to affect your child, because when a child dosent have there parents together it really breaks them into pieces but you also have to understand is that it happens every day. Its really up to you, but all i suggest is like the book says "ITS NOW OR NEVER"
Sincerely Rey Rincon
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