about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

Do you miss anything, or anyone from your past and regret things happening?

I don't think I regret anything. I may wish I had done a few things differently back then, but they've made me who I am today so I really shouldn't complain. There's no use regretting what's already done & can't be changed.

So no, I don't regret anything. Regretting takes away happiness. Playback is a waste.

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I have to go to the gynecologist soon. I need to decide whether i want a boy doctor or a girl doctor. What kind of doctor should i go see? I'm seventeen and this is my first time going to one.

You need to decide which gender you're more comfortable with. You have to realize that they're going to be looking into your vagina.

The decision is yours, but I personally would prefer a female. You have the same thing as her so it wouldn't be uncomfortable at all. They're both going to be doing the same things, but you need to decide which gender you prefer.

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I am 13 and want to have sex with my girlfriend. She said that she is ready. Should I do it. And it is legal i searched it, the legal age is 13. Should Ii avoid the vagina because of STD's. Please Help!!!!!!!

You shouldn't have sex at all. No matter how 'ready' you think you are, you're wrong. Sex is an adult decision that comes with adult consequences. You are in no way an adult.

Sex can bring on a lot of complications such as pregnancy or STDs & AIDS if you're not careful. Your partner and yourself may be virgins, but there is always a chance that either of you can have an STD or AIDS through birth.

If you're not ready for a child or a sexually transmitted disease, you should probably refrain from sex. You're a child yourself and shouldn't be thinking about having sex anyways. This is a stupid idea and I wouldn't go through with it if I were you. Sex is to be between people who love each other, and I can guarantee that if you decide to go through with this, you'll regret it almost 100% after & you'll wish that you waited.

So grow up & wait. Sex shouldn't be rushed, especially when you're 13. Besides, you have plenty of time to have sex. Why don't you worry about school & yourself first? There's no need to rush to grow up.

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Is it bad to do stuff with family members...brothers, cousins, etc.

Yeah. Doing anything with family is incest & it's not only illegal, but it's also pretty disgusting & frowned upon. :(

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I have heard that the high fructose corn syrup is extremely unhealthy for us to eat. I was wondering if regular corn syrup is not as bad, or is just plain corn syrup actually the same thing?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Corn_syrup

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High_fructose_corn_syrup

You can read up on the differences. Also:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EEbRxTOyGf0

&

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVsgXPt564Q&feature=related

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hi ive been liking a girl that i known since the 6th grade now im in the 8th grade and im wondering how to make her fall in love with her me and her have been very good friends since then but i want to be more than friends with her.
what should i do?

You can't make someone love you. Life doesn't work that way. You need to hang out with her or take her out places. Tell her that you like her.

You'll never know how she feels until you tell her how you feel. However, if she doesn't like you, it isn't the end of the world. There are a ton of other girls out there. For now though, just hang out & when the time is right, let her know how you feel about her. :)

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Okay well im a young kid, so i really dont like my green vegtables. my mom says i will like them when im older, but i just dont know! i dont even like seafood. is there something wrong with me?! please hellpp!

There's nothing wrong with you. I don't like the majority of vegetables either. I really only like corn & peas, if it's anything else I won't touch it. I don't like seafood either, so you're not alone.

It's just preference. Your taste buds change like every seven years though so maybe you'll outgrow that & like some of those things when you're older. But for now I wouldn't worry because it's completely normal.

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What can I do to have more energy

Get more sleep, exercise, drink an energy drink..

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16/f, boyfriend is 17/m.
he's in this backyard wrestling federation, and i'll admit, he is VERY good at what he does. we live in Indiana, and he's been to Illinois, Ohio, Michigan, Tennessee, and Wisconsin to wrestle. in a week he's going to Pittsburgh to be in some other federation's show.

all things aside, he likes himself more than he likes me. his ego is..huge. he's cocky, yet confident, he's good at everything he does, and he knows it. i know he likes me, a lot a lot, but i don't like the fact that he puts himself before me. we've been together for almost two months, and it just hit me a few days ago. we were in his room, getting ready to go out on a date. i was looking in the mirror to see if i looked okay, and he said "Daaayum". thinking he was talking about me, i laughed and said "you like?". i turned around to see himself admiring his arms, not me.

i don't know what to do. do i fall into his shadow and appreciate that he's even with me, or what?

please help/

Break up with him. My last ex was like this, but with his car. He drove a Honda Civic so why he thought he was the shit was beyond me. He wasn't good looking, his car was too common for words, and he was annoying. "Omg, my car is so hot, oh man, look how nice my car is."

Good thing we only dated for a few weeks.

Your boyfriend is way too into himself, and you need someone new. There is no reason why your boyfriend should be more into himself than into you. You deserve some of the attention too. Honestly, break up. It's really annoying to have to go through that.

Besides, if he's so into himself, why doesn't he just date himself? Honestly, he's too conceited to be with anyone.

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josh decided he would choose between me and kelsey but he would need a couple days because he liked us both. i finally talked to him and he said he was sticking with kelsey...so once again he led me on and broke my heart! its so hard to find the right boy, should i just give up on him?

I don't even understand why you got in the middle of it anyways. Obviously he liked her more... He was dating her.

You cannot get in the middle of people's relationships because it's only gonna leave you fucked over and looking stupid.

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What are your top 5 favorite songs? I'm looking for new music to try :)

Song on the left, band on the right. Right now:

Homecoming - Hey Monday
Stuttering - The Friday Night Boys
Piggy Bank Lies - Emery
The Downfall Of Us All - A Day To Remember
Weightless - All Time Low

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My brother really likes Snoop Dogg and I thought I might buy him some albums or something for him since his birthday is coming up. I figured I might buy something from his rap group, too (if he is actually in one of these band type things), but then I got to thinking...is he in a rap group type thing or is is strictly solo?

Eminem is in D12
50 Cent is in G Unit
Dr. Dre is in NWA
Snoop Dogg is in ???

Snoop Dogg is by himself. He isn't a part of any type of group.

So, he's strictly solo!

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I am so scared! My mom just was diagnosed with anemia which is loss of red blood cells or something like that and she is going to get more blood tests done. I was reading some causes of anemia and one of them listed on a website was cancer. Do you think my mom has cancer if she has anemia? I mean, is it a rare thing that anemia comes from cancer or is it very, very common to be anemic because you have cancer? Confused.

Anemia is caused by not having enough iron in the blood so you tend to be cold, and sleepy a lot. It can be caused by cancer, but I think your mom should be okay.

My mom has anemia too. It's more common in women mainly because of our menstrual cycles and such. It's a pretty common thing so I wouldn't worry too much. I'm pretty sure your mother will be okay. Don't read too much into websites because they'll only scare you and make you paranoid. If you want a site with the facts, go to WebMD.

http://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/understanding-anemia-basics

There you go. Read up on it. It should clear up a few things. The more you know.. :)

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I went to WalMart to buy the Sims 3 but they were completely sold out and I asked the electronics guy in Walmart and he said he wasn't sure when they were going to be getting them back in! :\

So, where can buy the Sims 3 game for the PC? I want it sooo bad but I don't know any other places that might have it other than WalMart! :(

Any suggestion is appreciated, even if it's just specific websites that are trustworthy. I've never ordered from online before but if no store had them I guess I would have to, right? I don't know...help!

You can get it at the video game stores around town.

Try stores like:

EB Games
Game Stop
Planet X

I went to Planet X the other day at the mall near my house & they were stocked on it. It's about $50. If you can find the Sims 3 on Wal-Mart's website, you can have it shipped to the store so that you can pick it up & purchase it, but that takes a little while, so I would recommend just going to a game store at the mall or something. :)

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My boyfriend and i broke up.
we broke up on sunday and it was really weird how he explained it. We broke up because his mom thought we were geting to close. He said that we could still be friends, hang out., adn go on dates. He said that we could still do everything we were doing whenever we were dating but we aren't going to be dating. He still tells me he loves me and calls me babe. BUT! he hasn't called me in 2 days nothing at all. idk what to do. he broke my heart but i still want to be his friend but not with benifits im not a slut..

I think you're doing the right thing. Explain to him that you don't want to do the whole friends with benefits thing. If you're not going to be dating, then there's no need to act like you're still dating. Stay friends & that's it. Friends with benefits can make things really complicated & it gets annoying.

Friends with benefits is a bad idea anyways. It usually doesn't work. The idea is for it to be fun and harmless, but somewhere along the lines someone develops feelings & then it gets awkward - especially if the other person doesn't feel the same way.

If your ex-boyfriend cannot accept the fact that you do not want to be friends with benefits, then he clearly isn't meant to be your friend either. But, if he really loves you & wants the best for you & for you to be happy, he'll understand & won't push anything you don't want on you.

Good luck. :) Sorry about the break-up.

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alright. i think that i was sexually abused by my dad. ive heard that when youre younger you can block out bad memories without knowin that you did.
i remember certain things, like him stickin his tongue in my mouth when i kissed him. and i didnt think it was bad so when i kissed my mom i did that and she was like 'dont ever do that!'
and he told my mom 'wow her boobs are gettin big!'
and he'd also come in to the bathroom while i was takin a bath until i was 8 or 9
ever since i was maybe 4 or 5 my vagina lips have been pretty stretched out, and i have no idea why.
so my parents got divorced for their own reasons, and i was always scared to be with older men even with friends (like my youth group leaders from church or other friends dads) and i could never find a reason why.

plus, when i saw my dad for the first time in a year recently he was like 'wow youre hot, but im just an old man to you.'

i finally got in touch with my half sister from his side that i havent talked to in years. and i asked her what he was like with her, and since her mom and my dad got divorced she doesnt remember livin with him but she said, 'i visited him sometimes, but i think that that story should be left between him and i...'

and she hasnt messaged me back yet. and now shes a lesbian.

does it sound like i was sexually abused as a child? because for some reason i really feel like i have been

Yeah. I believe you were sexually abused.

Dads kissing their daughter with tongue is not okay. Dads coming into the bathroom while they're kids are bathing is not okay (unless they're a baby and cannot bathe themselves). Your dad commenting on the size of your chest is not okay. And your dad calling you hot - that's not okay either. That's disgusting & wrong on so many levels.

As for your vagina, it could be normal because every vagina is different in looks and size, but you never know. I really think you need to talk to your mother about this. :( Try and see if she can get you a counselor or something, because this is obviously wearing down on you, and you need help so that you can become okay again. Nothing is wrong with you personally, don't take it the wrong way. It's just that your mentality of men is thrown off because of what a pig your father is. See a counselor sweetheart.

So yes, I do believe you were sexually abused by your father. I'm really sorry this happened to you, and I hope that you get the help that you need. Good luck.

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what is the purpose of underwear for guys and girls?

Are you a nudist wondering what clothes are like?

It's just comfortable, and most people find it gross not to wear them. I don't know, they're just necessary.

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my mother is constantly talking about my father and me because now she knows we talked after he malested me ....my dad says that i can runaway and come live with him but i am scared but on the other hand i want to get away from my motyher although i love her ahe is a pain in the a@! so im not sure if i should goim torn i have not seen my dad in almost three years and since i have not seen him i have not seen my brothers or sisters tell me what i should do please
Before i lose my mind!!!!!!

Why would you run back to someone who molested you? Whether he's your father or not, that's a really stupid idea.

He's done it before, and I would bet my life that he'll do it again. And what he's doing is illegal anyways. Asking you to run away? No. If he wants you in his life and in his custody, he has to fight for you through the court system.

Your mom may be a pain in the ass, but she's worth living with so that you're protected and safe. The obvious choice would be to stay with her rather than to go to your dad's so he can get in your pants again.

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will a yeast infection go away on its own

They can, but they really shouldn't be left untreated.

I would see a doctor and see what they recommend, but there's stuff you can buy over the counter in the feminine aisle. :)

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This is going to sound a little stupid probably, but my boyfriend has lied to me about something small and now it's totally made me wonder if I can really trust him.

Basically, he told me that he couldn't really afford to go crazy and all-out on our one year anniversary day, which I was completely fine with, but then he kept going on about wanting to buy this Playstation 3 game that was something like $70. Anyway, I found out that he bought it a couple of days ago, but he told me it was only $10 because he had traded in some games at the same time; however, he accidentally left the receipt for it in the living room, which showed that this was not the actual case--that he had actually paid full price for the Playstation 3 game.

Now, before you think I'm crazy or something, my boyfriend and I have had problems in the past and have been working on getting our trust back for each other. (He had a wild night out with the boys once that totally crushed our relationship for awhile) It bothers me that he couldn't just be honest with me about this, I guess. I mean, it wouldn't have been a big deal at all...why lie?

Do you think I'm overreacting?

Your boyfriend pretty much chose a PS3 over you for your anniversary.

He's an asshole. Tell him to go fuck himself & stay single.

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