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best friend, heroine..
so i asked this question to people on another site and i just wanted to see what other people thought..
I like this this guy who's 16 and he likes me, and everyone says we would be the cutest couple and he's so nice and sweet and i like everything about him, except one major thing.. he's a drug addict i don't think theres any drug he hasn't tried he doesn't do a lot of the drugs he use to because he went to rehab, as of now i know he does, heroine, acid, opium, and pot.. everyone judges him and its not fair they think he's some horrible guy because he does this but .. he really isn't and i know he cares a lot about me and i guess nobody would understand it, i just like everything about him besides the drugs he does and hes just ah i can't explain it i just wish people knew him like i do.. and the sad thing is his parents supply him with most of these drugs.. and i wouldn't have a problem if he wasn't doing heroine because the whole 'aids' thing .. and i don't know if i should sleep with him but i really like him a lot..and ive known him for several years and he's 16 and so am i.. what do other people think? what would you do if you where in my position?
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He probably is a nice person, but one with
big time problems. Problems that aren't
easy to quit and problems that can easily
take over his life.
I wouldn't date him, nor can I advise you
to with good conscious. Drugs especially
heroin, which is very hard to stop, ruin
peoples life. People will do anything to
get it when run out. Commit crimes, and
hurt those they like/love for a couple
of examples.
Now you can fool yourself into thinking
"He would never do that", but the reality
is if he wants a fix and doesn't have one
he will.
The everyday problems with dating him
wouldn't be so easy to handle either.
If he drives you shouldn't be in the car
with him. Ever. He has no money so he can't
take you anywhere. If hes lucky enough to
have a job it won't last long. If he doesn't
have a job, he will not be hired by anyone
that could give him a decent job, they drug
test almost everyone these days. Heroin is
his lover and will always come first in
his life. You may not have seen this yet
but you will. Your friends won't like him
for long. Your parents will hate him.
Aids and hepatitis are both concerns.
I wouldn't date him OR have sex with him
until he stopped all drugs. I'm really
afraid if you asked him to make the choice
between you or drugs...drugs would win right
now. Don't hold out for a future with this
guy until that priority changes.
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Personally, I believe that it's a bad idea to get involved with someone who does drugs. Eventually, an addiction will get in the way of a relationship anyhow. For now he may seem okay, but the effects of drugs obviously aren't showing up just yet. Although seems alright now, you never know what to expect in the long run. So, you may be a cute couple now, but in a few years.. who knows. And my advice is, DON'T sleep with a guy that you know has aids. Get him something for it.. whatever happens, just don't give yourself aids. It's really not worth it. Honestly, I don't believe that you should date him. I think he sounds like a nice guy, but drug addicts just don't make good boyfriends. Keep him as a friend unless he can lay off of the drugs a little bit.
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It doesn't make him a bad guy. He's just making bad choices for himself. Yah, pretty sad that his own parents are his supply.
I'm not going to tell you what to do. If you like the guy that much, perhaps trying to get him to see that taking drugs is sort of a slow suicide. Perhaps he will stop. Then again, perhaps he won't. That's on him to want to see the problem and WANT to quit.
I will say that if he is using needles, I'd be leery about having sex with the guy. Why? One in four U.S. teens have STDs. ONE in FOUR. That includes AIDS and anything else one can pass to another by means of needle sharing.
My strongest bit of advice is don't have sex with him unless he has himself tested for diseases and SHOWS you the proof that he's clean.
I'm not saying that to be a jerk, or to rank on him. I'm not saying that he's got AIDS. I'm saying it because it's the best way for you to make sure YOU are protected from something that will effect you for the rest of your life if you get it from him.
If he's using needles, he's a high risk candidate.
ygs-30/f
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Believe it or not a lot of folks who use drugs are actually good people inside. Any one who hasn't had an addiction or seen some one they love go through an addiction can't possible understand what it is like. It can be so powerful at times that you neglect those you love around you and even neglect your basic needs of survival such as food and shelter. You can even loose your self respect and would do unspeakable acts you wouldn't normally do, such as prostitution.
I'm not going to sit here and tell you what you should or shouldn't do. But what I will tell you is be strong because if you love the guy you'll definitely go through heartache watching him slowly kill himself but learn to keep enough distance that you don't wear you self out emotionally. It doesn't make you a bad person if you decide to move on either. Obviously you see something in him worth your effort.
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