I am currently a student. My major is psychology. I want to have my own business a therapist. I have been through alot of abuse and trauma. I am in recovery. I love helping people. I am a trsainer in two types of therapy. I have trained both staff and clients of a mental health agency. I was on a human rights board. I attend conferences on human rights. I also sat on a public policy board for a mental health agency. I spoke out at rallies and at legistraters breakfasts.
E-mail: christinacordes@charter.net
Gender: Female
Location: Massachusetts
Occupation: student
Age: 35
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Hi i'm 19 years old and my dad has cancer in his liver. i dont knno what to do and i feel hopeless as if he is going to die any minute. I dont live with him, he lives in his house all alone and im scared to death if he suddenly passes out and i could never live with myself knowing that I couldve done something about it to save him. What am I supposed to do? He is for some reason happy and at peace with himself and i dont wanna ruin it by talking to him about my concerns. I feel like there is something I can do to help him but I just dont know what it is. please help me out. I dont know if I can live without him. (link)
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I was 33 years old, when my dad was diagnose with cancer in the intestants. I was scared about losing him. i was always daddy's girl. When I was younger i had alot of medical issues. He was always there for me. He did not tell me about his cancer. I found out from my mom. My parents are divorced. so, I was receiving information from others. He snapped at me. The next time we talk it was easier. He went into remission. As he went for follow up months later. My dad was diagnosed with sa different cancer. i was scared. This time he was more open and honest with me. My dad means the world to me. I had to come to terms with the fact that i might lose him. I realized through support of others that I can live without his body but his spirit remains with me. I keep my memories of all the good times. I will miss him dearly. Death is part of life. So, enjoy your life with him because you never know what happens tomorrow. There are support groups out there for families and friends of loved ones with cancer. Enjoy your time with him. We can't controll cancer. We can controll what we do in life. I hope this helps.
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I need help because I've been seriously contemplating suicide. Nobody but my boyfriend knows this. Many people on this website and my boyfriend told me to talk to somebody about it. However, I'm unsure on how to do this. I don't want to mention it to my parents, because, well, they're youth pastors and I feel as if they haven't known my situation lately and I tell them it's been going on for awhile, they'll think badly of themselves. Or if I told somebody close to me, they'll think my parents shouldn't be in a position to help other teens like me. But, I don't think it's all there fault they don't know, I hide it well. I don't know how to talk to someone i know about my cutting or suicidal thoughts. Please somebody help me! I am embarrassed by my situation and I don't want somebody to think badly of my family or myself. (link)
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Don't be embarrassed about your cutting. Is there someone besides your boyfriend that you trust. Find someone who you can trust. If you are having suicidal thoughts, you should seek help. Suicide is not an answer. You can have a life full of joy and happiness. Everybody goes through ups and downs. If you have a hard time talking to you parents because you feel thet will think badly about themselves. Please find a way to tell them. If they don't know what is going on with you, they can't help you. You need to trust you parents will be there for you. Its important you come forward and let them know. Don't be afraid to talk to them. If they feel badly about themselves, its because you haven't talk to them about whats going on.
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I'm sorry if this is long but I really need help...
My exhoydroend broke up with me due to different religions.... We are both strong about our religions however 7 months of being together I tried multiple times to end it but he would fight until I didn't end it, he would cry whenever we had to think about ending it... He convinced me that we would work out and we would last. Few days ago he broke up with me due to religion... He was crying whilst breaking up he said they he was being really
Selfish towards me and he knew I would be miserable and that he didn't want to let go but he was doing it for my benefit. I fought and fought but he still broke up with me. I feel low because I stopped so low and lowers my pride but he kept sahib he didn't want to do it and he wanted to marry me but he didn't know how to do that. I asked to see him and talk but he said if we see each other he wouldn't be able to let go.... He chased and chased until he got me and he would never let me end it because apparently he couldn't love without me and 7 months later he dumps me... It was strange be ajar it was random it was all perfect and then randomly he was thinking about it for 5 hours.... Advice anyone? Does anyone think he will be back? (link)
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I don't know if he will be back. If he does want to come back to you before you decide to get back with him. Think about your feelings about him first. Think about how he has treated you. Think about how your life was with him and without him. Sometimes, when we are in a relationship its not just about one person. its about both of you. We as human beings need to take care of ourselves first. If we don't take care of ourselves, how can we take care of someone else. Not everybody in relationships are going to be a 100% compatible. Sometimes we can lerarn from others. We need to put our needs first. If you want to be in a relationship with someone choose someone that appreciates you for who you are, and will stick by you through good times and bad times.
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I'm eighteen years old, and I'm basically a follower. If real life were a video game, I'd totally be a support character. I'm very good at being backup, being there for people and sacrificing my own wants or needs for theirs. I'm also very good at following orders and respecting seniority. I have been my entire life. I always think about other people first. I follow people the majority of the time. If my friends and I, say, go to the mall or something, I prefer following behind them. I don't know why, it's just how I am!
It's not to say I can't lead. I guess I'm sort of a lazy leader, in a way. If a situation arises where there are all followers amongst us, I'll take the lead if I have to. But if anyone else wants to lead I'll follow them.
A follower is always described negatively... Is it really all that bad to be a follower? I mean, without us, leaders would have no one to LEAD, right? Thanks for your time. :D (link)
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Being a follower does not have to be a bad thing. It can be a good thing. It all depends on who you follow and what they do. If you like being a follower choose a leader that has same values or morals. Like if your religious and you like a person beliefs. Be a follower at his church. If you have friends who have been in trouble with the law. is that a path you want to follow. It is not an easier choice. If you want to be a follower, and not a leader, choose a leader that is helpful not hurtful.
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Please help me, here! Help is extremely appreciated
1. Which college would be the best college to go to for 2 years before transferring to a good school (as good of a school as I can achieve, like UT Austin or something else in the Midwest or Northeast)?
2. Would it look better if I'm at a regular 4 state university (Southwestern Oklahoma State University) even if it's not ranked high and is pretty much in the middle of nowhere in Oklahoma, or any of those community colleges in Dallas?
3. Which school would better prepare me, and which school would give me the best chances when I'm looking to transfer? I don't know the reputation of those community colleges or if a regular 4 year uni is always ranked better, regardless, or what.
4. And if it's true that a 4 year uni is always harder than a community college, which is better so if I got to transfer I'd adapt better?
If all 4 answers are the same just say that one answer, too
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I feel that the best place to start off with is a community college. It is not harder. A community colleges actully prepare you to go to a University or a higher college. I am currently taken a break from Holyoke Community College in Massachusetts. At this college, we have a writing and math center for free of charge. They also have tutors for free. They have contracts with other colleges and universities. They make easier for you to transfer to a 4 year colleges. Community Colleges have lots of benefits.
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Tonight, my girlfriend of 4 months has told me that she doesn't deserve to date me. She has had some rather rough relationships where abuse (not physical but mental abuse) was involved. She also has the genital herpes STD, and she's not a virgin either and I'm still one. We are both 26 years old as well. But anyways, when she told me this, I did feel hurt and even angry that she would say this to me. Now usually like every month, she talks about her past. However, its getting to a point where her complaining about her past is beginning to frustrate me. Now I haven't gone through the things in my life that my girlfriend has gone through. Often it can be hard for me to help her too. We did date for a while back in 2010 for about 4 months, but we broke up because at the time she was very clingy to me which I hated and I had issues going on with my life back then too. We got back together in the spring of this year and said we would try to have a better relationship. I want to keep that going, but the fact that she often complains about her past is something that bothers me and I won't tolerate it much longer. What should I do? Also, she lost her grandfather in September of last year and her grandmother recently passed away too. Any help would be appreciated.
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I think The best thing to do is to ask her if she has a therapist. If she doesn't, explain to her how you feel about her and that you don't know how to support her through this difficult time. A therapist can process her feelings around her past and help her to understand herself, and help her cope with what's happening to her. To me, it seems she has low self-esteem due to her past. That can be one reason why she feels she doesn't deserve to be with you. Try not to blame yourself for the things she said. If shes opening up to you about her past. It is because she trusts you. good luck
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