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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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Is it bad to have whitish yellowy discharge?
No, It's normal
The body is almost like a giant garbage disposal,(Odd example but true!) It needs to clean itself out.
We urinate, We have bowel movements....This is all the body just cleaning out and same thing goes for discharge (In women of course!)
Unless you experience burning, itching, etc. Then you are just fine. If you are still concerned you can always make an appointment with your doctor and get it checked out.
I'm 20/f
And I just started having sex, but I want to be more responsible about it so I need to get on birth control.
First off: My mom CANNOT know, at all. I've heard a lot about Planned Parenthood, but I'm unsure of how things work.
1. Do they accept insurance? And if so, what kind?
2. Do they do examinations there, or do they send you to a hospital?
3. Different birth control pills? Which ones should I avoid?
Someone please explain to me how I should go about doing this. Thanks!
As a 20 year old you are old enough to make appointments yourself. You do not need your parents permission nor do you need them to attend the appointment.
There is a law called HIPAA (Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act) meaning that you as a patient have privacy rights.
Your best bet is to probably schedule an appointment with your OBGYN, They can prescribe you birth control that is suitable for you.
There are many options:
Pill: If you aren't good at taking pills or forgetful then I wouldn't go with this option.
Mirena IUD ( Good for 5 years) I've had this one before and never had a problem.
Here is a diagram of the Mirena IUD: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/5/5e/Mirena_IntraUterine_System.jpg/220px-Mirena_IntraUterine_System.jpg
There is the Depo Provera shot: I do not recommend as it made me gain weight
There is the patch: I'm not exactly sure how that one works...
Now, Planned parenthood I don't know much about as I've always just went to my OBGYN but if you think that would be best option for you then you could look into it but I still think your best option is a Gynecologist.
As for your insurance, You can always call them and ask if they accept.
Let's say you are in long distance relationship with your gf/bf for a year and one day that person you love cheated on you because he or she got drunk at the party and made out with someone. Would you forgive them and give them second chance or move on?
Move on
Cheaters are a waste of time, Drinking is not an excuse to cheat on someone. We are responsible of how much alcohol we consume and this person was not responsible. There is no excuse for someone to cheat at all.
Don't let them guilt trip you, They had a chance and they blew it. They were also well aware that they were drinking and how much they were drinking.
Meet someone else that will value your relationship and respect you, Not some dirtbag that is inconsiderate of your feelings.
Is it common to happen when the gf/bf having troubles with their relationship and bf/gf tells and vent it out with the friend who secretly likes her/him and eventually one of them falls for the friend who was there for person when the gf/bf were having trouble with their relationship? Or is it just one of those movie cliché moments?
Sorry if it is confusing.
Relationships are about trust and communication, If one person is going around ratting their problems onto someone else then there is lack of communication in the relationship. Relationships take teamwork, If you have a problem with the other half then you need to sit down talk it out and work on fixing it. Sometimes venting is okay but if you do it consistently then you are allowing other people to be involved in your problems. If someone ratted on me all the time about their relationship not only would I probably get annoyed but it would probably make me think their relationship is a bit unstable. Really, Going to other people about your relationship problems will only do nothing but destroy your relationship and overtime your trust will be non existent.
Basically, im a 16 year old girl who one night decided to go to a party that my mom did not know about. I told her i was staying at a friends and ended up stranded, so i stayed at a boys house with a few of his football friends. I ended up getting really drunk and one of the boys, who i do not know, forced me onto the sofa, unbuttoned my trousers and fingered me against my will. I tried everything to get him off but i was too drunk so i started to cry, he then said if i tell everyone hes going to start rumours about me. What do i do?
You tell someone anyway, You were sexually assaulted and HE IS WRONG. You should not giving a flying crap what the guy says, You should respect yourself enough to rat his ass out for what he did. You have NOTHING to worry about, This is not your fault.
Press charges against him, Take him too court do whatever you need to do but do not let the bastard get away with it. Trust me, He won't look so cool once people find out the truth. Tell an Adult preferably your parents.
Hey. Im jasmine and im 15 im a sophomore in highschool i lost my virginity last year as a freshman and ill be honest i didnt use protection. as a result i didnt get pregnant at all as many times as me and my bf dont use them the last time i had sex was roughly 8 months ago ive been tested and im clean. one question am i lucky ??or what?? answer??
I would consider yourself very lucky, If I were you I would start using protection or else your luck could run out and at 15 you don't need a pregnancy.
20/f
I was dating my now ex for almost a year but he ended up breaking up with me and breaking my heart. He was
the very first person i have ever really loved. He broke up with me and I ended up moving away cause things
just didnt work out to well for me. We talked and deciced that no matter what happened we would still be
best friends and always be there for each other. So my problem is we have been apart for a few months now but
i still really love him and would do anything to get him back and for a while he still really cared about me
but it seems like he is starting to care less and less about me and the last couple of weeks (i hate to say it)
he has been being a really big dick and huge jerk to me. he has made me cry every night for the last 2 3 weeks
and cause of it i have been getting very depressed so i dont know what to do any more. Should i stop talking
to him and try to move on with my life with out him, should i just give it some time and see how things go?
what should i do? i really love him and dont want to lose him and he is still my best friend and the only
person i can really talk to and trust but im afraid that im going to lose him. please help me.
The biggest mistake for many is that we continue to try and remain friends with our exes. Unless you have children involved there should be NO need to still have them in your lives.
Move on, The guy is trying to guilt trip you. There is no such excuse for treating someone like shit no matter what the circumstances are. Why are you sitting around dwelling over it? You moved, You should take it as a chance to start over.
You are crying because you never gave yourself any time to get over the breakup. By remaining in contact you've prolonged your pain, The golden rule is if a relationship doesn't work out you let the person go. You do not try and create a friendship out of it because either you just get hurt more in the process or you end up with drama.
Cut the contact with him, Don't ever let a guy try and guilt trip you. You will never truly allow yourself to move on as long as you are in contact with the jerk anyway. Stop talking to him
I am 15 years old and girl obviously. Anyways, im feeling weird lately because im really confused about my sexuality. I dont know, I find guys attractive and ive onlt ever had one boyfriend, but that doesnt matter. Then again whenever i think about any of "you know", im thinking about girls. And i think about girls when i masterbate. However i cant tell if i am interested in girls, because there are a few girls i find extremely hot but i dont know if i could ever actual date one or kiss one. Im confused! Anyone help?
You are 15 and you stated "Im confused!"
I would just simply say you are bi-curious, I wouldn't put a label on it.
Curious I would say
i have been waking up in the night going to the bathroom having diareah and sometimes not makeing it to the bathroom, i have lost wheight and i have been feeling weak lately I am not that old and i am scared plz help me!
You need to see a doctor
It could be something simple as dehydration, IBS (Irritable bowel syndrome) Or something that is more serious.
We aren't doctors, We cannot give you a diagnosis.
I know that a student teacher relationship is illegal, but i dont get why? Can someone explain this to me...if their is a like five year difference whats the big deal? and then if he is a student teacher, is it still illegal?
Yes it is still Illegal if you are underage
It doesn't matter how far or close apart you are, Teacher/Student relationships are against the schools policy. It is not acceptable/appropriate
Schools have a strict policy and a zero tolerance. The teacher's job is to educate and set an example as an educator to his/her students. A teacher that has a relationship with a student can risk loosing his job. If you are in college you could also get kicked out of school. If you are of age, Wait until you graduate.
I am 15/f and ive been thinking about gynecologist. No i am not sexually active,and dont plan on being for at least another two years. Yes, i have my period for a little over two years now. I havent really had any reason to go but i was wondering when you are suppose to be going to get checked for...whatever it is they check for? As well as what exactly happens in the gynecologists appointment?
It all depends on what you are going for.
If you are going to seek birth control, They will likely ask you a bunch of questions and prescribe you a birth control that is suitable for you.
If you are going for an exam, They do a pap smear basically what that is when they do an exam up there.
Here is a decent diagram:
http://cms.pitterpatter.com.my/uploaded/image/pap%20smear.JPG
Here is a link that explains what you should expect when you see a Gynecologist:
http://4collegewomen.org/fact-sheets/firstgyno.html
After 19 years My mother told me who my real father was 2 weeks ago and then she told me that he dosnt know that im his child. He is married now with a child, and owns a store so when i go in there and see him he talks to me and thinks im his ex girlfriends daughter but he dosnt know im his daughter to. So i dont know what to do my mother said do not tell him but i want him to know, i want to get to know him better. Do i tell him im his daughter?
This is tough one
I wouldn't just go and drop the bomb on someone like that because you don't know how he is going to take it. One thing you really need should do is always prepare yourself for the worse.
It's almost like an adoptee finding their biological parents, You never really know what you are going to get. The man is married and has a child, You in his eyes basically came out of nowhere.
My advice: If you don't know the man personally, I would try and get to know him. What I mean is when you go to the store just try and be casual and friendly. Let him know there is something really important you need to talk to him about.
The worse case scenario is the guy could end up rejecting you, The man could end up demanding a DNA test which can be a costly process.To have a child you never knew about is shocking news to anyone. It's up too you on whether to let him know or not as everyone has the right to know who their parents are. However, Like I said always be prepared for what you might get. You may even get a big argument between him and your mother and his wife will not exactly be all happy and dandy either. As not many wife/husbands are going to take that their partner has a child that randomly came into their lives. If he decides to try and make it work just also know it could take years to build a bond with him.
This is just an example of a reaction I would have: If someone came out and told me I had a child 19 years later, I may be a bit shocked and I'm not sure I would take it so lightly. I would also probably demand a DNA test.....and on the other hand I would be ready for a big blow out with "Dad" and Mom.
i had sex the next day i got my period and ive been eating a lot and i feel so down..so i just wanted to ask if im pregnant or not?
We are not a pregnancy test, We cannot tell you if you are pregnant or not. You would have to buy a test and take it.
I'm 47 and recently divorced. Started seeing a guy and told him straight up I wanted total honesty no matter what and wasn't interested in sexual buddy relationship. He's been cold then hot for 3 months. Found out he's been seeing someone else also. Why lie? He seems to be mad at me now for finding out,why? He won't come right out and say he doesn't want to see me anymore. Before finding out he would say he likes me a lot but he was scared. What's going on with him?
You caught him in a lie, That is exactly what's going on. Cheaters do not like to be caught and when they are caught they don't like to admit they were wrong. Sometimes, Even when we have all the proof in the world we still go in denial.
Simply: The man is cheating on you, He is pissed because you caught him red handed.
If you want a real relationship then you are going to have to find a real man. Time to move on
Hey guys i was just wondering if anyone know how to make something like this. I tried look it up on the internet for like DIY but couldn't find anything. here's a link for what it looks like
https://www.shopwasteland.com/womens-new-jewelry/A-Peace-Treaty/Wadan-Ear-Cuff/APT1241/
But i want it to connect to the actual earring thankyou!
I have been making these forever but one problem...
Mine tend to look somewhat like this:
http://www.teresadoesit.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/CUFF.jpg
The best thing I can tell you is if you are looking to make them, You will need to buy the parts.
If you have a Micheal's craft store near you, This is the best place to buy the supplies.
From the picture you will need findings (Pieces) to connect to your ear. If you want this exact pattern in then you would probably find a loop looking piece. Next you would buy the chain....Now I'm not exactly sure how the chain works as far as buying but you can find a chain necklace that looks similar and cut it long enough so that it attaches from ear piece to ear piece.
If you look on youtube there are a lot of videos that show you had to make different designs, I have been making them for a few years and in fact I sell my designs. You may be pretty surprised on just how easy some things are, In fact if I recall just making a simple design like I showed you must take me 5 minutes tops. If you find a chain....Try to find one that won't rust. Well, I'm not sure exactly what type of chain that would be but just try to avoid looking in places like Walmart and don't buy no 5.00 chain and you should be good. However yes, Take a look at a craft store they usually have everything you need. If you decide to make it your own don't forget a pair of pliers! If you look closely at the earring you will see that bottom piece that goes into the ear has 2 smalls hooks. When you go the store try and find something similar in your style. ;) The findings are usually over near the bead isle.
my webcam is blury how do i fix it its a plug in
Not sure what type of webcam you have...
However you need to adjust the lenses, By fixing the blurriness on your webcam you can just simply turn the webcam so it gives out a clear picture.
If you have one that looks something like this:
http://www.matthartley.com/wp-content/uploads/Webcam_Drivers_For_Ubuntu.jpg
The round black in the middle just turn it till it's more clear.
Well hey everyone!(:
This is going to happen tomorrow night! So please answer(:
So my really good guy friend said he wanted to have sex with me. He's been flirting a lot lately and has asked a lot. I'm 14 and he's 15 but we have been friends forever! He said cause its a new year I should do something new?! So I agreed and all cause he's nice and stuff and like we've been friends for a while and idk if he's gonna get mad if I say no or something. He also wouldn't stop asking. I'm just worried I won't know what to do cause I'm a virgin and he's not. He said not to use a condom. So can I get pregnant? I don't think I want a baby! That'd be bad. I don't think I can get pregnant because I have two weeks until my period and I heard its the worst time to get pregnant or something. I am also really petite so I don't think I would be able to like have the baby. He also said because its my first time I can't get pregnant. Will I bleed? I don't want to cause I'm scared of blood! Will it hurt during and after? Please answer(: Any other tips/advice/help would be great! I don't know lots about this haha! Thanks!
Thank yaa all(: Please answer(: Don't be rude!
I am just going to be blunt
From what you've written you are nowhere near being ready to have sex. Were you seriously thinking of having sex with the guy without a condom?!...YOU ARE NOT READY FOR A BABY. It isn't about wanting one, It's about being able to properly care for one. Babies require medical attention, food, diapers, clothes and a proper living environment. You do not work a full time job, You do not drive, live on your own and to put it short you do not classify as being independent. You still live under your parents roof. These are some things you will need to raise a child the proper way.
Any guy that tries to talk you into not using a condom is a guy that thinks inside his pants and not with his head. Stop letting the guy influence you and for once use your head.
You said:
I don't think I can get pregnant because I have two weeks until my period and I heard its the worst time to get pregnant or something.
You can get pregnant AT ANY TIME, Just because you have another two weeks until you get your period does not mean it is impossible to become pregnant. I highly advise you to not do it, Also this is something to think about if a guy gets mad because you refuse sex then wouldn't that tell you right there that it was all he cared about in the first place? The guy is a loser and he is trying to use you. Don't let yourself be pressured!
Again bluntly: I'm actually pretty surprised on how little you seem to even know about sex. I'm not trying to bash you but you really should read up on pregnancy. If he told you that you can't get pregnant on your first time of having sex then sweetie the guy is obviously either A. very uneducated or B. Trying really hard to manipulate you. These things are not true, Pregnancy can happen anytime. Stay away from this jerk he
EDIT: I really don't care what you decide to rate me. I am not going to sit here and tell someone that has NO education on sex/pregnancy that they should go and do it anyway. If you choose to fall into his little game of manipulation then sorry to tell you.....Your IQ is not only extremely low but you are gullible as gullible gets.
if im a type one diabetic and i havent been taking care of myself is it possible i wont get my period?
Being a diabetic has nothing to do with getting your period or not.
You should get your period, If you don't then make an appointment with a OBGYN as it could be caused from a different problem.
Im 17 years old and i got arrested yesterday at walmart for stealing $280 worth of merchandise. This is my second time getting arrested (the first was for fighting at school) i was wondering what my punishment might be. I have to go to court on the 13th of febuary and i want to know what i should be expecting. I live in florida btw. Thanks !
In many cases, If you steal from a company you would not be allowed to go back to the store.
It really depends on the charges that Walmart decides to press as well as the court.
Likewise, You will be charged with larceny, banned from the store and maybe even slapped with a fine to replace stolen goods. ( $280 ) If you are charged it will show up on your record. To get something expunged you have to wait 5 years from the date of your charges. Basically, If they decide to go through with the charges and you've got that slapped on your record....Your screwed job wise :/
Considering it your second time getting arrested you might get community service, However again this all depends on the Judge. Now a word of advice: Stay out of trouble, I've also done some real stupid shit in the past and it seriously isn't worth it.
Okay, me and this guy he is 15 im 13 and im really confused he broke up wit me in august and it is now jan, he keeps calling me saying he loves me and i'm beautiful then he tells me about some other girls how they are beautiful he tells me everything them i tell him to go for them and then he says something bad about them now, i do not want to go out with him cause he has a girlfriend he always calls me and telling me that him and his girlfriend are not working out.. okay now get this he told me not to tell anyone about our conversations and stuff and my friend invited him to go to the movies with me and her and he tells her it would be to awkward... i remember asking him if he wanted to hangout and he said at your house? i said yeah sure and he said alright , now don't think i'm just stupid i no whats going on i just need to no your opinion and 1 more thing since he didn't wanna go to the movies with me i went with some other guy and now , he is all booty hurt and mad ? i don't get it tell me what i should do!! please
Agree with Solid
RUN and RUN fast
The guy isn't interested in you, He is obviously flat out lying right though his teeth and his "We are not working out line" is a way of manipulation.
Guess what, The guy is willing to cheat on his girlfriend......What the hell makes you think you even stand a chance even if he were single? For one the guy IS IN A RELATIONSHIP even if he insist the relationship isn't working out. Guess what, He is 99% of the time lying to you. Don't let yourself be sucked into his twisted game, You do not owe it too yourself to be a doormat because that is exactly what the guys intentions are.
You are not stupid, Simple truth; You are a young teenager and most young teenagers are vulnerable and will believe almost anything.
The guy is playing a game and is sucking you right into it. A guy that wants to be with you should be a guy that is available and respects you. Not someone that is waiting for your permission to use you as a doormat. You are only stupid if you allow yourself to be, Don't let him manipulate you
Also think about it for a second "Secret Girlfriend" Why else do you think he wants to keep you a secret?....He wants to use you. He doesn't want his girlfriend to know that he is thinking about cheating on her. You are not a booty call
The guy is a loser, Cut all contact and stay away from him