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Is it unusual to find nerdy guys attractive?
I'm a thirteen year old (nerdy) girl, and it's been pointed out to me that thinking nerdy boys are cute is atypical. I simply don't find what people would consider "normal" boys my age attractive. I think nerdy boys are very cute, especially boys with glasses (I've also been told this is odd), and I've never had a crush on anyone who isn't as smart or smarter than I am (I realize this may seem somewhat rude, as that's saying I think myself to be very intelligent, which I do not- just somewhat competent). What do you think? Is this weird? I never thought of as being so, just not the dominant opinion.
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Here's the thing: when you date someone, you spend a lot of time with them. Does it really make sense to spend a lot of time with a guy who is pretty, but dumb as a post? Would you be able to carry a conversation with him? Could you respect him?
Chances are you couldn't. That's why it's completely normal for a smart person to only be interested in other smart people. Your friends may not realize that yet, but they will soon enough, after they waste their time on pretty boys with nothing to say. Those nerdy guys make great boyfriends, usually, and are often overlooked.
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There is no such thing as normal. There is only average. Yes, the average thing to do that average people of average intelligence do is to look at whatever guys people around them tell them to like.
You like nerdy guys? Date nerdy guys. You're far more likely to find an actual relationship with a guy who cares about you in a guy with similar interests and intelligence level than you are among the guys that the average girl your age thinks is hot.
Don't lord your intelligence over other people, but there's nothing rude about privately (and an anonymous question on the internet counts as privately) acknowledging that there are factual differences between you and many of the people around you. Some of us are far above the average IQ, and we do things differently than most. There's nothing wrong with that.
You're going to find more and more as you get older that the things that people who consider themselves "normal" do don't really make a whole lot of sense to you, or make sense but not in a way that makes those things right for you. Go your own way and don't look back. Sure, it'll be rocky. You don't have too many other people around you can ask for advice who will be able to understand your perspective on life.
But when you're in your 20s and you've finally really started to figure yourself out on your own terms, you'll be happy as hell you set out on roads not traveled by others and found your own way to being yourself.
Also, teenaged boys are all works in progress. The nerdy ones definitely get less attention, but they've got a much greater capacity for improvement than most. You can teach a nerdy guy to work out a little, dress well, and be sociable. You can't teach a dumb guy with a great body to be more intelligent.
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I'd say it is normal and also a good thing. Chances are, you are attracted to nerdy guys because they seem smart, intelligent, or interesting. From my experience, I've went to high school with plenty of people that I've considered as "nerds". And although most people in high school may not be very fond of nerds, they have always been to me very interesting and smart individuals. So no, it's not unusual. It is better that you'd be attracted to nerds who are kind and intelligent versus jocks or "bad boys", if that makes sense.
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While it might not be something normal at your age due to most girls not having figured out that it is best to go after what is attractive to them yet,
being attracted to nerdy guys is perfectly normal.
It is unusual for young teens to know with out a doubt exactly what they are attracted to in the opposite sex. Some older adults are still trying to figure that out or havent a clue and just go for someone attractive on the outside but not on the inside.
When I was dating to find my new partner after a divorce...I came across some guys who looked like models in a magazine. Almost all had some issues, usually so into themselves requiring adoration cus they knew they looked hot according to Hollywood standards, or were bossy, domineering etc...
So stick with your standards and don't lower them or settle for less ever. Having an intelligent brain and great personality are just as important if not more so factors in finding someone attractive or sexy.
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No, it's actually normal and you and all your friends will realize that once you get older.
Everyone isn't meant to like the same things. You'll see jock type of guys liking nerdy girls, you'll see nerdy girls liking emo style boys. Seriously, everyone has their own taste and no one needs to tell you that it's weird.
So no, it's not unusual, it's normal. Your friends are like 13 or 14 so what do they know? They can't tell you what's weird and what's not. They're stuck in labels right now.
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Who said it was odd? Your friends?..
You are 13, Many young teenagers nowadays are stereotypical. No, There is nothing wrong with it not even a wee bit. We all like different things, Everyone isn't meant to like the same things.
Ya know what? My first boyfriend wasn't no prince charming to others as he was 5'7 about 210 pounds with long curly hair. It doesn't matter what others think, It matters what YOU think. We aren't meant to like the same things, So this guy might not be someone else taste but that's the whole point. Never judge someone by appearance as that is not what loving or liking someone is about. It's about who they are as a person. If you like nerdy guys then go for it, At least you know what you want. Don't ever let someone tell you otherwise
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