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14/female.
Okay, so I've been dating my girlfriend for two months now (going on 3) and I really love her to death. But there's this guy that I really like, and I've known longer than her. He know's I have a girlfriend, but we result in fooling around all the time. I don't know what to do. It feels wrong, but he's so caring. She's so sweet and wild. I don't know what to do about this, or who to be with. Not to mention, the other night, I was having some problems, and he sweetly walked me through getting over it. Then I slipped up, and said I love you to him. I felt horrible after, and cried for an hour. So can anyone help me out with what I'm going through? Anyone with the same case? It'd be nice to know I'm not alone. (link)
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Of course hes okay with it. Hes getting what
he wants. Keep in mind taking you from your
girlfriend may make him feel like a real
stud. There are guys like that out there.
Sounds like you have feelings for both
but no real loyalty to either. You need
to let both know that you are not exclusive
to either and just date both until you know
for sure what you want. There is nothing
wrong with doing that. :)
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14/f. My friend with benefits, Brandon, is telling me he loves me. Yet the reason why Brandon is a friend with benefits is because he has a gf. But it gets better! I figured out why he was telling me he loved me. He was telling me it so he could get into my pants. I was really pissed off at him after that. But Brandon is 16 and, as I said before, I am 14. But the question is, should I talk to him anymore? And am I just the girl on the side that whenever he isn't getting what he wants from his gf, he looks to me? I mean, I am a virgin and I am really afraid of losing my virginity, and Brandon knows this. So why does he keep on trying to take away from me? I am really confused, can someone help me? (link)
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You're not confused. You have him all figured
out! Friends with benefits is never a good
idea. If you are good enough to have benefits
with you should be good enough to be the
girlfriend. Saying I love you is easy. He
will need to prove that by being exclusive
to you only. Until he does that it should
be hand off for him where you are concerned. :)
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Let's face it; some of us are just NOT meant for school. I know that it's both extremely difficult and statistically proven that it's harder to make a living without a bachelor's degree at the least, but it IS possible.
My question is, what are your options after high school, besides college?
I know of joining the army or navy, beauty school, but what else is there?
By the way. I AM in college right now, but looking at other options seriously. (link)
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You can gt EMT certified with a semester
of classes. Paramedic with an intense one
year training.
Neither are high paying jobs but they can
help get you jobs in hospitals or doctors
offices. Both places will earn you a good
living. :)
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15, f
So, i've been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now. He's great and i've never been in such a good relationship. The only thing is he refuses to show ANY- and i mean ANY signs of public affection. He won't let me show pictures of us, He won't hold my hand if anyone else is around and he doesn't act like we're a couple. I know he likes me a lot and he's not ashamed of me, but i don't know what to do about it. I don't want to pretend like we're not a couple. (link)
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You need to talk to him and see why he
is acting this way. I can understand
not wanting to be hanging all over
someone in public but holding hands
isn't a big deal.
Since he doesn't even want you showing
pictures, my guess is he is hiding
your relationship from someone. Perhaps
his parents who may not want him dating.
That could be embarrassing for him to
tell you about, so ask straight out.
If that isn't the problem then you may
want to reevaluate your relationship
with him. He isn't likely to change. :)
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haha, except...i dont wanna show up outta no where. never know with him..should i call? heh (link)
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Can't hurt to call. Of course, he can then make up excuses why he doesn't want to see you. :)
If you don't want to just pop in on him then do call.
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How do you get help for someone who will not get help? (link)
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You really can't do much more than encourage
them to get help for themselves. If the person
needing help is an adult.
If it is a minor person and you aren't the
parent you should talk to the parent. If you
are the one needing help and are underage,
talk to your parents.
An adult can be helped, or held for 24 hour
observation if it is felt they could do harm
to themselves or others. In that case police
and/or emergency personnel would have to be
called. If mental health workers then determine
they could do harm to themselves or others a
court order for treatment could be issued.
Other than that there is nothing you can do to really help them.
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Hi. my hair ALWAYS gets all frizzy and tangled and i dont have any detangler! my hairbrush is like ripping out my hair cuz it has soooo many knots! any ideas on how to detangle it and take away the frizz? thanks!
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Boy do I know about this! I have considered
chopping mine off because of it. :)
Anyway, what I do is, while in the shower
I load it with conditioner. I then brush it
out while in the shower while conditioner is
still on it. Then I dry it when I get out and
brush it again. Brushing my hair while dry
really causes frizzes that are hilarious.
Big old frizzy hair!
I don't shampoo it everyday because thats
not good for your hair. You can condition
it everyday though even without shampooing.
Works for me, hope it will work for you
too. :)
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My (ex) best friend doesnt like me buause she thinks i changed and that im not the old person i was and i still want to be friends with her but she doesnt what do i do ?????
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Well of course you have changed. Everybody
is changing all the time.
Some people don't like change. There isn't
a lot you can do about it. You don't give
your age, but a lot of things change you
when you are a teen. You start forming your
own opinions about things, its normal and
good. :)
Given time your ex best friend will probably
realize this on her own. It can't hurt to
talk to her about it though, if she will.
She will change too. Find out what change
it is that she don't like. You shouldn't
go out of your way to change yourself for
her benefit, (unless it is something bad),
but at least you will know what it is.
If after talking she still doesn't want
to be friends, then you will make new ones.
This attitude of hers may just be one
of her changes that you don't like.
Good luck, hope shes your friend again
soon.
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what is douching?? SO lost!
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From dictionary...
World of the Body: douche
A douche is a stream of water or other liquid directed at the body or into one of its orifices; in French it is simply a shower. Douching in English usage usually refers to washing out the vagina, both for hygienic purposes, especially when there is an infection, and after sexual intercourse, although the procedure has little contraceptive effect. The use of chemical substances such as deodorants or detergents can cause local irritation, and the use of excessive pressure can force liquid, contaminated with vaginal organisms, into the uterus and Fallopian tubes and hence into the peritoneal cavity, where damage and infection can result. Excessive douching, which removes the vagina's normal, beneficial microorganisms, can also be dangerous.
The term has also been applied to washing out the rectum or colon — by enema or colonic irrigation.
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soooo...i was looking around facebook..and those status things and crap, i was on one of his best friends page and his status said "going to the movies, chillen with nick and caleb, staying over nick's" that was on thursday.. it got me a bit pissed...but whatever. i was listening to my ipod thursday night/early friday trying to sleep and "somebody's me by enrique iglesias was on..and it reminded me so much of him..so i printed it out the lyrics..and mailed them to him. bah. (that was after i found the status thing but whatever) and yeah.. my mom was in the store today, and saw this rice krispie thing i was gonna get him except she told me to wait and we would come back for it..so that was like 2 weeks ago.. so we saw it today and we got it..and i have to find a way to give it to him.. since im still being way too nice..and i planned to give him this thing like 3 weeks ago and cha.. i couldnt let it slide..so yeah.. i never told my mom that he wants me to drift from him..im scared to.. i feel like a puppy and he's the owner, i was trained not to pee inside..but i do it anyways..so when he gets upset then he kicks me out,..and when i get to the next block..he comes running back with the leash to take me back..and instead of running faster..he catches up, and puts the leash on me..and i cant get away.. wonderful similarity eh? anyways yeah.. i havent talked to him since wednesday night.. i guess thats a good sign, i want to talk to him badly just for the hell of it.. erhh whatever. -_-
i realized im too nice..and im too much in love...and that i know he has a really bad negative side to him...and i still love him.. heh :-\ ive known him for almost an year and half next saturday.. oh em gee. :-X haha. (link)
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Just go over to his house and give it to
him. If he is in a bad mood leave. Maybe you
will catch him in a good mood. You won't
know until you try. :)
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I seriously think I have a Yeast Infection. I'm 14, female of course. I looked up symtoms, and like I have like a lot of discharge and it smells like wine kind of? Its really weird. And it itches, not bad, but like a little bit for like a couple minuets then it goes away. I'm so scared to tell my mom. And like, I don't know. I don't really want to go to a doctor and have them "look" at it. Are there health risks to getting Vagasill and stuff? Ugh, I don't know what to do. It just itches sometimes, theres pretty fair amount of discharge, and it smells kind of strong. (link)
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You can try monostat or other over the counter
treatments but it may not clear it up. Other
vaginal infections can have the same symptoms.
The best treatment is to see your doctor.
Yeast infections are not at all uncommon.
They are uncomfortable and will not get
better without treatment.
While they are NOT caused by sexual activity,
they can be spread by sexual activity. Since
you didn't give you age I will caution you
not to have sex while you have a yeast
infection. Men can get them too.
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my boyfriend just broke up with me
we never see eachother because we live in different states
but i loved him. and i still do
i knew it was coming too, but it still hit me pretty hard
he just wasnt acting like a boyfriend anymore
and i told him stuff last night bout our relationship and how i felt about what hes doing to it and he was crying for a while and i tohught it was cute
and hes just like i love you soo much and i never wanna lose you
and then i told him id call him when i got home tonight
and he never answered. i called like like a billion times and then he finally calls at like 3:00 and hes like we cant be together anymore
btu hes like we can still be reallyeally good friends
i just have been getting alot of crap from people (i have too but if he really loved me that much he would stay with me and forget waht people have to say. its a relationship between us too. not the whole world)
and he said i dont know what to do right now i think we should just have a break. but i think he just said that to make me feel a little better.
ive been crying and i dont know waht to do.
i wanna talk to him
but idk what to say.
helpppp! (link)
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I'm sorry you're so sad. It will take
a while to get over it but just hang
in there.
You're not in a place where you can
see it yet but this is probably for
the best. Life has to be lived in the
now and just typing or talking to a
guy online while life goes on around
you isn't a healthy relationship.
He is wanting to actually date someone,
go places and do things. He can't do that
online and neither can you. Your paths
might cross again someday, you never no.
For now though, its probably best you
just be friends.
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I've been thinking about getting a pet — something extremely low maintenance. Already dead would be ideal. Where should I look? (link)
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If its already dead you're looking for,
how about a nice stuffed animal. :)
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Okay i feel weird asking this but none of my friends can help so heres the sitch....
I am almost 16 * 2 months and six days* My real dad left when i was 3 and i havent had contact with him or his family since, now affter 13 years his mom * my grandma i guess* finds me on myspace and wants to be my friend and wants me to call her and stuff. I kinda want to but i dont know if i should since they didnt want to be part of my life for so long. SO yeah what would you do if you were me??? (link)
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Everyone has a story. I think you should
hear them out. Not for them but for you.
It probably won't have a happy ending,
but, if you don't you will always wonder.
So listen to what she has to say. Don't
be rude, if you don't like her, you don't
have to have a close relationship or
anything. There are always at LEAST two
sides to every story.
Good luck with it. :)
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I have a very good friend of mine who I haven't known very long but we have bonded like no other. We both have problembs in our lives but his our way too serious for me to give any real advice. I know he wants my help whenever I look in his eyes. He's basicly telling me to help him every time we talk, but he's scared. He was recintly in a mental Hospital for attempting. I need to help him on my own though because He will never forgive me if I tell his parents or anyone else, but I would rather lose this friendship and save his life then sit here and watch him die, knowing that I could have helped. His newest thing to do is ?coridicin? aka CCC's, a coughing med. He's been taking about 29-32 every weekend and he has been in intensive care from overdoseing once. If that won't teach him that he can't controll rather he dies or lives idk what will. He makes me an empty promise every time he trips, he always tells me he promises he wont die.Why doesn't he see he isn't playing a game anymore? I want to tell him that I care for him and I know he likes me more then a friend, but I can't love somone more then this when they risk braking my heart and ending their life every weekend. I just want to save him. Please help me.
if you have msn messenger plz add me mirandaskye89@msn.com
female, 16. (link)
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Unfortunately the only one who can save
an addict is the addict. It is not easy.
He cares for you but loves being high much
more.
There is a lot of heartache ahead for you
if you continue in this relationship. Its
unhealthy for you to waste your young years
hoping for a decent relationship with this
guy. I know you care for him but best advice
is for you to move on with your life. Wish him
the best and hope he gets a handle on it before
its to late.
By all means express your concerns to his
parents. If he spends time in mental
hospitals and ICUs then they probably
already know. Like you, they can't do a lot
to fix someone that won't help his self.
Until he does, you are better off without
him. You will make up your own mind about
what to do but that is my advice.
Good luck.
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14/f
Okay. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a few weeks now. Up until now, he's only met my parents but this Saturday I'm going to a cook-out party with his family. I really want to make a good impression. He is my first boyfriend so I have no experience in this. Besides being polite do you have any advice on how to impress his parents? (link)
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Heres a parents view!
Be yourself, don't try to impress.
Be polite and respectful. You'll
do fine. :)
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on April 22 i got my first Depo shot which is effective for three months i went in to get my second one of July 1. Today, me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom and i was wondering if i should still be covered? Also, i don't remember how long the doctor said that it takes for the Depo shot to become effective, so anyone who could tell me thank you.
PS- no opinions please just facts thank you ! (link)
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You only have to wait for it to get into
your system after the first shot. From
now on as long as you get your shots on
time you are covered. :)
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he faked a suicide attempt to see if she still cared.
gave me this whole big speech. on how it's his fault im hurt.
"i love him, he's upset so i become upset, its a chain reaction." as he he says, he seems to be the only one to understand my pain i can not control. he wants to be left alone. i gave him my final words, of luck and that if he can make it out of alive then my hand will be there for him waiting, i told him i loved him. and no matter who he once was or what he now became..i still loved him. i gave him my best wishes, i cried as i texted him those final last words, my eyes got blurry were i was seeing double as i texted him as i cried. i slept the day away..i felt sick to my stomach and barely ate anything. my mom told me i shouldnt tie myself in knots because he isnt sitting their worrying whether or not im worrying about him..and he is..we got into an arguement all sunday at the party because i couldnt have fun..he told me not to care and not to worry..it was impossible and he was getting upset with me, because i just cant walk away and act like i dont care. now all i can do is sit back and wait, hope that he can recover from this..and makes it out alive. he wishes he had a time machine to go back and make things perfect, he knows if he wasnt like this right now id be smiling and laughing..and id be proving people wrong about him, instead im sitting here in tears and in pain. he seems to be the only one to understand..but now..i dont know what to do. all i have is to sit back and wait for him to come around and recover from this, he wishes he hadnt made her his everything..i dont know what to do..hes the only one who understands my pain..and i really hope he comes outta this alive. :-\ (link)
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You need to try and move on. He may enjoy
you feeling bad for him, the attention it
is getting him. Try to go out and have some
fun. He will come around when hes over it,
In the meantime don't waste your life being
miserable. It may even light a fire under
his ass.
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so i asked this question to people on another site and i just wanted to see what other people thought..
I like this this guy who's 16 and he likes me, and everyone says we would be the cutest couple and he's so nice and sweet and i like everything about him, except one major thing.. he's a drug addict i don't think theres any drug he hasn't tried he doesn't do a lot of the drugs he use to because he went to rehab, as of now i know he does, heroine, acid, opium, and pot.. everyone judges him and its not fair they think he's some horrible guy because he does this but .. he really isn't and i know he cares a lot about me and i guess nobody would understand it, i just like everything about him besides the drugs he does and hes just ah i can't explain it i just wish people knew him like i do.. and the sad thing is his parents supply him with most of these drugs.. and i wouldn't have a problem if he wasn't doing heroine because the whole 'aids' thing .. and i don't know if i should sleep with him but i really like him a lot..and ive known him for several years and he's 16 and so am i.. what do other people think? what would you do if you where in my position? (link)
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He probably is a nice person, but one with
big time problems. Problems that aren't
easy to quit and problems that can easily
take over his life.
I wouldn't date him, nor can I advise you
to with good conscious. Drugs especially
heroin, which is very hard to stop, ruin
peoples life. People will do anything to
get it when run out. Commit crimes, and
hurt those they like/love for a couple
of examples.
Now you can fool yourself into thinking
"He would never do that", but the reality
is if he wants a fix and doesn't have one
he will.
The everyday problems with dating him
wouldn't be so easy to handle either.
If he drives you shouldn't be in the car
with him. Ever. He has no money so he can't
take you anywhere. If hes lucky enough to
have a job it won't last long. If he doesn't
have a job, he will not be hired by anyone
that could give him a decent job, they drug
test almost everyone these days. Heroin is
his lover and will always come first in
his life. You may not have seen this yet
but you will. Your friends won't like him
for long. Your parents will hate him.
Aids and hepatitis are both concerns.
I wouldn't date him OR have sex with him
until he stopped all drugs. I'm really
afraid if you asked him to make the choice
between you or drugs...drugs would win right
now. Don't hold out for a future with this
guy until that priority changes.
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i was just curious how bad it hurts when u get a tattoo? (link)
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An acquaintance who has many tattoos and
who is himself a tattoo artist was asked
this recently.
He answered are you a smoker? Or have you
ever had a hot ash drop on your skin? Its
kind of like that. A bit of a sting. :)
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