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My dad has cancer what do i do? I dont know if I can live without him.
Hi i'm 19 years old and my dad has cancer in his liver. i dont knno what to do and i feel hopeless as if he is going to die any minute. I dont live with him, he lives in his house all alone and im scared to death if he suddenly passes out and i could never live with myself knowing that I couldve done something about it to save him. What am I supposed to do? He is for some reason happy and at peace with himself and i dont wanna ruin it by talking to him about my concerns. I feel like there is something I can do to help him but I just dont know what it is. please help me out. I dont know if I can live without him.
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I was 33 years old, when my dad was diagnose with cancer in the intestants. I was scared about losing him. i was always daddy's girl. When I was younger i had alot of medical issues. He was always there for me. He did not tell me about his cancer. I found out from my mom. My parents are divorced. so, I was receiving information from others. He snapped at me. The next time we talk it was easier. He went into remission. As he went for follow up months later. My dad was diagnosed with sa different cancer. i was scared. This time he was more open and honest with me. My dad means the world to me. I had to come to terms with the fact that i might lose him. I realized through support of others that I can live without his body but his spirit remains with me. I keep my memories of all the good times. I will miss him dearly. Death is part of life. So, enjoy your life with him because you never know what happens tomorrow. There are support groups out there for families and friends of loved ones with cancer. Enjoy your time with him. We can't controll cancer. We can controll what we do in life. I hope this helps.
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I don't know if this will help as I don't know just what your fathers condition is or where you live. There are times that where you live plays a large part in what doctors are able to do for a patient.
I watched the last episode this week of NyMed on ABC TV network. If you go online you should be able to view the episode which I am suggesting you do. In this show a doctor removed a cancerous liver, removed the tumors and a potion of the liver then replanted the liver back into the patient. They called it a same patient transplant.
It was dangerous and if it didn't work the patient would die sooner than expect. In the case shown the patient lived.
What I am suggesting is you watch the show on line. Get the name of the doctor and the hospital he works at. Then contact him with the information you have about your dads condition to see if he is willing to take your father's case.
If the doctor is willing then talk to your dad to see if he is willing to give this a try. The next thing after, if dad agrees, would be to forward all the tests and scans there are, to the doctor in NY so he can make an evaluation. If he feels he can help and wants to move forward then you would need to go to New York for the doctor to examine your father and hopefully preform the surgery.
This by all accounts is a long shot. It is also a glimmer of hope for you and your dad to look into. As I said doctors and their abilities to do things are limited at times by the abilities of the hospitals where you live and their ability and time to to learn new techniques.
The program that aired this week was filmed two years ago and the patient was still alive when they interviewed him for the airing of the show. This is not a promise of help or even a cure. Only a suggestion of something to look into as an alternative to what is now.
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Really all you can do is hope fore the best and cherish every moment you have togther on this earth.i say you go and pay him a visit i think paying him a visit answers your question. and if i were you i wouldent tell him about your concerns because us as human we will feel guilty and i dont think you wnt your dad to worry in this situation. i really hope for the best for you and your father you will be in my prayers i promise you that, this subject really touches me in a way, ive dealt with things such as this, so i pretty much know your situation is.
Sincerely. Rey Rincon :)
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