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Literally breaking down
I don't know what's wrong with me, I don't feel happy at all lately I know this has nothing to do with relationships it's mostly about me but I feel like I need to talk to someone , iv changed so much in like 2 years I don't myself anymore I'm hardly happy.. I feel like my mood changes a lot , lately I feel so alone like there's no one I can count on. The past few days I just randomly break down crying cause I feel like I'm trapped and there's some sort of void missing in my life I feel like I need to be happy , and it feels so weird because I'm someone that has everything in life but what's everything with out happiness? I don't know what to do I feel like I cry a lot I feel like I'm going crazy mentally broken down.
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To answer your question, happiness is not as important as our culture makes it out to be. In many eastern countries happiness is considered to be too extreme. Rather than trying to be happy, people focus on trying to find peace. They also value sadness more, seeing people with depression as strong rather than as pathetic.
A life without happiness can still be meaningful. As a matter of fact, studies show that the more a person tries to be happy, the more unhappy she/he becomes.
Try looking for peace instead of happiness. Take bubble baths and listen to soothing music. Paint your toenails pink. Take life one day at a time.
Yours truly,
Miss Piggy
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Hi there. Those cunning Germans (who virtually INVENTED psycho-analysis and the like!) came up with the term 'Weltschmerz' (pronounced 'veltshmurts') and meaning in English 'World Sadness'. It's distinct from clinical depression, not the same thing at all. I fancy it descibes your feeling, and the answer you rated is pretty much the gist of it. It's part of our make-up. It's not the result of our achievements, posessions and well-being etc. Would you describe yourself as mood-sensitive and atmosphere-sensitive in general? A person who feels deeply in general? If so you're more likely to feel weltschmerz more acutely than some. The feeling that something is missing or just 'not right' is pretty typical. Trying to identify precisely 'what' is wrong or missing can be virtually impossible...there may well BE no 'what'!! Crying may seem extreme to some, but if it's your 'safety valve' and method of managing it then a little weep will do you no harm. But try not to form a pattern and let the whole thing feed on itself and grow to an unusal height. Without happiness seems a little bleak. Try perhaps to think of happiness as something YOU bring to events along life's road. The road itself is not happiness, and happiness is not a destination. Not something you can reach, somwhere you can live, something you secure once and for all. It happens along the way sometimes. The man (or woman of course) who wishes to find happiness must in many ways bring happiness with him. The post's about you, not me. But for what it's worth...I fancy I know exactly what you're 'feeling' and it's not a stranger to me either. Best wishes. XX
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It sounds like you are suffering from depression. There doesnt need to be an actual reason for it, it just happens. Normally it can be from lack of connection with people, lack of passion for something, no interest in anything. I think you would feel a lot better if you started doing things that are new and challenging: take on a new hobby, a new sport, a new interest. You can also start putting yourself in places that surround you with people you can connect with, instead of spending too much time inside your home (assuming you live alone). Just try to take on new and interesting things in life and along the way you will find people to connect with, make new friends, and maybe even fall in love. Those things will make you more interested in life and that will lead to happiness.
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I'm not a doctor but I am familiar with the points doctors use to screen a person for depression. In your writing to us you hit a few of them.
All of us get depressed from time to time it is normal. What you need to find out is if your depression symptoms are representative of clinical depression for which medication, treatment or both are appropriate or simple depression we all suffer from at times.
Clinical depression is a lot like diabetes in that the body is not making enough of one or two chemicals to handle the stress, stress be the primary cause of depression, you may be under and control your mood. If not you end up in a depressive state. This is easily fixed and unlike diabetes if medication is recommended it is usually only short term to help you get back to your normal self. The medication is actually a synthetic of the hormones you are lacking.
What I suggest is you make an appointment to see your family doctor for a complete physical. You're going to need one to rule out any organic problem for how you feel anyway. While you are there ask the doctor to screen you for depression. It is a non-invasive test that is simply a number of questions the doctor will ask by which a diagnosis can be made.
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The best advice I can give in this sort of situation is that you find a passion. I feel like this all the time, and I know lots of other people are prone to this kind of consuming sadness. It's in their genetics, or in the natural tendencies of their minds, and there's no shame in that. It's natural to be sad and to feel empty.
If the problem is serious, to the point where you may consider self-harm or suicide, seek professional help. Modern medicines can really help, to a point.
However, I think the easiest and most discrete way to build yourself up again would be to find something to do. Not just a hobby, but something you can fully devote yourself to. Find something that helps you to create, and to connect with similar minded people. Find something that helps you feel good about yourself, something that you can get lost in. I know I would be long lost without my writing, and without other writers I can relate to. Find something to do that takes your mind off your sadness, that fills your life with wholesome activity.
Please know that bleak feelings are entirely temporary, and they don't have to rule your life. It may seem hard, impossible even, but try to move onward and upwards in a positive direction. Hope this helped, and good luck. :)
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